Owning Up Or Keeping Quite?

[Guest guilty]

some people when reading this will probably laugh but i can let that stop me from writing this as i need help..

i know it is common to have a mobile nowadays as sooo many peoples life depend on them, but ma dad is one of those people that think the more possessions that you have the more likely you are to go of the rails and to bad things e.g talking to guys and and having relationships e.t.c.

im a girl and so my dads thoughts are that i shouldnt be having freedom so that i dont get into bad habits fair enough thats understandable seeing as many grils do take advantage but i have made mistakes and i have learnt from them and i havent repeated them wot so ever.

but one mistake that i have made is that i have kept a phone on the lowy from ma dad and now he has found out..i dont no how! now i dont no what to do he hasnt confronted me and asked me to hand it over he has just dropped it and said "you dont think i dont no what you are doing just watch it"..

now i dont want to have to carry on feeling so bad and allways being paranoid that when im not at home he is searching my room or when he picks me up from work that oneday (which is going to be very soon) he is going to ask to see my bag and search me.

like i said i have made mistakes in the past like lieing e.t.c and ma dad has found out and told me off and i have learnt from them as i havnt repeated those mistakes again cos the look of disappointment on me dads face was harsh.

in short i dont no what to do im 18 for gods sake

1. i an either had it over from my own free will and just drop the whole thing

2. i can hand it over and explain to ma dad that i need a phone neway

3. stay quite and just get rid of the phone

4. stay quite and get rid of the phone and then just ask him for one

5. any other suggests

i do feel bad..but even though he does no all this is still is being ok with me he is talking asking for help and involving me in his conversations, its just my concious that isn't letting me rest! WHAT SHOULD I DO!

[Guest Guest]

Whilst it is difficult to judge your situation based only on the limited information you have given, to be honest your parents are only looking out for the best for you. They seem to be extremely strict and as you say "i have made mistakes in the past like lieing e.t.c" and even if you have learnt from them it sounds like there is a lack of trust in your relationship with your father.

Your father hasn't taken away your phone so in your position I would tell him that I intend to keep it as I find it a neccessary part of my life, but in the future I would definately not try and 'hide' other things from him as this is only going to decrease the trust between you. Over a period of time perhaps that trust will increase and you may find your dad not being so strict with you.

And I don't understand why you would be paranoid of having your bag or room searched if you have nothing to hide? It may be an obtrusive thing to happen but it shouldn't bother you too much.

[Medallion Stallion]

some people when reading this will probably laugh but i can let that stop me from writing this as i need help..

i know it is common to have a mobile nowadays as sooo many peoples life depend on them, but ma dad is one of those people that think the more possessions that you have the more likely you are to go of the rails and to bad things e.g talking to guys and and having relationships e.t.c.

im a girl and so my dads thoughts are that i shouldnt be having freedom so that i dont get into bad habits fair enough thats understandable seeing as many grils do take advantage but i have made mistakes and i have learnt from them and i havent repeated them wot so ever.

but one mistake that i have made is that i have kept a phone on the lowy from ma dad and now he has found out..i dont no how! now i dont no what to do he hasnt confronted me and asked me to hand it over he has just dropped it and said "you dont think i dont no what you are doing just watch it"..

now i dont want to have to carry on feeling so bad and allways being paranoid that when im not at home he is searching my room or when he picks me up from work that oneday (which is going to be very soon) he is going to ask to see my bag and search me.

like i said i have made mistakes in the past like lieing e.t.c and ma dad has found out and told me off and i have learnt from them as i havnt repeated those mistakes again cos the look of disappointment on me dads face was harsh.

in short i dont no what to do im 18 for gods sake

1. i an either had it over from my own free will and just drop the whole thing

2. i can hand it over and explain to ma dad that i need a phone neway

3. stay quite and just get rid of the phone

4. stay quite and get rid of the phone and then just ask him for one

5. any other suggests

i do feel bad..but even though he does no all this is still is being ok with me he is talking asking for help and involving me in his conversations, its just my concious that isn't letting me rest! WHAT SHOULD I DO!

talk to your dad that you are not doing anything bad on your phone (i hope) like you said you are 18 now you should have some sense by now of wat is right and wrong.................i dont know why you feel guilty maybe because you have kept this from your dad and he now doesnt trust you and you now miss that trust...........if thats the case then just try talkin to him yea............hope this helps

[JustME]

2. i can hand it over and explain to ma dad that i need a phone neway

Id go with that, apologize to ur dad for pying but at the same time explain to him WHY u did it and the reasons why i feel i need one............he will respect ur honesty (i hope) and in time this will make ur relationship stronger..................why hide behinds lie when u can liberate urself with the truth?

u mite be surprised by how he reacts :TH:

[Guest gulity]

so what you are saying is that i should own up ok i can mangae that i think...

but no the question is should i hand over the phone

or the other option is that because my dad hasnt confronted me then i should ignore the whole thing and just get rid of the phone

what do u think

[Guest gulity]

what other information would you guys like in order to give me more advise..as someone did write that i only gave limited information