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My wife and I live in Canada. My wife's family is in India, most of her relatives don't have a lot of money. 

If we send money to her relatives when they need it, would this be considered dasvandh? 

 

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It is nice of you helping someone. but I would say to be careful. Make sure that someone does not take advantage of you.

Ask yourself this: Are you sending them money only because they are relatives? Will you absolutely be doing same thing for any random person with genuine reason?

 

 

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no its not dasvandh because they are your relatives, however you are right to help them, because they are your family.  it would be hypocrisy for you to helping others and ignore your own family.

what are you sending it for (you don't have to answer?.  i mean do they really need it or is it just gifts?  e.g. are you sending it because they *need* clothes, school books, food, medicine- i.e. they don't have the essential basics, or do they have all their basic needs and you are just increasing their standard- e.g. new car, smartphone etc.   the former would be like dasvandh, the latter more gifts.

i guess it could be dasvandh so long as you don't expect anything in return.

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I completely agree that sending for gifts would not be considered dasvandh.

Let me lay out theoretical scenarios, please tell me if any of these can be sent from dasvandh:

1. relative needs to pay back debt but don't have enough money at the moment. (They are very responsible people, just needed to borrow at the time)

2. relative had a baby, sending money for operation

3. someone passed the IELTS exam and needs money to come to Canada.

4. 2 neighbors that are not getting along are building a wall to separate their families, but they are very poor. Sending money to help fund this.

 

Thanks very much

 

 

 

 

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