Ten Words That Changed My Life

[SunSingh]

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I am sure you’ve heard plenty of “This changed my life” stories.

But today as I turn 36, I thought I would share with you something that not only completely changed my life for the better but it could well change yours as well.

When I look back at the past 13 years, I can remember two events that were huge turning points in my life.

The first was when I read a superb book given to me by my friend Samuel who was an ex-Goldman Sachs trader (I’ll tell you about this book in the next few weeks).

The second was when I attended a speech in 2002 given by a man who later became my business mentor and also a close personal friend.

At the speech he uttered 10 words that I consider to have an extraordinary impact on my life. It changed everything that I do… and I owe my life to him.

But before I tell you what these 10 words were, allow me to give you some background:

Even though today I lead a happy, successful and confident life with my work, friends and family… it wasn’t like that eleven years ago.

I was a different person back then. In fact, I don’t even recognise myself anymore.

All through school and college I avoided conflict and tried to get out of fights with fellow classmates. At University, I was afraid to ask girls out on a date. I don’t have to tell you how many potential relationships I missed out on.

Yes, I was a coward.

This same fear translated itself into my choice of career. I used to work for a law firm – what I considered to be a “safe” job, hoping for a pay rise and promotion.

I have found that most people are not that different either.

Most people will stick at doing jobs they either hate or find boring and unsatisfying. A recent survey found that while 89% of people dislike their jobs, their biggest fear is getting fired from their jobs.

I ask you – what kind of a life is that?

Most people will stick through an unfulfilling relationship that is going nowhere. Others will delay seeing a doctor when they know their health is getting worse.

It is the fear of the unknown that paralyses people. It holds them from seeking something better from their life and achieving their goals and dreams.

The biggest threat to your success is NOT some “thing” or person out there.

The real danger is you listening to that nagging voice inside your head that says: “What if it doesn’t work?“.

Once you listen to that voice, its over and you become its slave.

The truth is… and I want you to remember this: Most of the things you worry about will NEVER come true. They will never happen.

As Will Smith’s character says in the movie After Earth: “Fear is a choice. It is a product of your imagination.”

But danger IS real. I am not saying do not assess the risks. But once you have learnt how to control the risks, fear should NOT hold you back.

My life changed when my mentor said these 10 words:

“Your success… depends on how much uncertainty YOU can handle“.

He continued:

“The more uncertainty you can handle in your life, the more successful you will be – in anything you do. Not just in wealth, but also in your health and relationships.”

Now I understood.

The problem is that we humans hate uncertainty.

Wars and battles have been fought, millions killed, for what? In order to impose control and certainty on people.

Look at the markets for example. Stocks crash and volatility increases when investors become worried and uncertain.

Most people fear uncertainty. Guess why 89% of people feel unsatisfied with their life!

A job is never “safe”. That B.S. about “job safety” has brainwashed people to make disastrous choices.

Unsurprisingly, people have still not learnt the lessons of the 2008 recession when millions of workers were made redundant.

But if you embrace uncertainty, you will see wealth and success beyond your imagination.

Don’t believe me?

Four years ago a very brave friend of mine who was a soldier in the US Army was badly wounded in Afghanistan. We all thought that was the end of his career.

Wrong. He got the medal of honour for bravery. He now works in undercover operations in the middle east and makes more money in a single day than any man could possibly dream of.

People who choose to let go of fear and face risks, like soldiers in battle, will be rewarded for their bravery.

It is the same reason why we trade. You and I know the risks we face every single day as traders. The uncertainties and challenges we face in the markets.

People who want certainty should NOT invest. Investing will always carry a degree of risk and uncertainty. And that uncertainty will reward you in the long term.

So let me ask you to do one thing today:

Embrace uncertainty! Let uncertainty be your friend.

Uncertainty is the price we pay for our freedom and the wealth we make.

People who choose the illusion of “safety” over uncertainty are destined for a life of mediocrity, frustration and unrealised dreams.

So here’s to YOUR success, and the next 12 months…

Alessio

[VanHelsingh]

The above is exactly the kind of unconventionality and originality that the restrictive and judgemental Panjabi and Sikh communities frown upon --- and dare I say the complete antithesis to how most of us have been raised and conditioned into living our lives.

I expected something a lot less dynamic and "crazy" on this website. :giggle:

[innergear]

i love it ! This is the way we shud be. We r prisoning ourselfs all the time. Love uncertainty. But with a minnd that waiguru is always ther guiding. . Go4it! B a risk taker!