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about my sister..
by Guest H.Singhh- 9 replies
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wjkk wjkf, Im 19 and my sister is 18. my family is quite religious but also quite liberal. My parents and I are amrit dhari but my sister is not, i guess it was to do with sangat, i was blssed with amrit at a young age (15) a few years after my parents were. to cut a long story short, ive become aware of what my sister is like outside the house and it breaks my heart. shes never been religious but she has kept her kesh n doesnt drink or smoke etc but ive recently found out she messes around with gore guys and goes on dates etc. shes in with the wrong sort of crowd, her sangat is kind of unavoidable bc she works full time and her friends are her collegues…
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About relatives and marriage
by Guest Kaur- 4 replies
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Sat Shri Akal ji, I was thinking many times should I discuss this topic in sikh forum or not. Now, I decided to share that. I am living in Australia. When I came Australia after 1 year my father died. My all relatives tell or can say pressure my mom now you should found a girl for your son that will help you to come up from this situation. My mother was already in trauma so she thought thar her father, mother or bother, sister thinks good for her. So, all relatives started to found a girl for my brother. My mother’s sister(my massi ji) tells about a girl to my mother and said she is doing IELTS you should marry your son with that girl. Your daughter and son will be toge…
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About Tell Me About Rss
by Guest manmeet singh- 3 replies
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PLease any body tell me that how the harmful RSS for sikhi in india?
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About To Go Insane 1 2 3
by Guest Singh?- 23 replies
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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fathey Guru ki saadh sangat i turn to you for help. Im really into sikhism and i follow it as strict as i can. I wake up early at amrit vela and go to gurdwara sahib to help with prakash and nitnem. But im still really young. age 13. My parents wont accept that im turning into a devoted sikh. I havnt taken amrit yet but hope to as sooon as the gurdwara sahib perpars it. My parents give me no support tell me not to go to the gurdwara so much, dont want me in khalsa colors, dont want me wearing a round dastaar or even hanging out with amrit dhari kids. They say that theyll brainwash me. Im really stuck and i dont no what to do. I no fo…
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About To Take Amrit!...but 1 2
by Guest _GUPT_- 13 replies
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vjkk vjkf! im about to take amrit soon. but i have some questions that i think i need to know before hand ........these questions are kinda silly, but i need to know em! 1) can you tell the difference b/w a taksali kirpan if someone is wearing one? or is not noticeable at all? 2) whats the importance of ishnaan durig amritvela. i ususaly get up and do simran and paat, but dont take a shower since its to early and i wouldnt really feel a difference. but if there is a point on taking it that early in the morning, please do explain! 3) i know you cannot eat egg. BUt what if theres eggs in cookies or some breads? how can you tell? do all amritdharies be really picky and …
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I was just wondering about this thing. I am a Sikh (non-AmritDhari) with uncut hair and wear a turban everytime.I am going to be an engineering graduate in a year. But I am like very much into sports ,I have been a state Cricket Player ,and recently I have been playing Golf , and during long Sunday mornings in Greens , Sun really beats the hell out of me , if I don't wear a cap , So I generally , wear a patka and a cap on top of it , and even when fielding in Cricket for long time , I do wear a cap. So is this wrong? , I know wearing of anything else but Dastaar is not permitted in Sikhism . But what about SIKH sahibaans who do other stuff than Bhakti? which is definitel…
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absolute vs relative morality
by Guest Haridas- 6 replies
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What is relative morality? It means basing your morals on what those around you are doing. E.g. everyone else drinks (alcohol) so why shouldn't I drink? Everyone else lies and steals should why shouldn't I? Mindless conformity. And what is absolute morality? Morality that is timeless, that your inner conscience tells you (and common sense) is right, and that is often expressed by higher principles. E.g. Drinking alcohol is immoral. Lying is wrong. Stealing is wrong. And even if 99% of the people around me may engage in these things, I won't, on this basis. This is intelligence based on individuality. The point in this post is that I think too many peop…
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Absolutely Amazing!
by Guest SriDarbarSahib- 0 replies
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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh! Bhai Tajvinder Singh Ji was born and raised in California and is officially a Hazoori Ragi of Sachkhand Sri Darbar Sahib Amritsar. He is the first Hazoori Ragi to relocate from the USA to Amritsar, India and has the title of being the YOUNGEST Sikh ever (at the age of 22) to attain the status of Hazoori Ragi for Sri Darbar Sahib. Check out his website: You can also listen to his kirtan in the Harimander Sahib kirtan archives or listen to it live when he is scheduled to perform at
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abstinence celibacy
by Guest Hdas- 0 replies
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Hi this probably wont be a popular thread at all, but just some food for thought. In the ancient text 'Yoga Sutra', is describes how brahmacharya (freedom from sex) denotes true manhood. The same would apply with womanhood. In older times, both genders would consider brahmacharya the normal state (until marriage). Nowadays it seems sexuality is equated with manhood and womanhood, mainly through media brainwashing. However, even the most foolish and immature teenagers could engage in sexual behaviour. (Hence the previously stated attitude is clearly erroneous). Also implied by the media is that sex is a need. Sex may be a desire, but it is not a need. …
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Abuse By Amritdhari Boy
by Guest Singhni2465- 9 replies
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Hi I'm a young girl and was in a relationship with an amritdhari boy, he used to abuse me (punched, kicked, beaten up) to the point where police and adults got involved. However he never admitted to anything that he had done and got away with it, he now lives the life of a 'perfect' Amrit Dhari boy & walked away like none of this had affected him. What does gurbani say about people who abuse others, will he be punished or has he gotten away with it all?
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Abuse By Trusted Religious Sikhs
by Guest Rkaur- 7 replies
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Wearing a turban is supposed to demOnstrate that your Sikh and that follow Sikhi, so then why do some Sikhs abuse this by wearing a turban and then abusing vulnerable children? What do you do if someone in a trusted position does this to you? Who do you talk to? How do you stop them from preying on others as you're to weak to stop them and speak out. I'm really struggling here and need help. I need to believe that waheguru will help me to overcome the misery that is my life. Will he?
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Abuse Towards Boys.
by Guest Shamed!- 3 replies
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I just wanted to provide a story for the male victims of molesters etc because I know it’s a problem for girls but I just wanted to make sure the sangat is aware that boys can also be targeted. Well when I was younger about 4-7 I was constantly sexually felt up by my older cousins, I don’t keep in contact with them anymore and my family don’t either for other reasons. I never told my Parents because they used to tell me its normal behaviour and that it is rude to tell others and that I would be in trouble. When I was about 8-10 and once more at 14 I got sexually abused by my Mama (Mum’s Bro), and he is an AmritDhari, once again I don’t keep in contact and my family rare…
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Abuse within the Sikh community
by Guest JKG- 4 replies
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Vaheguroo Jee Ka Khalsa Vaheguroo Jee Kee Fateh Jee ? As a family we're fairly new to Sikhi and only started to connect to it more since going to a divaan with my Masee Jee in Canada last time we visited. The Bhai doing katha was really knowledgable and spoke in English. My husband was sent a link yesterday to a youtube video about sexual abuse "committed" by this Bhai Jee. My son has even started reading his Jap Jee Sahib da Paht and tying a Domala because of it. Ive been reading more on Sikh Sangat since working from home as it has helped me learn a lot since coming into Sikhi. I thought maybe somebody on here could provide me with some clarification regarding this …
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today a friend of mine got in touch.......basically she was seeing a guy and they decided to speak to their folks about getting married..............but her folks flipped and beat her up (she has three brothers) they took kirpans out on her and brutally attacked her..............the worst thing was this happend last yr and we were at uni together and she didnt say anything.................she simply dissapeared and only just got in touch...............apparently she had so badly been beated her family wud not let her be seen in public until she physically "appeared" normal She rang me today and told me how she is baeten on a nearly week-to-week basis by her brothers.....…
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Gurfateh It has come to our Attention that members are posting topics to do with Meat, Becoming Vegitarian etc however in some circumstances we have seen users abuse the gupt privilege. An example of this is in Meat topics where one user is posting from both Sides, Pro and Against. This post is simply a reminder to everyone that even though Gupt forum ensures annominity from the members, it doesnt offer the same from Moderators and Administrators. Therefore its really easy for us to see the type of posts a gupt member makes in Gupt Forum and what their registered username is. We do not check who is posting in Gupt forum and what their registered username is, unless th…
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Leaving aside Guru ji, the general question of taking afeem (opium) in limited quantities for war/medical wounds is simply unproblematic. When you go to the hospital, they give you morphine. What do you think morphine is? It's an opiate. Even codeine (cough syrup) is an opiate! Ever had a cough? Granted, it is against Gurmat to take opium or other drugs for the fun of it. -
Yeah, that's one possibility. Another I initially thought is that it's a Muslim trying to gather info. But then, you might ask, how does he know about Sikh textual sources. Well, you'd be surprised at their resourcefulness. A final possibility is he's a weak Sikh who was asked a question by a non-Sikh and now he's suddenly feverishly wondering where it's "written" that you can't marry a young child. To the latter, I would say, you're looking in the wrong spot. Gurbani isn't a 1428 page rulebook, like Leviticus or the Vedas: ਸਿਮ੍ਰਿਤਿ ਸਾਸਤ੍ਰ ਪੁੰਨ ਪਾਪ ਬੀਚਾਰਦੇ ਤਤੈ ਸਾਰ ਨ ਜਾਣੀ ॥ ਤਤੈ ਸਾਰ ਨ ਜਾਣੀ ਗੁਰੂ ਬਾਝਹੁ ਤਤੈ ਸਾਰ ਨ ਜਾਣੀ ॥ The Simritis and Shastras discriminate between charity and sin, but know not the essence of the Real Thing. Without the Guru, they know not the essence of the Reality, know not the essence of the Reality. Anand Sahib.
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back then was waaaay different. ppl didn’t attend higher education or have much to do after the age of like… 13, lol. you’d have 13 year olds boys and girls that know how to do kethi, cook entire meals, etc nowadays even 22 year olds are extremely immature and can be sheltered. the average person doesn’t know how to do anything except their 9-5 which they are probably half arsing as well.
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