Jealousy!

[Mrkhalsa007]

Vjkk Vjkf Saadh Sangat Ji

I sometimes get jealous at someone! And hate it! How should I stop! :o

[MokhamSingh]

Vjkk Vjkf Saadh Sangat Ji

I sometimes get jealous at someone! And hate it! How should I stop! :o

Khalsa Ji,

Naam is the only solution, as per:

ਸੁਆਦ ਬਾਦ ਈਰਖ ਮਦ ਮਾਇਆ ॥

Su▫āḏ bāḏ īrakẖ maḏ mā▫i▫ā.

Tastes and pleasures, conflicts and jealousy, and intoxication with Maya -

ਇਨ ਸੰਗਿ ਲਾਗਿ ਰਤਨ ਜਨਮੁ ਗਵਾਇਆ ॥੩॥

In sang lāg raṯan janam gavā▫i▫ā. ||3||

attached to these, the jewel of human life is wasted. ||3||

ਦੁਖ ਭੰਜਨ ਜਗਜੀਵਨ ਹਰਿ ਰਾਇਆ ॥

Ḏukẖ bẖanjan jagjīvan har rā▫i▫ā.

The Sovereign Lord King is the Destroyer of pain, the Life of the world.

ਸਗਲ ਤਿਆਗਿ ਨਾਨਕੁ ਸਰਣਾਇਆ ॥੪॥੧੩॥੧੯॥

Sagal ṯi▫āg Nānak sarṇā▫i▫ā. ||4||13||19||

Forsaking everything, Nanak has entered His Sanctuary. ||4||13||19||

Waheguru...

[N30S1NGH]

To Mrkhalsa veer ji, its very nice to see someone being honest and candid about themselves and try to improve. Sikh is a learner so we are all learners thats main thing that we are learning and improving. i myself have recently discovered about year ago that i was not being honest about my bad avguns let alone try to improve so i now try to be honest with myself (thoughts/panj chor thoughts) about it and try to improve it- each day its getting better by maharaj kirpa. Jealously is part of bigger bad attribute in maya - dvaish (partiality-dualism)/panj chor which we all are affected by it except for bhramgyanis and guru maharaj.

Solution- Ardas to guru maharaj, sehaj patt of gurbani on pankitiyas which talks about dvaish/dualism and updesh to get rid of it for eg- Bisar gayi sab tat praaie and during starting of simran do vichar- bring face of who you are jealous of - see eye to eye in them and see same light of vahiguroo in them radiant in all as per gurbani updesh- sabh gobind hai sabh gobind hai, it has worked for me significantly in the past and continue to work as these maya tendencies is to do with our perception. Our perception is seeing two (dualstic) because of maya influence and past life tendacies, major portion of our spiritual journey is to change our perception from two to one ek dristha/ek dristh (Ik0ngkar)..!!

[N30S1NGH]

ਕਾਨੜਾ ਮਹਲਾ ੫ ॥
Kaanarraa Mehalaa 5 ||
कानड़ा महला ५ ॥
Kaanraa, Fifth Mehl:

ਬਿਸਰਿ ਗਈ ਸਭ ਤਾਤਿ ਪਰਾਈ ॥
Bisar Gee Sabh Thaath Paraaee ||
बिसरि गई सभ ताति पराई ॥
I have totally forgotten my jealousy of others,

ਜਬ ਤੇ ਸਾਧਸੰਗਤਿ ਮੋਹਿ ਪਾਈ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥
Jab Thae Saadhhasangath Mohi Paaee ||1|| Rehaao ||
जब ते साधसंगति मोहि पाई ॥१॥ रहाउ ॥
Since I found the Saadh Sangat, the Company of the Holy. ||1||Pause||


ਨਾ ਕੋ ਬੈਰੀ ਨਹੀ ਬਿਗਾਨਾ ਸਗਲ ਸੰਗਿ ਹਮ ਕਉ ਬਨਿ ਆਈ ॥੧॥
Naa Ko Bairee Nehee Bigaanaa Sagal Sang Ham Ko Ban Aaee ||1||
ना को बैरी नही बिगाना सगल संगि हम कउ बनि आई ॥१॥
No one is my enemy, and no one is a stranger. I get along with everyone. ||1||


ਜੋ ਪ੍ਰਭ ਕੀਨੋ ਸੋ ਭਲ ਮਾਨਿਓ ਏਹ ਸੁਮਤਿ ਸਾਧੂ ਤੇ ਪਾਈ ॥੨॥
Jo Prabh Keeno So Bhal Maaniou Eaeh Sumath Saadhhoo Thae Paaee ||2||
जो प्रभ कीनो सो भल मानिओ एह सुमति साधू ते पाई ॥२॥
Whatever God does, I accept that as good. This is the sublime wisdom I have obtained from the Holy. ||2||

ਸਭ ਮਹਿ ਰਵਿ ਰਹਿਆ ਪ੍ਰਭੁ ਏਕੈ ਪੇਖਿ ਪੇਖਿ ਨਾਨਕ ਬਿਗਸਾਈ ॥੩॥੮॥
Sabh Mehi Rav Rehiaa Prabh Eaekai Paekh Paekh Naanak Bigasaaee ||3||8||
सभ महि रवि रहिआ प्रभु एकै पेखि पेखि नानक बिगसाई ॥३॥८॥
The One God is pervading in all. Gazing upon Him, beholding Him, Nanak blossoms forth in happiness. ||3||8||

[N30S1NGH]

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[DustOfTheSaintsFeet]

We were born with everything, the jewel is Nothing- this is the Truth that God discovered after many ages as per gurbani Truth has no form no image, na roop na rekh na rang.

There is either truth which is Nothing- or maya which is Something.

So what have we got to be jealous of- we already have the priceless treasure- the Only treasure- people are just too greedy and attached to image to understand it.

[Mrkhalsa007]

Thanks a lot everyone your comments and hyperlinks helped a lot

[Wingz23]

Vjkk Vjkf Saadh Sangat Ji

I sometimes get jealous at someone! And hate it! How should I stop! :o

Dont Worry Mate... You're Not the Only One

[tuhintuhin]

Is it wrong or paap to keep distance from an egoistic person?

[Wingz23]

Is it wrong or paap to keep distance from an egoistic person?

Not Really... If you feel that Being around someone egotistical makes you Negative. Youre doing the right thing by distancing yourself from them. You have To Look Out for Number 1 In The End.