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I have had a problem with masturbation and porn addiction however recently I have stopped watching porn all together and havnt done for around 2 months but with masturbation I find it difficult and I seem to always get a long streak of not doing it and then a change in routine will throw me off. I really want to take amrit however this is holding me back as I don't want to break my amrit. My largest streak is 31 days so far is there any advice any one can give me as I feel embarrassed to ask the giani at my local gurdwara about this 

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On 28 May 2018 at 10:33 PM, Guest Anom said:

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I have had a problem with masturbation and porn addiction however recently I have stopped watching porn all together and havnt done for around 2 months but with masturbation I find it difficult and I seem to always get a long streak of not doing it and then a change in routine will throw me off. I really want to take amrit however this is holding me back as I don't want to break my amrit. My largest streak is 31 days so far is there any advice any one can give me as I feel embarrassed to ask the giani at my local gurdwara about this 

Try to distract your mind, keep busy all the time and then you'll be too tired to do anything. If your mind gets easily distracted then manage your surroundings. Try to stay away from internet etc. I hope this helped.

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Just do ardaas and as much simran/mool mantar as possible. It’s just energy, energy has to be released when it is built up too much - so don’t put yourself down when it happens, its a natural thing. Don’t battle nature work with it. It means your body/mind enery is focusing on lower chakar, so energy is going there and eventually builds up and has to be released.  Slowly with simran our energy focuses away from lower chakars (i.e sexual level chakar) to higher level chakar (i.e dasam duar). Then we get more control over these things. 

You’re not alone, many people in same situation. God bless us all with power to move our spiritual life higher ??

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On 31 May 2018 at 12:16 AM, Guest Gupat said:

Just do ardaas and as much simran/mool mantar as possible. It’s just energy, energy has to be released when it is built up too much - so don’t put yourself down when it happens, its a natural thing. Don’t battle nature work with it. It means your body/mind enery is focusing on lower chakar, so energy is going there and eventually builds up and has to be released.  Slowly with simran our energy focuses away from lower chakars (i.e sexual level chakar) to higher level chakar (i.e dasam duar). Then we get more control over these things. 

You’re not alone, many people in same situation. God bless us all with power to move our spiritual life higher ??

Wow.. I never thought of that, thats so deep. 

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On 5/28/2018 at 10:33 PM, Guest Anom said:

Wjk wjkf 

I have had a problem with masturbation and porn addiction however recently I have stopped watching porn all together and havnt done for around 2 months but with masturbation I find it difficult and I seem to always get a long streak of not doing it and then a change in routine will throw me off. I really want to take amrit however this is holding me back as I don't want to break my amrit. My largest streak is 31 days so far is there any advice any one can give me as I feel embarrassed to ask the giani at my local gurdwara about this 

Do u feel numb if u dont masterbate? You need to meditate and detatch yourself from external happiness. You are attached to the bodily pleasure. 

If u practice meditation over and over,  you no longer are affected by external things. No external things can change your mind/mental state. Your happiness then is accessible from internal environment and internal concentration (meditation). 

Then once your mind state has reached this level of being free from external influencing internal, then u start reprogramming the sub-conscious mind. This is then making u LITERALLY detached from maya/worldy things on the external. You are no longer affected by ANYTHING that is taken in via giaan indre (eyes, ears, nose, mouth/senses).

At this point the power of the Vikaars are reduced to a small percentage, preventing them from consuming you. YOU are totally aware of all things and can observe thoughs but not be affected by them. Furthermore, you then have the power to choose what you want the mind to do. So you can now convert your vikaars. You can now warp the "attachment" vikar and reprogam it to now be attached to bani/guru. You can then convert kaam (desires) to santokh. And same with the other 3 vikaars to any good quality u want.

Etc etc.

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31 days is quite an achievement lol!   the longest i can normally go on average is around 6 days ?    but the longest i have ever lasted is 9 days.  As of today its been 7 days and i haven't done that!  today in the morning i got a strong urge but it went then later on the day the urge came back but then i started reading this book about Guru Nanak Dev ji and the urge went away i also did some simran and since then the urge is gone.    But i don't know how long i will continue without doing it. I know it's wrong to do it so whenever i give in i feel really low.   i'v stopped watching porn though

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