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What would you do if your own children, when grown up (say mid twenties), decide they do not want to follow Sikhi despite all of your efforts to encourage them? They don't want to convert to anything but just don't want to follow rehat. How would you react? Disown them? Still love them? Be sick at the sight of them?

Also seeing as they are now adamant that they do not want to follow Sikhi, would you ask them to cut their hair to avoid the obvious hypocrisy that would be involved in living life with kesh and no belief.

Is this the typical situation with many (not all) trimmed Singhs?

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Nanak hukam na chalaiai naal khasam chalai ardaas..

bhai saheb jee daas is really stupid..khaale shabdi tor tay nahee amli tor tay we..

but for sure guru saheb nu pata hai uhna kee karna ..one should try and do ardaas..

waheguru bakhsh lain.. but yea one would never ask them to cut kesh..

whenever i look at beebees or veers who have kesh trimmed ..uhna day keshan nu dekh acha nahi lagda

and u never know when guru saheb may bless someone as stupid as me with lil sikhi hug.gif

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Sat Sri Akal,

If despite my teaching my would be children gave up there sikhi then i am not a good father and teacher. If my children are not sikh i have no right to call anyone else to follow sikhi.

If anyway it happens as wish of God i will disown them, as i am not worthy father nor a good teacher.

It is little bit of respect or ahankaar but i am sure i will not talk to them till they are Patit.

Regards.

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Sat Sri Akal,

If despite my teaching my would be children gave up there sikhi then i am not a good father and teacher. If my children are not sikh i have no right to call anyone else to follow sikhi.

If anyway it happens as wish of God i will disown them, as i am not worthy father nor a good teacher.

It is little bit of respect or ahankaar but i am sure i will not talk to them till they are Patit.

Regards.

waheguru ji kakhalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

arrrmmm... so its basically in our hands if our kids will be sikh or not?

another question that came to mind... was guru Nanak dev ji's children sikh? blush.gif

bhul chuk muaff karni

waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

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u cyaan do nuttin! accept it... people make choices.. by that age they're old enuff to look at the pros n cons of everytin... you as a parent should not disown, stop lovin them or netin like that... becah your duty as a parent is to nurture and love your children... maybe that path is not the path for them.. not everybody is meant to be a sikh...

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Guest Narinder Singh

A person who truly understands Sikhi and "gets it" would never ever leave Sikhi, and im 100% sure about that.

So i think i would need to introspect rather than blame my child.

Fateh.

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Well my personal view i hate a Amritdhari person walking with his Mona son, Just i dont like that at all.

Everything is wish of God.

Its my personal opinon i will never accept patit children, never.

I feel sorry for your kids. :D

Anyway, this is a tough question to answer unless you have kids. It is easy to say I will disown them or accept them without having kids because you don't know what unconditional love truly means/feels like until you have kids.

For the record, I don't have kids; hence I am a kid myself. lol The reason why I am stating all this because I have done a lot of crazy things in the past, but yet, my parents still stood beside me and continue to guide me to the right path which eventually it worked and I became a “good boy” through my parents’ eyes. :)

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