Lust

[Guest HELP ME]

This is the first time in my life that i have told anyone about this, i have a serious problem with lust and internet porn. I CANT STOP. Even when I am doing it, i realize I am doing something wrong, but i keep on going, even when i am watching i realize that it is so disgusting and that these are my sister but i dont stop. I just another fool, among trillions of fools on this earth who just lust after flesh day after day after day. Please is there anyone who can help me with this. I want to rid my lust all together. But everyday it is the same result.

[LiL kHaRkHoO]

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa!

Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!!

Heres the thing! You have probably heard that people say like admitting is the first step to actively resolving a bad habit. But the thing is that Sikhi says it is simple how to conquer the panj chor(five evils/thievs). You have probably already heard of this. But what you TRULY need to do to get over this habit, is do Naam Simran. Now many people say its hard for them to sit down and do it. But heres the thing about that. All you need to do is start off at a point and go from there. On your first day, before you go to sleep or in the morning (which is best) do like 2-5 minutes of Simran. And from that amount just add like 30 minutes every two days or so. Then when you get to like 10 minutes, continue 10 minutes for about two weeks, then add 30 secs and go to 15 minutes then go at that for 2 weeks and so on. After a while you WILL be able to do more. This works in two ways, one is that you will be able to physically except it slowly and the other is you will be able to mentall except it also. Now you have to understand this too that your mind will know that you're doing this and it too will step up and you will get more of a blast to get back to the habit. Thats how the mind works. If you keep telling a little kid to stop running around, the baby will run for a long time, then get tired and eventually settle down. In this same case your mind will eventually settle down and actually go into the Simran.

Most people are looking for like any easy way to stop it. Like at a push of a button it should be gone. But this is kuljug, it will be hard. Kaam (lust) is the hardest of the panj chor to conquer. You have probably heard of Baba Maan Singh the rapist and how it affected him so severely. You have to battle your mind which has KAAM, KRODH, LOBH, MOH and HUNKAR as its soldiers. NAAM simran is your shastar and Guru Ji is on your team. you can't fight without a shastar and when you start fighting Guru Ji will help you (Kirpa).

Bhul Chuk Maaf Karo Ji!!

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa!

Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!!

[Guest Guest]

i am so surprised that this is such a big problem even with so many youths

[Guest Guest]

It's natural to be lustful as a human as it is to be angry, egotistical, greedy, etc. Being lustful or horny is your body's way of telling you that you are ready to procreate.

BUT as a Sikh you have to be in control of these desires, and you should realise these things are distractions from your faith. When get married you can show love for your partner in a physical manor.

So you have seen or see porn on net, etc.. big deal but it is important to realise anything and everything materialistic in this world is irrelevant. This dunia (world) is temporal, your real home is with your Waheguru so you gotta decide do you wonna live trapped in materialism or seek the path to salvation and clear your mind with naam simran for connecting with and worshipping God, our creator and sustainer.

I wish you best off luck... bro/sis

[SSM]

Lust is so hard to control, mate if Baba Maan Singh Ji a sant couldn't control it through simran then the advice given is not exactly the best now is it so do you have Advice B lil kharkoo in case ur Advice A fails cos it didnt work for someone?Or maybe it did but u believe rumours

Help Me, the only advice I would give is ok u have switched on the internet, click on the site, but just b4 u enter it move away and do moolmantar for about 5mins and then decide if u want to even click on it.

Tell youself that you are a sikh, you will not be controlled by this, then just leave ur room and go downstairs and have a chat with your family or call a friend but do not go and sit by urself because then that will get into ur mind again.

I don't know if you go to the Gurdwara and if so how often and etc etc but why not go sit inthe Gurdwara and talk to Guru Ji about the issue, not concentrating on the sangat, just u and Guru Ji?

Once u get really close to Guru Ji, kaam is nothing to be stressed about.

This worked for one of my mates but thing is she never used to go to the Gurdwara b4 so when she did the above she really was a changed person, whether it works for u is upto God. But good luck.

[fists_of_fury]

[SSM]

everyone does not go thru that, and def not the porn phase lol :wub: , definitely do go get a person on the side, it is something everyone who hasnt already controlled should start to work on if they recognise that they have a prob with it. It def not normal to go thru that stuff as a sikh in my opinion, maybe I'm abnormal, dunno

(i was replyinto fist of fury, thinku just edited it :wub: )

[Guest Guest]

ssm ji,

with all due respect,

you're VERY gullible.

most kids go through this.

it is kaljug.

it is not GOOD, it is not part of sikhi, but it is the reality.

we must not be in denial.

instead we should help ourselves be better sikhs and help these lost youth.

[Guest PURE]

Kaam is cetinaly the big issue in the Youth...and it very much possible to get rid of it and i was just reading a book over internet..somebody sugggested me to read it....and it was AMAAAAAAAAAAZING guys..the more i read it the more i felt at peace and i fink u guys can have a look at it. It has worked for me...may be it can work for u as well..

FROM SEX TO SUPERCONSCIOUSNESS

[sewak sikh]

You have probably heard of Baba Maan Singh the rapist and how it affected him so severely. 

Lust is so hard to control, mate if Baba Maan Singh Ji a sant couldn't control it through simran then the advice given is not exactly the best now is it so do you

r u talking abt Baba Maan Singh Ji [pehveon vale]

the bujurg mahapurush