Too Many Lies

[london001]

as i've already written, the girl i am engaged to has been telling lies to me about her education, she said has a BA but it turns out she failed the first year, she has been lying about this for about 6 weeks and only admitted it to us when the college she went to confirmed what she had studied, so she had no option but to be honest.

i just wanted to ask ppl, do you think its possible to be a good person even though you've lied? her excuse is that she told one lie and had to lie again and again to cover it up. my concern is that my parents and i were very patient with her, and just asked her to be honest, although we had to ask again and again. i know most people would want nothing more to do with the other person if they'd lied so much. for me there needs to be trust between a husband and wife and if you dont have that at the start then its going to be very hard to find afterwards.....

opinions? am i being stupid?

[AmarjitKaur]

Here is my opinion, very blunt.

Look elsewhere.

You can't have a comfortable lifelong relationship with this girl, when you will be doubting all the time and wanting to find out what else she may have hidden from you.

Husband and wife's relationship is very close relationship which have to be built (its not blood relationship where you feel for each other naturally as for your parents, siblings etc.).

So my advice. stop this back forth communication with her. You have turned to be an investigator about her in the beginning because of one lie. you will be investigating for the rest of your life.

Husband wife ask each other this question million times (may be more than what I quoted :-)) in their lifetime "Do you love me?" How many times you would trust her when she would say "yes,I do love you". I see slim chances for you. so forget it man.

[S1ngh]

Wasn't there a thread on this issue few weeks ago?? We covered more than a couple pages on this issue?? Use Search option.