I mentioned this Mami-Bhanja situation to my mum as obliquely as I could manage it, lol, and to my surprise she said there's always been whispers of this kind of gandh when she was growing up during her childhood / teens, which was throughout the 70s. I'm shocked, tbh. Another common sordid interaction is the Bhua's Son and Mama's Daughter. This is truly taboo stuff. Disgusting.
They definitely have resentment.
I have heard some of this underlying remarks which suggest this, " Tu te sirf baharo aiya vah "
But the "incest " like thing gets to me and they have no shame.
Where as we have grown up with goreh's, " bonk them, <banned word filter activated> that, dump them to get off with that one!"
Our elders need to be questioned. How can they bring us up to feel inferior to people from Punjab when the people are this way.
Was Punjab always this way and were they b.s'ing all along?
It's very subtle but they seem to resent us purely because of the accident of us being born overseas. I'd understand if the person in question is a clown, but not so much if he or she are fairly decent and respectable.
There's a palpable yet very subtle hostility even between cousins from the same family when Beletiyeh return to their family home on an excursion. This type of mentality is a telltale sign of a primitive intellect, and it's those people who require minimal prodding to turn into actual and dangerous threats.