I've Cut My Hair..i Don't Feel Anymore

[Guest GuptForAReason]

Hi All, this might be a little bit of a read but here's background.

I started growing my hair when i was 16, my family were all against it and asked numerous times that if i took this path i would have to stick with it, 3 months later i took Amrit and it was amazing. I went strong for a very long time, i made some mistakes but i did my pesh and carried on with my life. Over the years i became lazy, slacked with Bani and AmritVelah and eventually stopped doing it altogether by the time i hit uni (18). I then started eating meat, my parents were totally supportive and said it was okay and have been eating it ever since, i kept my dari and kesh and carried on.

After a while i questioned why bother being a singh anymore if i've done all of this stuff, and recently those feelings have been getting worse and worse. I should have stopped and gone to the gurdwara, sat with sangat and cleansed my mind but i didn't want to. Not because i'm lazy but because i was just emotionally drained at this point. I've posted in this forum before, severe depression has taken its toll on me and i've contemplated suicide a few times.

Anyways, a few days ago i had the feeling of cutting my kes, i thought it would make my life easier. So i took a pair of scissor and cut a few strands, i didn't feel any remorse or bad feelings and carried on cutting it. After it was all gone i sat down and carried on like nothing happened, i felt nothing, i felt like i did no wrong, but i felt like a great weight had been lifted off of me.

I don't know how to tell my parents about this, although i know they wouldnt mind me cutting my dara because they've said before they are okay with it, i'm not sure how they will react to my head hair being cut.

Any advice on how to approach my parents ?

[simran345]

Hi All, this might be a little bit of a read but here's background.

I started growing my hair when i was 16, my family were all against it and asked numerous times that if i took this path i would have to stick with it, 3 months later i took Amrit and it was amazing. I went strong for a very long time, i made some mistakes but i did my pesh and carried on with my life. Over the years i became lazy, slacked with Bani and AmritVelah and eventually stopped doing it altogether by the time i hit uni (18). I then started eating meat, my parents were totally supportive and said it was okay and have been eating it ever since, i kept my dari and kesh and carried on.

After a while i questioned why bother being a singh anymore if i've done all of this stuff, and recently those feelings have been getting worse and worse. I should have stopped and gone to the gurdwara, sat with sangat and cleansed my mind but i didn't want to. Not because i'm lazy but because i was just emotionally drained at this point. I've posted in this forum before, severe depression has taken its toll on me and i've contemplated suicide a few times.

Anyways, a few days ago i had the feeling of cutting my kes, i thought it would make my life easier. So i took a pair of scissor and cut a few strands, i didn't feel any remorse or bad feelings and carried on cutting it. After it was all gone i sat down and carried on like nothing happened, i felt nothing, i felt like i did no wrong, but i felt like a great weight had been lifted off of me.

I don't know how to tell my parents about this, although i know they wouldnt mind me cutting my dara because they've said before they are okay with it, i'm not sure how they will react to my head hair being cut.

Any advice on how to approach my parents ?

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[Guest Jacfsing2]

Hi All, this might be a little bit of a read but here's background.

I started growing my hair when i was 16, my family were all against it and asked numerous times that if i took this path i would have to stick with it, 3 months later i took Amrit and it was amazing. I went strong for a very long time, i made some mistakes but i did my pesh and carried on with my life. Over the years i became lazy, slacked with Bani and AmritVelah and eventually stopped doing it altogether by the time i hit uni (18). I then started eating meat, my parents were totally supportive and said it was okay and have been eating it ever since, i kept my dari and kesh and carried on.

After a while i questioned why bother being a singh anymore if i've done all of this stuff, and recently those feelings have been getting worse and worse. I should have stopped and gone to the gurdwara, sat with sangat and cleansed my mind but i didn't want to. Not because i'm lazy but because i was just emotionally drained at this point. I've posted in this forum before, severe depression has taken its toll on me and i've contemplated suicide a few times.

Anyways, a few days ago i had the feeling of cutting my kes, i thought it would make my life easier. So i took a pair of scissor and cut a few strands, i didn't feel any remorse or bad feelings and carried on cutting it. After it was all gone i sat down and carried on like nothing happened, i felt nothing, i felt like i did no wrong, but i felt like a great weight had been lifted off of me.

I don't know how to tell my parents about this, although i know they wouldnt mind me cutting my dara because they've said before they are okay with it, i'm not sure how they will react to my head hair being cut.

Any advice on how to approach my parents ?

There's no difference between Kesh on the head vs kesh anywhere else, if they are letting you cut the dhari, then it should be practical they let you cut your head Kesh. You could contact one of them helpline groups.

[sikhni777]

What a sad story. What I wonder is why people don't just go talk to someone instead of posting their worst moments on here. It is totally different if you are asking for some inspiration. Trying to put your man mat infront of all - is just so sad.

I am not trying to say that we are perfect. We all have moments when we are broken away from God because of our lack of faith. Broken away from him means that we are going to follow our own brain instead of following what the Guru says.

After we have gone through this episode of visarna from God we suffer greatly until he unites us with him again. This is why you keep telling people to Naam jap and they just can't.

I have gone through this stage many times. One of these trying times it just took a visit to the Guradwara and my brother guided me into performing a sukhmani sahib dha path in the Guradwara. This sort of greatly helped me get in touch back again. What ever happens we must force ourselves to the Guradwara and sit down and get some sangat and do some simran for a time. It greatly helps instead of just surrendering to our man mat. We have free will at the end of the day.

[Singh559]

It will be hard to approach your real parents. Vaheguru.

Hope you find your path way back man

[simran345]

What a sad story. What I wonder is why people don't just go talk to someone instead of posting their worst moments on here. It is totally different if you are asking for some inspiration. Trying to put your man mat infront of all - is just so sad.

I am not trying to say that we are perfect. We all have moments when we are broken away from God because of our lack of faith. Broken away from him means that we are going to follow our own brain instead of following what the Guru says.

After we have gone through this episode of visarna from God we suffer greatly until he unites us with him again. This is why you keep telling people to Naam jap and they just can't.

I have gone through this stage many times. One of these trying times it just took a visit to the Guradwara and my brother guided me into performing a sukhmani sahib dha path in the Guradwara. This sort of greatly helped me get in touch back again. What ever happens we must force ourselves to the Guradwara and sit down and get some sangat and do some simran for a time. It greatly helps instead of just surrendering to our man mat. We have free will at the end of the day.

People post their worst moments on here because they don't have nobody to talk to, otherwise they wouldn't post on here,

You are a very judgmental person, and this attitude breaks people from Sikhi, not help them to towards coming to Sikhi.

Whatever method has worked for you, doesn't mean it's going to work for somebody else, you are right we are not perfect, but we should also not put somebody down for asking advice, as the OP would have took a lot of courage to write on here.

So if you haven't been in that situation, then don't belittle somebody.

[sikhni777]

sorry not belittling someone. I have just mentioned that I have been in that situation many times maybe 4 or 5 or more. That is why I symphatise with them. Their parents should have guided them by taking them to the Guradwara.

That is worked best for me of all the times I was in trouble myself.

[simran345]

What a sad story. What I wonder is why people don't just go talk to someone instead of posting their worst moments on here.

But you did belittle him here, by being judgmental on what he is going through. He is going through depression and thought about suicide, so instead of writing the first sentence, which is judgemental, a different approach would have been better penji.

If he had his parents guidance, he wouldn't be writing on here, so the best one can do is guide him to the right path.

OP contact the above helplines.

[Guest Guest]

OP here, thanks for all the comments. I think the best thing for me to do is contact SikhHelpline and talk to some professionals.

It has been funny reading the mixed messages to my first post, but it's right. I posted into this gupt forum because i felt i had nowhere to go. Challo, Maharaaj kirpa lets see what happens!

[simran345]

OP here, thanks for all the comments. I think the best thing for me to do is contact SikhHelpline and talk to some professionals.

It has been funny reading the mixed messages to my first post, but it's right. I posted into this gupt forum because i felt i had nowhere to go. Challo, Maharaaj kirpa lets see what happens!

Good thinking, hope it goes well with them and let us know how you get on.