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THE SIKH DASTAAR (TURBAN) – IS IT JUST FOR SIKH MEN?

by Manvir Singh Khalsa

maadhhavae kiaa keheeai bhram aisaa ||

O Lord, what can I say about such an illusion?

jaisaa maaneeai hoe n thaisaa ||1|| rehaao ||

Things are not as they seem. ||1||Pause||

narapath eaek si(n)ghaasan soeiaa supanae bhaeiaa bhikhaaree ||

It is like the king, who falls asleep upon his throne, and dreams that he is a beggar.

ashhath raaj bishhurath dhukh paaeiaa so gath bhee hamaaree ||2||

His kingdom is intact, but separated from it, he suffers in sorrow. Such is my own condition. ||2||

The dastaar (turban) is the crown worn by Kings.

The dastaar is the dignity held on the heads of warriors.

The dastaar is the honour of wise-men and sages.

When women were seen as inferior and considered impure.

When low castes were accepted as untouchables and treated as slaves.

When the downtrodden were held down by the fear and oppression and made to feel lowly.

Guru Jee reminded us that we are all the children of True Ruler, the One Creator, Waheguru.

Guru Jee reminded us that we are all Kings and Queens.

Guru Jee reminded us that we are all special and important beings.

Women, low castes and the downtrodden were raised higher than a Brahman, who called himself wise and a godly.

Women, low castes and the downtrodden were raised higher than a Kshatri, who called himself a warrior and heroes.

Women, low castes and the downtrodden were raised higher than a King, who called himself royal and the ruler.

The Guru gave his arm to the poor.

The Guru gave his arm to the oppressed.

The Guru gave his arm to the needy.

Pulling them up he gave them dignity, respect and honour.

ka(n)ghaa dhono vakath kar paag chunai kar baa(n)dhhee ||

Comb your hair twice a daily and re-tie your dastaar (turban) each time your wear it.

Rehatnama Bhai Nand Laal Jee

Placing a dastaar on the head of a woman, she could now boldy show the world she was no less than a man.

Placing a dastaar on the head of a low caste, he could now bravely show society that he was no less than high caste.

Placing a dastaar on the head of the downtrodden, they could now show the oppressors that they were no longer the oppressed but were all Kings and Queens.

Blessed is that Guru, who gave us the gift of being Sardars.

Blessed is that Guru, who gave us the life of being a Saint Warrior.

Blessed is that Guru, who reminded us that we to live like Singhs (Lions) & Kaurs (Princess).

khaalsaa mero roop hai khaas ||

The Khalsa is my image.

khaalsa mehi hau karo nivaas ||

Within the Khalsa I reside.

Guru Gobind Singh Ji

Sister when you look at the dastaar on your head:

Remember you have the honour of a Queen!

Remember you have the courage of a lioness!

Remember you are royality and the daughter of Guru Gobind Singh Ji!

You are the manifestation of the image and beauty of our blessed Mother, Mata Sahib Kaur Ji!

Brother when you look at the dastaar on your head:

Remember you have the honour of a King!

Remember you have the courage of a lion!

Remember you are royalty and the son of Guru Gobind Singh Ji!

You are the manifestation of the image and glory of our blessed Father, Pita G

Guru Gobind Singh Ji!

Unfortunately in recent history Sikhs have been led to believe that the Guru’s command of tying a dastaar (turban) only applies to men and not women.

In Sikhi men and women possess equal rights.

In Sikhi the Rehat (discipline) of the four kurehats (prohibitions), five kakkaars (articles of faith) and Nitnem (daily prayers) are equal for men and women.

In Sikhi men and women are equal in status, work and roles.

Why do some people believe that the Guru’s command of wearing a dastaar is not equal for men and women and solely for men?

Why do some people believe that men have been bestowed with the crown of the dastaar and not women?

Why do some people believe that Guru Ji has not bestowed his daughters with the beauty, grace and glory of the Khalsa unique image which distinguishes a Sikh from crowds of thousands?

Let us realise the beauty, glory and honour of the dastaar and wear it with honour.

Let our sisters have the confidence to reject the false beliefs and pressures of society and enjoy the Guru’s given roop, image, which he has graced the Khalsa with.

Let us all support our fellow sisters and mothers in wearing dastaars and following the Guru’s Hukam rather than giving into society’s pressure.

Be inspired and inspire others.

May Vaheguru bless you.

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dont judge from putside alone

more than half the dastaar bibis i kno are veryyyy bad

trust me u dont kno

but a lot of dastaar bibs refelct their insides

VEERY CHARDI KALA

theyere was one bibi in my vclass with dastaar and shes got a jeevan, i have mad respec t for her

but dont soley judge on outside

the same goes to singhs wearin chola, dummalai, etc., some are corrupted there too

inside shud refpect outside

u need both

we shudnt forget inside especially, especially inside

but we need BOTH

like washing ure hands, u need both

bhula chuka maf

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FATEH JI

yeh i see ur point veer ji.. (y)

anyways...wots a cholaa?? blush.gif am a moorakh u c

FATEH

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I ain't too sure, but I think its like a kurta kamaze which comes up to your knees and is mostly blue. I think its mainly Nihang Singhs who wear it, but I don't know for sure. grin.gif

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dont judge from putside alone

more than half the dastaar bibis i kno are veryyyy bad

trust me u dont kno

but a lot of dastaar bibs refelct their insides

VEERY CHARDI KALA

theyere was one bibi in my vclass with dastaar and shes got a jeevan, i have mad respec t for her

but dont soley judge on outside

the same goes to singhs wearin chola, dummalai, etc., some are corrupted there too

inside shud refpect outside

u need both

we shudnt forget inside especially, especially inside

but we need BOTH

like washing ure hands, u need both

bhula chuka maf

95094[/snapback]

great points there...please note them down..don't get over excited when you see bibi with dastar or singh with chola...talk to the person and find out how they are.

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