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Take up a hobby, a past-time, an individual sport to occupy his mind. Wean him off his dependency on the excessive company of others in an environment that's detrimental to his life goals and objectives. It really isn't that difficult, bhenji, and someone of his apparent level of education shouldn't really have to ask these questions. Loneliness is a state of mind. Nothing more. BTW, frequenting pubs for someone who is actively seeking to give up alcohol is as ludicrous as a pyromaniac (someone who has a compulsion to start fires) loitering around a factory that manufactures matches. It's a recipe for disaster. At this moment in time, OP is relatively young and his health is intact. A few more years and that won't be the case, and he'll go from being a young buck living the life to a sad has-been scrambling around for a drink and a quick fix. Ironically, the cousins and friends he practically lives for will all have settled down by then and be playing happy families as if their 5hit never stank, yet OP will be saddled with various addictions and afflictions, wondering where it all went wrong, giving his mother cause for unnecessary grief. It's a tale that's as old as the hills in Punjabi circles, yet nobody learns. Oh well, the first liver scare or drug-induced heart attack may shake him out of his apathy.

Actually he has received ALL the advice for him to change. What he now needs to go and do is put it into practice. Naamnet is highly recommended for him where he will have to commit to 20 minutes of simran and report to a high avasta Gursikh everyday. How many times has he bothered approaching the Guradwara and yet he wants Sikhi ? Sikhi is working for it, not getting others to do the hard work for you and then rolling it down the hill and coming back asking for more. If he reads his own blog daily, he will get all the advice all over again. We have our own shortcomings to work on too.

I think they're deliberately leading him down a dark path so that he frigs up his life. He needs to toughen up before it's too late. He's proven he can't change his ways with the softly-softly, supportive, conciliatory approach that many of his brothers and sisters on this site offered him, so the next and only approach for someone like that is to get harsh and get real.

You're human, you slipped. Learn appropriate lessons from it. Your social life and past-times are the key to all this. Personally mate, I think you need to tell a fair bit of your family to go and f**k themselves and stay out of your face.

Not always just briefly every now and then sometimes by their western and central Asian neighbors while sometimes being conquered by their Eastern neighbors. It is only the Sikhs who gave dignity and respect to Punjab by unifying it and putting it on the world map during the 1700s and 1800s. We should not be too proud of being slaves of the Persians. Ghulami is Ghulami whether it was under the Persians, Maurians, Guptas, Turks, Mughals, Afghans or the British and now under Delhi Hakoomat. Punjab's self respect is only under Khalsa Raj.

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Jats are not even modern 'Jat culture' ...that's the funny thing ... jats of my bazurgs age would say fitteh muh to the lot of them and beat them to a pulp for looking with malli akk at pariya dhiann. now their kids and grand kids think it is 'modern ' and 'fashionable ' to dress like slappers even over there , shaving their rom off , going to nightclubs , drinking sharab.... that has zero to do with sikhi and zero to do with jat culture where women dressed in full clothes and covered their heads . The most sickening thing is they have a fashion of calling nachan walian to wedding parties who openly dance in inappropriate ways ...Baba Ranjit Singh ji said it and I agree aj kal Sikh weddings even put Massa Ranghar's behaviour on the back burner.

It's good that you feel bad about it. Don't think because you slipped up, that it's ok. I may sound harsh, but Paji its this discipline that is going to help you. You have to not feel sorry for yourself, but admit to God that you messed up and don't hide what you have done, ask for forgiveness from God, not from us or anybody else, as we won't be there when the going gets tough. I understand you are feeling lonely, but that's no excuse to drink or take drugs. The whole world is lonely, nobody belongs to anybody. Nobody will be there for you in bad times, believe me I should know. You should not feel lonely, as you have a good job, you are in this country which offers so much. I've just been to India, and compared to being there, you are in the best place now. Just imagine if you were there, how would you cope. It's no swarg there, probably living hell, if somebody goes through alcohol and drugs problem there. You are very lucky to be born in this country, so don't take it for granted, respect what you have, even if it doesn't feel much. Every soul is here because of their past karam and to jap Naam. You feel lonely now, then what will you feel when the damage of intoxicants will take over your life? God forbid that ever happens, but I know from experience, a member of my family used to drink, I think I told you about it too. And it was very hard to see what they were going through, which also affected tho whole family badly. Take a grip of yourself, and get up now that you have fallen. You need to respect your soul more, stop hurting it, God gave you it to love yourself and to clean your soul through good actions. Enough is enough now, amli na ban, Kuch nai rakhea is cheeja vich. If you are depressed, get professional help. MisterrSingh Paji is right, your cousins will get married, have kids, and they won't be there for you. They won't give a c r a p about you and it's your family who will get the mehne, so why are you giving them the chance for that? Not eating isn't going to make things better, but worse, you have to keep your strength up to live, and to clear your mind from negativity, guide it to goodness. You have to not want to drink yourself, it's got to come from inside you. No matter what we say on here, doesn't make a difference, unless from deep inside your soul you are ready for that change. You think temptation is easy to control, but you got to be harder with your Mann (mind). If one give the Mann is bit of freedom, then it will run like a horse into hell. Hold onto the reigns, otherwise you are going to hurt yourself more, after falling off. And what the hell you doing near pubs, obviously you will get tempted. Keep away from pubs, that will help you.

OP, how much are you sniffing and drinking that it's breaking the bank for you in one night??? Bloody hell mate!

Jagsaw words change meaning over time and redefine themselves according to different cultures and traditions. Is it possible that the original meaning of Nihang was a dragon like sea monster but later on began to mean magarmach. But at the same time one word can mean many different things. Nihang is probably one if those words. Take the example of Shaheed. It has different meanings in arabic and in Islam. Our own Gurus used many words including Shaheed and redefined them in context to Sikhi.

Kesri was never a Khalsa colour. Original nishan sahibs were blue and basanti. Basanti colour is mustard yellow. It seems due to Sanatanists Nirmala influence Basanti colour was replaced by Kesri. As for the khanda. The old nishan Sahibs had shastrs like Katar, Kirpan, Chakar. Later this Khanda symbol was added. A khanda symbol contains three Shastrs which 2 Kirpan representing Miri and Piri, a Chakar and a double edged Khanda which are all traditional shastrs of the Khalsa and so this symbol is parvaan.

Not sure if this video has been posted here but it just gave me a very good idea of the topic of devte and pret.

This video is almost a year old, and it's maker is very clearly insane. It has 229 views. Why are you always wasting your time drawing attention to the 'beadbi' of Sikhism by complete NOBODIES committed some time ago? What are we supposed to do about it eight months later? This warrants no concern at all.