Amritvela with a roommate not wanting to inconvenience

[Kira]

2 minutes ago, Sukhvirk1976 said:

I think personal khoj is very important. It is a must for me to dig deep to research and appreciate all sources of knowledge and exegesis and discount any doubts.. I believe guru ji demands this of me.. 

If you have accepted that interpretation then good for you. You may well be right but I'll need to arrive at that position myself. Even if everyone in the world told me that I was wrong until my own intellect resolved it I would be a coward and a sheep to just agree unless I truly believed it 

That's a tad hypocricital. You want to do Personal research but you haven't bothered learning the actual Gurmukhi script? you claim to want to learn but cant be arsed learning from actual experts in the field. Guru Sahib demands Sikhs to follow his teachings to a dot, not go around changing the meanings and manipulating the rehit (not aimed at you).

[Sukhvirk1976]

11 minutes ago, Kira said:

Gurbani is extremely straightforward in Sri Guru Granth Sahib, the language in it is beautiful but simple. Just read it in Gurmukhi

I find Gurbani far from straight forward.. Rather it's poetic nature adds a level of ambiguity unique forcing the reader to look further. Add to that the improvisational characteristics of gurmat sangeet and the nature of truth becomes far more easy to grasp 

[Sukhvirk1976]

3 minutes ago, Kira said:

That's a tad hypocricital. You want to do Personal research but you haven't bothered learning the actual Gurmukhi script? you claim to want to learn but cant be arsed learning from actual experts in the field. Guru Sahib demands Sikhs to follow his teachings to a dot, not go around changing the meanings and manipulating the rehit (not aimed at you).

I think we should just leave it there 

[Singh1989]

On ‎03‎/‎08‎/‎2017 at 4:41 PM, Guest followthelight said:

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

PROBLEM CONTEXT

I am living/ working in a country for a few months where there are no Sikhs, let alone a Gurudwara. I've tried contacting via FB etc, there is no sangat near me. My team is nice, we get along fine. 

I do not at all feel even the slightest temptation to drink alcohol, touch meat (vegertarian options without egg are so scarce here), have relationships with other travellers or remove my body hair (even though it is 50 degrees heat and everyone is wearing singlets and shorts going to the beach). I know this is all Guru Ji's help. 2 years ago I was drinking and vomiting in toilets, having sex with strangers, removing as much body hair as I could and thinking i was a 'spiritual person' I know I've been addicted to alcohol, cannabis, MDMA and the fact I have no desire now isn't something I am capable of- this is Guru Ji's working.

THE PROBLEM

I'm really starting to miss my Amritvela. I used to so freely wake up, shower, do simran and nitnem and not worry. now I have to worry about so many things with my roommate, especially as she sleeps so late. Even though I don't complain of her sleeping late (perhaps I should, tactfully?) she will say things like "I couldn't sleep because I heard your alarm so I've been up since very early." This makes me feel super guilty. 

Extra guilty because I'm so TIRED that I don't even remember hearing the alarm myself or turning it off... I DONT WAKE UP AT AMRITVELA. 

i end up waking up around 5.30-6am so amritvela is long-gone. 

Since my time being here, I've only once had the chance to do amritvela freely, and that is when everyone had gone out drinking/ clubbing for the night and came home late. 

When I do my nitnem I don't say it aloud because she is always in the room (and a different faith so i don't want to ever feel like I'm forcing or invading personal space). But man. I miss doing simran aloud- feeling my throat muscles saying Waheguru and closing my eyes so my ears could hear my body speak Waheguru. Be grateful to Waheguru for allowing my body, my lips to be blessed with the beauty of their Naam. The sweetness in my mouth, the warmth of the love but the cool breeze of peace settling in my head, sinking into my heart...anyway Imma get senti real quick lol. So please. I understand my current situation is resultant of karams from this life and previous. But I want help in improving my new karams that I'm (not) earning every moment. How do I wake up at Amritvela?

Need help with how to 

1. Ask to turn lights off earlier because I can't sleep until ALL lights are off (which doesn't happen till around 11pm)

2. Shower without feeling guilty about making noise and waking her up too early

3. Sing Gurbani aloud. I'm scared I'll get into a bad habit if I keep doing this and become lazy in the future. 

And any other advice you could offer would be highly appreciated 

DO wake up Amritvela do not worry about others. They'll moan for a day or 2 but they'll get over it.

ONLY do Simran loud if no one's present. So far you got kirpa Maharajah will d more kirpa.

[Sukhvirk1976]

On 10/08/2017 at 8:50 PM, Kira said:

That's a tad hypocricital. You want to do Personal research but you haven't bothered learning the actual Gurmukhi script? you claim to want to learn but cant be arsed learning from actual experts in the field. Guru Sahib demands Sikhs to follow his teachings to a dot, not go around changing the meanings and manipulating the rehit (not aimed at you).

I think it's also worth pointing out that the Sikh rehit maryada as officially published is itself a political document and therefore manipulated

[Kira]

34 minutes ago, Sukhvirk1976 said:

I think it's also worth pointing out that the Sikh rehit maryada as officially published is itself a political document and therefore manipulated

I said Rehit not SRM. Rehit referring to the Code of Conduct laid out by Guru Sahib and not the ones changed by SGPC.

[Sukhvirk1976]

1 hour ago, Kira said:

I said Rehit not SRM. Rehit referring to the Code of Conduct laid out by Guru Sahib and not the ones changed by SGPC.

Fair enough. My bad.

So then what were you referring to when you meant rehit.. What do you refer to and use as a measure? You mentioned people manipulating and changing meaning of rehit.. I'm genuinely curious as I find researching source documents very rewarding. 

SSA

[Kira]

1 hour ago, Sukhvirk1976 said:

Fair enough. My bad.

So then what were you referring to when you meant rehit.. What do you refer to and use as a measure? You mentioned people manipulating and changing meaning of rehit.. I'm genuinely curious as I find researching source documents very rewarding. 

SSA

maybe spend less time there and more time going back to the basics.Learn Gurmukhi first and then go after them.

[Sukhvirk1976]

48 minutes ago, Kira said:

maybe spend less time there and more time going back to the basics.Learn Gurmukhi first and then go after them.

I'm always learning Gurmukhi my friend like everything there's always more to learn.. 

But going back to what you said do you actually have a reference point or was that something ethereal? 

[Sukhvirk1976]

50 minutes ago, Kira said:

maybe spend less time there and more time going back to the basics.Learn Gurmukhi first and then go after them.

I'm not sure what you meant about spending 'less time there'?