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Not used this forum before so unexpected of reponse bt here goes...


Recently been suffering from a lot of family problems, mood and self esteem has been quite low. Ive recently just ended a relationship with a person who i was helping to come into Sikhi and take amrit but due to her faith her family have stopped her seeing me. I am amritdhari myself. We were together for a year and whilst we haven't had actual sex we have unfortunately crossed that line of self restraint, something which i am quite guilty and upset about.

Moving on, recently i feel my Sikhi has gone down quite a bit. I just about get my nitnem done, struggle to wake up to do Simran before my nitnem, feel weak constantly and always in a negative mood. I will be going to Panj about my mistake but im worried of the punishment they will give, does anyone know what they usually give?

Could anyone help me in the direction of helping me get back on track with my Sikhi? What bani or videos should i listen or watch to help me readjust myself?

Dhanvaad.

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Do a lot of Kabio Bach Benti Chaupai Sahib jaap, it will help with tainndi kala , bir ras, and is of course a plea for help against the panj chor and other difficulties in life . Whatever Panj Piare give as punishment understand it as Guru Pita ji giving you that adjustment ...don't be afraid ...sounds like you are remorseful Guru Ji knows your heart and story .

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The panj usually give seva or paath as punishment so dont worry.

Also please listen to bhai vir singhs letters called pyare jio.heres a link:

http://www.gurbaniupdesh.org/multimedia/listing.php?q=f&f=%2F01-Audio+Books%2FPyare+Jio

But u can find them on youtube,vidhia.com

Also watch on youtube BasicsofSikhi and Bhai Sukha singh UK

In addition.u can listen to bhai pinderpal singh, sant maskeen singh, giani kulwant singh. There r many resources online now. But the letters of bhai veer singh r kost helpful

Also try to do simran n sukhmani.sahib if possible

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