My School Troubling Me

[Guest The Poor and Stupid]

I am from Punjab and have taken admission into a big University in the US. I got a scholarship from various universities but came here.

They took away my scholarship. Instead of believing in my capabilities they left me alone to my plight fully knowing my career will be destroyed if I quit the program.

Just recently I have had to pay a big bill in order to get the work permit. I have got a job for 3 months too. Again instead of encouraging and supporting me fully knowing that somehow I am fighting difficult circumstances to get to my goal. They are telling me to cut my job tenure by 1 week. They have made exceptions for local students who take leaves for marriage, honeymoon, etc but in my case they are always finding something wrong.

Now that I have paid my bills by picking up a loan, they are now asking me when will I pay for the next semester. I know I will do something and make ends meet.

I have been trying my best in such circumstances. I can fight adversity but it gets to me if someone is always pulling me up something and hounding me like this. I feel harassed and I feel I am going to get a nervous breakdown.

[Singh559]

I am from Punjab and have taken admission into a big University in the US. I got a scholarship from various universities but came here.

They took away my scholarship. Instead of believing in my capabilities they left me alone to my plight fully knowing my career will be destroyed if I quit the program.

Just recently I have had to pay a big bill in order to get the work permit. I have got a job for 3 months too. Again instead of encouraging and supporting me fully knowing that somehow I am fighting difficult circumstances to get to my goal. They are telling me to cut my job tenure by 1 week. They have made exceptions for local students who take leaves for marriage, honeymoon, etc but in my case they are always finding something wrong.

Now that I have paid my bills by picking up a loan, they are now asking me when will I pay for the next semester. I know I will do something and make ends meet.

I have been trying my best in such circumstances. I can fight adversity but it gets to me if someone is always pulling me up something and hounding me like this. I feel harassed and I feel I am going to get a nervous breakdown.

Do path and keep sabar bro. If you can try to get a job if you can in the end it will be worth it. You will come out stronger from this ordeal

[buddasingh]

You seem to suggest that you are being treated differently than others.

Are you suspecting that you are being discriminated against due to your dastar and full beard?

Where in the US are you and how long have you been there?

[ms514]

VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH

Any contact with HR of the workplace to discuss your treatment? If uncomfortable with taking this route, you may have to go through one of the Sikh rights orgs around (United Sikhs, SALDEF, Sikh Coalition) to assist you. Harassment and discrimination is not allowed and if this is determined to be taking place, it could have severe consequences for your employer.

[Guest The Poor Stupid Guy]

You seem to suggest that you are being treated differently than others.

Are you suspecting that you are being discriminated against due to your dastar and full beard?

Where in the US are you and how long have you been there?

Yes I am being treated more strictly compared to others. They dont seem to like me. They also are stand-offish. One of them is mean. However hard I try to create relationships with them by being polite to them, they seem very indifferent. They could be differentiating based on my appearance but they dont say that explicitly. Even Blacks say they are treated differently most of the places they go.

I don`t think how long I have been here matters. What matters is while the locals can negotiate and throw terms , I am not empowered to do so. They can be late and they can afford to walk out of the line whereas I cant. My local friends just disregard them and chill.

[singhbj singh]

This happens to all outsiders whether you are in US or India.

Mingle with like minded people at Uni & work place.

Avoid negative people & situations.

Keep in mind that you are there to study/work not to socialise.

If you want to socialise do so after study/work hours with people outside Uni & work place.

Visit Gurdwara, have Langar, do Saadhsangat, then Seva and later socialise with Sangat.

[Guest The Poor and Stupid]

This happens to all outsiders whether you are in US or India.

Mingle with like minded people at Uni & work place.

Avoid negative people & situations.

Keep in mind that you are there to study/work not to socialise.

If you want to socialise do so after study/work hours with people outside Uni & work place.

Visit Gurdwara, have Langar, do Saadhsangat, then Seva and later socialise with Sangat.

I am talking about the administration not the treatment from my classmates. My local Classmates (White and Black) are as dear to me if not dearer than my Indian Classmates. They like me more and share with me more.

I think you got the entire thing wrong.

[singhbj singh]

There could be N number of reasons for their conduct.

It could be personal, communal or even official.

Nobody know's !

Will suggest that you seek help from Student Counselor, students union or foreign students society.

[ShasterSingh]

Stay strong on the path, have conviction and be aware, stay safe.

Hang in there brother.