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I read random things…anywoo I was reading once again (not related to sikhi :/ hawwww!) but can be related to sikhi…that’s what is sooo cool…

How many times have you done something wrong and felt tremendous guilt afterwards? (I would put my hand up for that!). I came across a book about guilt and really liked the following:

“Whenever you are preoccupied with some wrong doing in the past, realize that what you are trying to do is to undo what cannot be undone. Accept this grim reality, give up your demands about it, and learn from the experience so that you can concentrate on modifying what you can change, namely your future behaviour, and give up trying to change what you cannot change, namely your past behaviour.”

I thought it was great! As gursikhs we hold such strong ethical principles and beliefs that I bet we feel guilty quite often. The book talks about how unconstructive the emotion guilt is (as it makes you feel your bad) and how it is better to replace it with constructive remorse. This does not mean you never feel bad (sometimes it is a good thing in the sense that it helps with hamai), but it helps you to deal with it more appropriately. Btw I am not saying this means that you can carry on making mistakes, learn from them so that you don’t make them again!!

I think if we feel hugely guilty about something, its not helpful, it can make you feel depressed, low, not wanting to do anything, not wanted to do more seva, bani, simran. How is that helpful? Accept you did the wrong thing and change you ways.

Anyways just my two cents! Thought it was worth sharing! :)

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Hanji!!! =(

The more I try to 'undo' my past, the more I get tangled in it...

Now if I remember something I did wrong in my past( I did so many WRONG things...*sigh*...countless...See?... Trying to change my past again... :6 ... Okay back to present...), I just say 'I FORGIVE MYSELF'...and then I actually move ON to the beautifulllll PRESENT---NOW!...

NICEEEEEEEEEE TOPIC...

TOLD YOU---you have so much to share!!! YOU never listen =(...

and I talk a lot!!! =(

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