Proud

[Guest Anonymous Author]

Waheguru ji kha khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh,

Sat Sri Akal sangat I have problem that is eating me inside and I hope you guys can help me, ok to cut a long story short, I am from Birmingham (UK), I’m a problem son in my family (or was), growing up I was known for getting into allot of fights when I was at college although good academically. At the age of 16 - 20 that was in my eyes the prime of me getting into fights, not with apneh but mainly with musalmaan and kaleh at which I was successful and I held my own and the fellow apne's reputation at college. Well the day came where I beat up a certain sulah in the college premises I know not a clever thing but it happened as I didn’t tolerate getting disrespected. well I had a disciplinary hearing and I got kicked out (my fault) I realised the hard way I didn’t complete my A levels in biology, physics and English and my parents didn’t know what to do with me, I was at home for a year considering what I should do, there was no other college I would go to in Birmingham as I knew id either be out numbered in some colleges and I just needed a break in terms of putting myself in these situations, well in that year I realised all my friends only wanted to know me when I was at college but when I got kicked out nobody wanted to know me although I did help them as a loyal veer, at home my parents looked down at me and I was not enjoying life. I knew deep down I need to change my ways because I lost out while everyone else had their careers on the go doing well etc etc. So I calmed down I only let the fighting happen in the boxing gym from which I’ve been at since I was 10 years old as im passionate about the sweet science, a couple of years went by and I decided to go back to college to finish my A levels this time it was different I was at a college out of Birmingham which I commuted to I didn’t have friends and I didn’t have the urge to make friends I had Waheguru and I didn’t need or want anyone else after learning the hard way I just wanted to sort my life out and do well for once, ok so I completed my A levels and now I’m off to university the reason why I got through it was because I got into Sikhi more, the first time I yearned listening to Ang 681, Raag Dhanaasree. Jo Mange Thakur Apne Teh id be in such bliss when listening to kirtan and doing naam simran. reading sakhis and trying to be a better Sikh when I had know one I had the Gurus wisdom, I learnt so much listening to kathas from Bhai Sukha singh and many others, this really helped me, I had reformed myself when a confrontation did happen wherever it may be I took it in a different manner I would think before I acted, I would walk away knowing I could destroy this guy if I wanted to and as I need a clean record as I want to pursue a career in health. But it’s got to a point now where I think I’m going too soft, I just think people are taking advantage taking my kindness for weakness and I regret not beating up those drunk polish guys a couple of hours ago, What do I do sangat ji, I’m still unfortunately Proud although taking these situations in a different account it eats me inside thinking that I have got too soft. I need help. Thanks for taking your time out reading this post. Waheguru Ji Kha Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki fateh.

[S4NGH]

Why use racist terms? Shallow. You sound like a thug. From your actions and the way you speak.

[Guest anonymous]

take ot asra of Guru , and [MOD CUT - IT'S AGAINST RULES TO PROMOTE ILLEGAL ACTS]

not may sikhs r strong like u,most of us are weak and scared and avoid such situations

[Guest Pritpal Singh]

I've been In a similar situation and I'm not a thug!! n I just avoid it now n walk away I know it's not macho but it's the right thing the world is a bad place especially when you want to do well it seems as if there is always something trying to put u down just concentrate on being a good Sikh and avoid such outcomes bruv everything happens for a reason. Waheguru

[Guest v w]

No one can make you feel down unless you want to. A simple positive reply back with a smile is 1000times more powerful than a beatdown .if anything says wrong to you reply back with confidence ,you are son of guru gobind singh ji ,you dont need to feel ashamed of anything .dont get phyisical first .brother if we start replying back to every barking dog .this will never going to stop.learn to ignore .have a positive attitude.

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[Shamshere]

It's good that you can take care of yourself. However your acts of violence will eventually come back to haunt you in an even worse manner than they have already. Either you will come across a stronger foe who will administer an even greater beating on you or you will end up in jail.

Think about it. Just keep your head down and continue your studies, also make better friends.

[Guest Truth]

Guru Gobind Singh Ji taught us only to weild the sword as a last resort- so theres your answer.

As for coming across soft, being humble doesnt mean acting weak. U know youre strong, just be yourself. Most people dont understand the hold that satan has on the majority of the population. When u start bhagti(path of loving devotion) he'll start testing the attachments u hold- to see what kind of maya reaction he can get out of u, lust, anger, greed, envy, ego, attachment, pride. When u react in one of these, and also when u lie,(even white lies) u fall of the path you've climbed- it effects your bandgi (good deeds, killing the 5 thieves).

Maya is always gna be around, dickheads are everywhere- what do u expect, its Kalyug, the darkest age- Guru Nanak says demons have born on the earth. The crap is there so that when we decide to detach from it all by practicing Truth, we strike all out and the light is strong (the more darkness, the greater we're able to detach). This is the time that bhagats should be getting up and practicing and applying the Truth of Gurbani instead of just reading it- whether u are amritdhari or nnot-remain pure in the gyan of Gurbani.

Dont worry about them, they only know the gimmick of society,they dont know freedom of choice. F*ck everyone else, live free. God is All powerful, Truth is all powerful, these people are just slaves to the 5 thieves.

[Guest Guru Hargobind ka Fa]

Be cutthroat, beatings are for softies. Be sinple, it's leave me alone or lose your life.

I'm 6 4 but I've had 7 ft 'men' twice my size quivering in their shoes because they know this Singh will cut them head to feet like shaheed bhai mani singh ji was if they touch my pagh and that's all.

They recognize, and I show them humility love and respect plus help them on the path of sikhi.

Listen man you hug human beings, but you bow to Shamsheer. If someone is becoming sword of evil you mist break ot, just continue on path of sikhi and these situations will lessen however there are times where you java to pass through.

Just do it, I was about to drop a body at college too but man chickened at last second and recognized he was wrong. He's my friend now, some lightskin kala.

[Guest Anonymous Author]

Brothers thanks for the replies it means a lot I'm really sorry if I had come across as a thug and I'm not racist I'm real but seriously I ain't it's just a lack of guidance from my elder peers I respect all the posts especially the veers that can relate to myself nice to know ppl in our kaum r not just spineless cause it gets to me how people in our kaum take[] off others and make out its all good but besides that thanks I will change my ways without letting pride get in the way Waheguru Ji Kha Khalsa Waheguru Ji Khi Fateh

[Shaastar]

i know how bad it is in Birmingham. Dont worry your in touch with Sikhi stay in tuned with Gurbani Microphone of Love and Service of Humanity all will be well..

The Panjabi side is great to keep culture in some ways but i reckon overall they need more Sikhi Workshops camps parchar sessions up there spreading into the Old areas for youngsters to tackle issues of changing communities, identities, drug epedemic, and helping the sangat to relink, beauty of life stages. I in no way underestimate the issues up there. But there is also a lot of good there too paaji.. Stay chardi kala.