Dating Girls

[chandanjit kaur]

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lol....das true veerji....i mean come on you're amrit-dhaari why would you waste your time dating girls and looking for the rite one to marry??? :| @ you should be japping naam and then do ardas to guru ji asking HIM...jeez....jaap naam non-stop and guru sahib himself will help you

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bhul chuk muaf ji

[sewasingh]

Thanks for the posts, but yet, I feel that we should be open to both sides, what about some people who are limited to social interaction, ie don't go out mch, stuck in a 9-5 job ?

[Revolutionary]

I say truxst your parents. They truely love you :|

Trust me, give it a try

[Golee Maro]

I think this is a growing problem. It was ok back in the day. Nowadays, Sikhi is being turned into something a bit "militant". A ck Sikh Community leader in the UK (not mentioning names) has camps at his Gurdwara every so often. And he said himself "we control the camp as much as possible but we are not militant about the boy girl relationships when it comes to the late teenagers because we would prefer guys n girls meet and socialise in Gurdwara where they know Guru Jee is present rather than going out meeting in clubs etc"

(not saying i believe in that, by the way)

but i believe its a problem because i know of so many cases. Kids stay clean, in sangat, out of trouble, into Naam, Bani, Simran, but when they get to that age of getting married, they find it so hard because they havent socialised as much so their bol-bani is not up to scratch yet they want to meet someone themselves and get to know their partner a little before marriage. i feel so sad when i hear bout cases like that. one example is a friend of mine whos 27, almost 28 now and her moms always in tears coz they cant find a guy for her and shes one of the best penjis i know.

its a difficult sensitive issue.

[Pyara]

Everyones too para about getting married/relationships. Chill out. Wheres the faith in Guru Ji. Your sanjog is already mapped.

If you wanna chat to some random girl with the intention of marrying her than that's up to you. It creates the wrong vibe in my eyes, but then that's my "militant" opinion.

[Revolutionary]

I think this is a growing problem. It was ok back in the day. Nowadays, Sikhi is being turned into something a bit "militant". A ck Sikh Community leader in the UK (not mentioning names) has camps at his Gurdwara every so often. And he said himself "we control the camp as much as possible but we are not militant about the boy girl relationships when it comes to the late teenagers because we would prefer guys n girls meet and socialise in Gurdwara where they know Guru Jee is present rather than going out meeting in clubs etc"

(not saying i believe in that, by the way)

but i believe its a problem because i know of so many cases. Kids stay clean, in sangat, out of trouble, into Naam, Bani, Simran, but when they get to that age of getting married, they find it so hard because they havent socialised as much so their bol-bani is not up to scratch yet they want to meet someone themselves and get to know their partner a little before marriage. i feel so sad when i hear bout cases like that. one example is a friend of mine whos 27, almost 28 now and her moms always in tears coz they cant find a guy for her and shes one of the best penjis i know.

its a difficult sensitive issue.

i guess i agree

its about getting to know about society so we can contorl our minds in the worst of situations.

some of the most "hardcore" singhs/singhnis i know have had a "bad" past and they regret it, but they learnt fomr it and teach others about it.

In my opinion, its best to learn fomr someone else's experience rather than own

[Golee Maro]

If you wanna chat to some random girl with the intention of marrying her than that's up to you.

but veeraa, this is the thing. its all about INTENTIONS. I think chatting to a girl with the intention of marriage is better than chatting to a girl with the intention of indulgence in lust or just to have a bit of fun for a couple of months. And the intention to marry does not necessarily include lusftul intentions in there.

[Pyara]

If you wanna chat to some random girl with the intention of marrying her than that's up to you.

but veeraa, this is the thing. its all about INTENTIONS. I think chatting to a girl with the intention of marriage is better than chatting to a girl with the intention of indulgence in lust or just to have a bit of fun for a couple of months. And the intention to marry does not necessarily include lusftul intentions in there.

I suppose your right! Just being pessamistic as I've seen a few of these amritdhari "long term" pre-marital dating relationship fall through lately.

[Golee Maro]

If you wanna chat to some random girl with the intention of marrying her than that's up to you.

but veeraa, this is the thing. its all about INTENTIONS. I think chatting to a girl with the intention of marriage is better than chatting to a girl with the intention of indulgence in lust or just to have a bit of fun for a couple of months. And the intention to marry does not necessarily include lusftul intentions in there.

I suppose your right! Just being pessamistic as I've seen a few of these amritdhari "long term" pre-marital dating relationship fall through lately.

Yeh i know what u mean there too. And what i would also add to that is that no matter how long uve known someone or how much u think u know them... u can never know someone 100% and therefore only THEY know their true intentions. SOmetimes, even THEY dont know their own intentions so how could we possibly analyse it? A person can seem to hate on the outside, but have so much pyaar in their heart for u. But in the same way a person can appear to love u so much, yet have so much nuffrat in their heart for u. U can never REALLY know. But thats part and parcel of live. We have to give each other a chance and make up our own minds.

[khalsaforce]

Koi mehnu v dasu Date ki blahh haigi. All og u talkin date a girl date a girl mehnu samaj nai lagdi vai. koi daso date ki hounda pehla?