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VJKK, VJKF!

With Waheguru Ji's kirpa I have been blessed with Amrit recently. I am getting used to the change in my life so far and it's been a great journey, however, I am starting to feel the pressures of marriage. I just turned 25 years old and my family is saying I should start looking now before it's too late, but whenever someone from Sangat introduces me to another Singh, the topic of kes comes up. They want me to break my rehat and shave before marriage. This is something I am not willing to do and never will do, but the pressures of marriage and finding the right life partner is becoming hard. My whole family is not devoted to Sikhi, just a few of us, so it's even more difficult. Another challenge is education. Everyone wants me to find someone with a degree, job and living at home in Canada.

Any advice anyone can give would be great.

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dont give up - ur still young and have enough tym...

just keep focusing on sikhi...u can do ardaas to maharaj and if its written for u on ur forehead then u will find that singh who accepts u...

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In the end, you will be the one living with your spouse. You will need to get along with them, to have similar ideals and goals in life, to live in harmony.

Who asks you to shave? Your family - ignore them. Potential rishtas - avoid them. You want somebody who accepts you for as you are. The only “change” should be the change of being better in your Sikhi, to be closer to the Guru. 

Time is a factor. Some find rishtas quickly. For others, it can take longer to find the right person. That can add pressure because suddenly you’re 30 and still not found anyone. Then you get the added pressure of having children whilst you’re relatively young and healthy. 

Let Maharaj Ji guide you. 

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