Singhnee's Please Help!

[Akal Warrior]

He has probably done it to other girls too, and unless someone comes forward and tells the police, he will keep doing it. Its your duty to put an end to this. If you don't speak up, others will suffer too.

[Guest MKaur]

Sis I feel your pain. Been through very similar stuff to you at very similar age still haunts me today.

Your situation brings back painful memories of my own.

Learn from this though and take small steps it's not easy but every step counts and from experience I'd say don't tell everyone only your very closest because only very few will help/support you.

It's horrible that our own brothers (singhs) can do this but it happens. Its good you've released he was in wrong; I still walk in denial sometimes because it just hurts.

Keep faith sister

Sorry if i have spoken wrongly

From Dhass

People who do such things are not our brothers. YOU are our sisters, and the entire panth is behind you and will support you. They mean nothing to us. They can rot in prison.

[Guest Kaal]

People who do such things are not our brothers. YOU are our sisters, and the entire panth is behind you and will support you. They mean nothing to us. They can rot in prison.

Exactly, was thinking the same thing and plus Gurbani says - http://www.sikhitoth...p?ShabadID=1364

jo hm shrI su mIqu hmwrw ]3]2] jo ham seharee s meeth hamaaraa ||3||2|| whoever is a citizen there, is a friend of mine. ||3||2||

Whoever is a citizen of Saachkhand is my friend, as they are loving, eternal and trustworthy. Therefore, a Gursikh heading towards that way will have some qualities of compassion and care growing inside them (from naam and gurbani abhiyaas) which will become trustworthy and eternal too once Bhramgyan is reached. Those "sikhs" not heading towards Saachkhand are NOT OUR BROTHERS.

[simran345]

This was very sad to read, please dont go thru this on ur own. You need to talk to somebody, then only will u be able to move on properly. Try to contact either sikhyouth helpline, or kaurproject if you want to talk on the phone. Dont be afraid of anything, you have done nothing wrong, be strong and confident.

The hardest bit was coming on here and asking for advice.

Waheguru will help u thru this.

[VanHelsingh]

I feel so sad reading this thread. I had no idea this kind of stuff went on. I can only say to my sisters that I hope they receive justice and peace of mind for the years of heartache they have suffered.

[Guest some.what.ashamed]

@ Kaljugi.

I thought it didn't happen too. As I was getting closer to Guru Ji I began to admire Singh's like him, little did I know. And more sister's on here are reporting simular experiences. It happens behind closed doors and is not spoken about but the fact it is happening.

[Guest Lost soul]

Kuljugi I too didn't think these things happened till it happened to myself. Its sad that a minority of singhs can do these things to young singhnees who see them as big brothers. Our singhs need to buckle up because talking from experience when you through this stuff you cut off mentally as it's the Singh who walks around freely whilst you the singhnee suffers in silence as were too scared/frightened to tell family due to shame/ not been understood. Mafi to OP for taking over your thread gurmukho

[Guest Kaal]

Kuljugi I too didn't think these things happened till it happened to myself. Its sad that a minority of singhs can do these things to young singhnees who see them as big brothers. Our singhs need to buckle up because talking from experience when you through this stuff you cut off mentally as it's the Singh who walks around freely whilst you the singhnee suffers in silence as were too scared/frightened to tell family due to shame/ not been understood. Mafi to OP for taking over your thread gurmukho

The problem with some singhnia is that they trust these "Singhs" and think they are "Singhs" just by looking at their image. You are proudly stating this fact. HOW DARE YOU CALL THESE SINNERS SINGHS, SIKHS OF GURU SAHIB! What a joke! Do you even know the meaning of singh? If the singhni is a naam abhiyaasee gursikh then the singhni will know who a real singh is; any singhni who isnt, will assume anyone to be Singh. This world is full of fake/counterfeit and real/genuine people and Gurbani acknowledges this, as stated here:

ਇਕਿ ਖੋਟੇ ਇਕਿ ਖਰੇ ਆਪੇ ਪਰਖਣਹਾਰੁ ॥

Some are counterfeit, and some are genuine. He Himself is the Appraiser.

ਖਰੇ ਖਜਾਨੈ ਪਾਈਅਹਿ ਖੋਟੇ ਸਟੀਅਹਿ ਬਾਹਰ ਵਾਰਿ ॥

The genuine are placed in His Treasury, while the counterfeit are thrown away.

The counterfeit can never conceal this truth as their Evil Mat becomes revealed to people for what they actually are – animals:

ਕਰਤੂਤਿ ਪਸੂ ਕੀ ਮਾਨਸ ਜਾਤਿ ॥

They belong to the human species, but they act like animals.

ਲੋਕ ਪਚਾਰਾ ਕਰੈ ਦਿਨੁ ਰਾਤਿ ॥

They curse others day and night.

ਬਾਹਰਿ ਭੇਖ ਅੰਤਰਿ ਮਲੁ ਮਾਇਆ ॥

Outwardly, they wear religious robes, but within is the filth of Maya.

ਛਪਸਿ ਨਾਹਿ ਕਛੁ ਕਰੈ ਛਪਾਇਆ ॥

They cannot conceal this, no matter how hard they try.

ਬਾਹਰਿ ਗਿਆਨ ਧਿਆਨ ਇਸਨਾਨ ॥

Outwardly, they display knowledge, meditation and purification,

ਅੰਤਰਿ ਬਿਆਪੈ ਲੋਭੁ ਸੁਆਨੁ ॥

but within clings the dog of greed.

ਅੰਤਰਿ ਅਗਨਿ ਬਾਹਰਿ ਤਨੁ ਸੁਆਹ ॥

The fire of desire rages within; outwardly they apply ashes to their bodies.

ਗਲਿ ਪਾਥਰ ਕੈਸੇ ਤਰੈ ਅਥਾਹ ॥

There is a stone around their neck - how can they cross the unfathomable ocean?

ਜਾ ਕੈ ਅੰਤਰਿ ਬਸੈ ਪ੍ਰਭੁ ਆਪਿ ॥

Those, within whom God Himself abides -

ਨਾਨਕ ਤੇ ਜਨ ਸਹਜਿ ਸਮਾਤਿ ॥੫॥

O Nanak, those humble beings are intuitively absorbed in the Lord. ||5||

[Guest lost soul]

-Kaal- obviously you have never been in this situation so doubt you'd understand! Do you want to explain how you expect a singhnee in her early teenage years to know who's a real singh and who isn't?! Your post is partly the reason why some find it hard to talk about such difficult issues as your too fast to judge!!

[Guest some.what.ashamed]

@lost soul

Thanks Bhenji. I was young and was just coming more into Sikhi. It knocks you down. I guess males don't and can't really understand.