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Well, also need to take into account what the Country 's law state. Allowed marriage at 16 - 17 WITH family consent and BOTH couple's consent. BOTH must be 16 -17! 18 plus no consent needed for marriage only both couples. 

Used to be 18 plus but nowadays with "Kids cleverness " they act like know it alls so I think it 16 plus?? Joking. 

Only paapi / kaami 18 plus gets married to minors below 18. Yes, every country has its own culture BUT COME ON! MAN. 

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back then was waaaay different. ppl didn’t attend higher education or have much to do after the age of like… 13, lol. you’d have 13 year olds boys and girls that know how to do kethi, cook entire meals, etc 
 

nowadays even 22 year olds are extremely immature and can be sheltered. the average person doesn’t know how to do anything except their 9-5 which they are probably half arsing as well.

 

 

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On 9/1/2023 at 8:21 AM, dallysingh101 said:

Just another heads up to the sangat. Analyse this. Clearly this guy is a nonce. And he is amongst us. He wont be the only one. These people are diseased.

Yeah, that's one possibility.

Another I initially thought is that it's a Muslim trying to gather info. But then, you might ask, how does he know about Sikh textual sources. Well, you'd be surprised at their resourcefulness.

A final possibility is he's a weak Sikh who was asked a question by a non-Sikh and now he's suddenly feverishly wondering where it's "written" that you can't marry a young child.

To the latter, I would say, you're looking in the wrong spot. Gurbani isn't a 1428 page rulebook, like Leviticus or the Vedas:

ਸਿਮ੍ਰਿਤਿ ਸਾਸਤ੍ਰ ਪੁੰਨ ਪਾਪ ਬੀਚਾਰਦੇ ਤਤੈ ਸਾਰ ਨ ਜਾਣੀ ॥
ਤਤੈ ਸਾਰ ਨ ਜਾਣੀ ਗੁਰੂ ਬਾਝਹੁ ਤਤੈ ਸਾਰ ਨ ਜਾਣੀ ॥

The Simritis and Shastras discriminate between charity and sin, but know not the essence of the Real Thing. Without the Guru, they know not the essence of the Reality, know not the essence of the Reality. Anand Sahib.

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