kaam help

[help222]

does everyone in there teenage days masturbate and does that mean that guru ji will help them get rid of kaam but will not forgive the sins of yu masturbaten does this mean that you still have to suffer through the million days of pain thing in your next life please help i try to quit did for a month and a couple days but everytime i get this feeling inside me like a craving that i hav to do it its so hard please answer both question can

[Jangal Da]

This is where parents go wrong in our community - kids are led into puberty blindfolded. I recently had the dillema of how do I discuss growing up, body changes, birds and bees etc with my oldest. There are some great books out there for parents to go through with their kids. Worth doing, otherwise you get kids coming onto SikhSangat for such answers. Kids can be taught how to be confident in changes that will occur over the next few years and still be guided by Sikhi principles. But really this needs to come from the parents, not strangers or uncle xyz....

[13Mirch]

This is where parents go wrong in our community - kids are led into puberty blindfolded. I recently had the dillema of how do I discuss growing up, body changes, birds and bees etc with my oldest. There are some great books out there for parents to go through with their kids. Worth doing, otherwise you get kids coming onto SikhSangat for such answers. Kids can be taught how to be confident in changes that will occur over the next few years and still be guided by Sikhi principles. But really this needs to come from the parents, not strangers or uncle xyz....

Just out of interest what if a young amritdhari started masturbating. How should he control it? Especially in the mornings?

[Mehtab Singh]

He should move to India where they sleep in a group and take bath in the open under hand pump. No privacy, therefore no risk. Simple, problem solved.

[13Mirch]

He should move to India where they sleep in a group and take bath in the open under hand pump. No privacy, therefore no risk. Simple, problem solved.

No privacy. Thats a good suggestion. Problem is there are only two other people in the house with him and the house is 2 bedroom. Any suggestions? He really hates doing it.

[Mehtab Singh]

Whenever he feels the urge to do it, he should announce it, to his room mates, to his neighbours, maybe text all his friends and also update his status on Facebook and/or Twitter.

[13Mirch]

Whenever he feels the urge to do it, he should announce it, to his room mates, to his neighbours, maybe text all his friends and also update his status on Facebook and/or Twitter.

Seriously???? Just go in front of his parents and say "hi mummy, daddy I want to ****. I am telling you so I don't."

[luckysingh99]

This is where parents go wrong in our community - kids are led into puberty blindfolded. I recently had the dillema of how do I discuss growing up, body changes, birds and bees etc with my oldest. There are some great books out there for parents to go through with their kids. Worth doing, otherwise you get kids coming onto SikhSangat for such answers. Kids can be taught how to be confident in changes that will occur over the next few years and still be guided by Sikhi principles. But really this needs to come from the parents, not strangers or uncle xyz....

Well Said jangalda ji.

The OP 'help222' can be reassuored that it is no big deal. God has given you the tools and there is no harm in checking that they are in working order !

It is perfectly normal to do that and also perfectly normal to feel guilt. Your human and to reproduce you need your working tools.

As long as you don't make it an obsession or get into porn, hookers, strip bars..etc.. then there is nothing wrong having some occasional play time for yourself. You will NOT get paap or sin for it, but being a better sikh you should develop the strength to overide and eradicate the 'urge'.

[Mehtab Singh]

Seriously???? Just go in front of his parents and say "hi mummy, daddy I want to ****. I am telling you so I don't."

You said he stays with room mates, now he stays with parents?

[VanHelsingh]

You said he stays with room mates, now he stays with parents?