Singh1989

Yes. 100% correct. Bhai Mardana was terrified on seeing Kaljug but Guru Nanak told him t stay calm. Kaljug was impressed upon meeting Guru Ji. Guru Ji ordered him to stay away from Sangat. "No way. I'll go n eat Prasad in Sangat." But Guru Ji insisted "Go in Gurudwara but do not go beyond the shoes of Sangat" (where sangat take off shoes). I may be wrong but I think Dharmraaj and Satan are the same. But Dharamraaj punishes sinners and Satan entices sins.

100% hearsay. Only if you're living on own or plus 18 go for Amrit. Your fam will make it extra difficult for u, otherwise. They'll make u feel crap u ever took Amrit. There is nothing wrong with risidue wha so eva.

Right! Am going from 1989 to 1949... Right, where's my retirement?? As for books, I guess that Nostradamus guy who predicted the future?? Then again his writing's kinda like cold writing. Written in riddles kind of... Pull out any of his writing it can coincide with future but thas the thing... Just coincides! I heard Sau Sakhi has future written in it but not sure.

Say what? Non Sikhs wich ehni sharda! Maharaaj Tu blessings chaundi Ni!?? Wah! Wah wah. Dhan Guru Nanak who made Sikhi for all... (Still hoping all Seva was done according to Sikh Maryaad)... On top "Saroop not to be taken to pub, clubs etc" guess they'll add "Villa" to the list.

People bring Saroops into their homes. Provided villa had no alcohol n meat in sight I think, therefore, it is ok. Plus the Villa/ area gets blessed as well. Provided also the correct seva was done BEFORE Maharaaj entered should be fine... (erm, Villa was clear of meat n alc, right)?

Yo! Bhenji in the vid. I 100% know this about women with facial hair/ looks but have you interviewed Amritdhari women, wha men they want?? HINT! Start off by asking educational n jobs lol. I KNOW it not about that but u may be surprised...

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If you feel strong about it don't use it. I'd recommend Jasmine and mustard oil. And no, no need to go pesh. Pesh wasn't meant for tiniest of things as we Foreign Sikhs have made it out t be...

As Sikhs youngsters are told "When going for wedding and you're Amritdhaari, be sure your spouse is too." Unfortunately like the education over Nitnemi spouse (as explained in last post), THIS IS NOT TRUE! Grown ups, same grown ups who utter "Nitnemi hovai, Oocha soocha jivan hovai," will say "Have you seen how ugly he/ she looks?" During my trip to engagement in India this year, my uncle took me to Baba Deep Singh Gurudwara.* My Uncle said "Son, we're going to see this potential Amritdhaari girl for you. But be warned! She don't look nice..." On visiting the Gurudwara my mum saw her. Uncle was desperate to leave, on exiting mum stopped us n said we SHOULD meet her! So we went to one side n we all met. Ok, she had dark skin n bit o facial hair (unnoticeable from far). When she spoke she had this sweet amazing voice. I knew her jivan was that of Chardikala. I thought I met one girl now for next then I can decide between two. Then dad rang, asked n he was like "Naa puth! Chungi tra dekhi? Rehndi yaar. Audhe dandh wi ooche si" (No idea where he got that from. No pics of her were sent from anyone so my uncle exaggerated). I was right though! She does immense seva. Infact she GAVE UP HER TEACHING JOB TO DO SEVA AT THE GURUDWARA! Then my mum spoke on phone n said "She matches my son! She's simple he's simple. She is also somebody's daughter." Then dad spoke to me n said make sure you look carefully at next girl b4 deciding. Don't just carry on liking any old body. BROTHERS N SISTERS! THIS... Is the truth. If it happened with me I bet it happened elsewhere! Many are swearing at me, thinking "No mate, you're only one Sikh guy representative" BUT... I know for a fact their are more Sikhs who been through LIES by adults of "Nitnemi over looks" and "Oocha soocha over education." In fact it is Looks/ education over Amritdhaari! After my engagement to another girl and return back to my home town mum rebuked dad about wha he said n talking me outta saying "Yes" to her. All I say is whoever marries that girl, that guy will be a Heera. *Names of places and locations are changed.

SGGS, you can try to criticise SGGS but fail I.e. "This shabd doesn't match that shabd, this text is complete different from that." Etc etc. All words co ordinate into one another, from Ang 1 to Ang 1429. Even Sikh code of conduct co ordinates with SGGS! Something to think about...

Your Q's are thought provoking I must admit. Baba Buddha ji reached a stage where, one day, he wasn't doing Jaap and Seva. The Sangat went to 5th or 6th Guru to mention this a couple days later. Maharaaj then went to Baba Ji n said "We both know your level of Tapasya. But I request you to keep going with Naam and Seva. Then Sangat/ Sikhs will be inspired. Baba Ji immediately started Naam n Seva again. A high Gursikh Jivan, Baba Buddha Ji, why did he agree n not say "What's the point Maharaaj?? It's all written!" 1. He OBEYED Maharaaj's all words/ speeches as HUKAM! 2. If we don't praise saints by showing them respect n doing their seva... Who will? This leads me to... 3. A true Saint will never say "Do my seva. Respect n praise me." Sikhs choose to do it.

When I met my fiance first time in India this summer, she touched the topic on Amrit. She isn't Amritdhari herself. This was our 1st meeting. I made it clear to her, if you wish to take Amrit or not it up to you. Nobody will force you before/ after marriage. That put her at ease. Now, I am about to tell you why you should never ever ever force anyone into taking Amrit. Do I mean putting them at gunpoint? No. I'm talking about nagging them! Everytime u see/ meet that one or two persons you mite say silly things like "Why aren't u Anritdhari? Your parents are? You hubby/ wife is...?" First of all, EVERYONE knows about Amrit lol. Trust... EVERYONE! Nothing is being hidden from them. Now, you're unnecessary nag may compel them into taking Amrit. What happens in next few years?? The compelled individual(s) will either be suffocating or Amrit broken. However, there is a correct way into motivating others. Individuals will step up and say "I too wish to be Amritdhari." THEN U motivate them; keep your kes, do simran n seva - whatever level you feel they're appropriate at. If they wish to go ahead or step down BEFORE having taken Amrit, YOU should accept their wishes. I said exact same things to my fiance. However, reason for both couples t be Amritdhari, first is so they're truly level meeting on vichaars n second is to do with jooth (germs). One method of jooth is sharing food. Second is intercourse. During the act germs are shared. I left it up to her for her wishes. I'd rather her say "I took Amrit as it was in my heart/ own wishes" instead of "I only took Amrit as he's Amritdhari." I took Amrit as it was my own desires. With kirpa it been 12 years of bliss n Anand. My dad is Nitnemi plus I found the right crowd (Friday nite sangat Gurudwara) and thas it! Kirpa happened. Thas all it took. Fair play, you mite ask sum1 once about them wishing to take Amrit. But constant nag will do them ZERO favours. And don't think they'll tell u off! Some people are powerless to speak up about their wishes to remain NON Amritdhari.

Do paat AND be sure to take/ hear hukamnama during funeral/ Aakhri Ardaas. Giaani ji will read Hukamnama. Listen to it intently n tell fam to do the same. If u don't understand wha was read ask Giaani Ji or another person who will. Hukamnama IS vital and blessed are the ones who follow it. YOU WILL GET AN ANSWER! Of wha steps to take next.

Well, the truth is always bitter ;-(

How did you find your partner? Are you both baptised or only one of you? Does it affect you if one baptised? And... What are your educational levels ? latter question, of course, more important than "How Nitnemi/ Bibeki are you?" Nowadays.

Know wha the possible problem is? Too much freedom for kids. Teachers not allowed to hit children (although, law changed in India too). Then education free for all in Non India countries. Then year goes by with 3 quarters holidays... These Goris have gone OTT with it. Cut down hols and Saturday should b 4 hours in school! Catch up, revision, assemblies etc etc can b done in this time. Hit the students but lightly should b introduced as well. I believe bullying may b reduced and grades improved/ more akal etc.

Ah! But 100% faith all answers will b revealed! I know it can be a long journey. But with excellent devotion it'll take barely a few years.

Bruv quite a few in UK.

Yes fights in community and segregation is in all countries. Was thinking that tbh.

We know Guru Granth Sahib is Sikhs chance in achieving Mukht from Maya n this world itself. Just like Muslims believe in Quran, Christian in the Bible and Hindus in Puranas. All religious folks do different things but by practice, patience and persistence that one goal n target's achieved.

Lol where do I start off? Equality in India for Sikhs would be one. And amongst Sikhs? To not fight with one another but thas guaranteed to happen over committees. "Gli jog Na howai..." Unfortunately we're all big talks n no action. A few years ago a person on tv suggested "Sikhs should open up a help centre, where all problems should be sat n discussed in how to deal with them." Today?? Still no such centre. The guy suggested but thas it! Gal katham.

AH! Very excellent Q. I would say, after a Sikh reads n hears Sakhis/ Katha then they have faith. However, on a philosophical level, once they start doing Sikh practices... It's all blind! Well, to start off with. Then kirpa kicks in over the years. Feeling epic, feeling good, Darshan of Saint Soldiers/ Spirits, darshan of Akaal Purkh. I guess it's all blind to start off with. I mean we all meditate and be good human beings, even though we have not met Akaal Purkh. So until then and on that level... U could say it's "Blind."

Sikhi is a very easy religion. Problem? We make it difficult ourselves. There are far too many "You're not allowed to do this/ that." From Guru Nanak's teachings, 80% is to do with living in society and 20% is the spiritual path... Don't believe it?? Ok, Sacha Kirth karni, wand k shakna and Naam japna. Notice the first two! Imagine if the whole world was earning an honest living (inc. Politicians) and if everyone shared their money/ food with each other! Wouldn't it be Sachkhand on Earth? Instead "Oh? You're an Amritdhari? You're not allowed this. You're not allowed that. Don't even breath..." Etc. Then we get in fights from different jathe bandhis to Gurudwara committee. What are we portraying to others? Sikhi is hard when it's not and fights. Why don't we tell others to do Nitnem when Amritvela, earn an honest living and deswand? Do Sangat/ Seva at Gurudwara and not t indulge in Bujjer Kureths?

Not really a Q. More of a statement. Girls... What are you doing? Boys... Same can go to you! You're in your 30's, highly educated, nice job n u cannot seem t "find the right partner?" (this post excludes who wish to remain single). But d rest... Whas keeping yah? What do Sikh people say in society? "Remember! Education doesn't matter. Wha matters is Partner should b Nitnemi and hard working." And when a person uneducated/ less educated approaches the same Sikhs to marry their child?? "Marriage!? Whas your education up to??" THAS IT! Gal katham. The end. There's no room for "Can I at least meet your son/ daughter??" (am speaking from experience as a single who been thru this numerous times). WOMEN! I am now engaged to someone in Punjab. HERE'S MY PLAN! After marriage if she wishes to work she can. If she wishes to carry on teaching but gets a job far from my Hometown, we'll settle over there so she carries on working. I'll easily manage a job (TRUST! Indians always seek people willing t work below minimum; factory or takeaways). See? I have these plans to SUPPORT my future wife. She may not be baptised. I made it clear to her "If u wish to take Amrit or not u will not b forced. It'll b entirely up to u." SUPPORT! SANGAT JI! SUPPORT... Plus with kirpa am financially sorted, on top. WOMEN! Next time a proposal comes to you, at least hear out the guy, see wha he says. Working + still with parents = financially sorted. Is he willing to move out? Can u still work after marriage? If in a far town both working, will you compromise and move in his town? Or is he willing t give up job and move with you??? All this is decided after meeting/ speaking or messaging on phone. What are we focused on? Education only. Gal kathm. No wonder so many 35-40's are still single (again, from experience what I seen but am 29). Bottom line, you wanna get somewhere at least GO and MEET UP with the proposals with your family.

AGREED! My thoughts also ran on food on first instinct. Now I can google this but wha types of food would you recommend t get D up n running in the systems?