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Not until caste based reservations have been stopped.

I'm using her own words if you care to read her posts. It's clear she hasn't any Sikh male friends, doesn't like or relate to them. So with this Dutch guy showing interest she could try and learn more about where his views on various topics lie. Before giving up altogether. Especially as they are clearly friends and attracted to each other.

Don't throw away the potential of a loving caring relationship for something you only recently decided was 'a big aspect' of your life. Unless you are prepared to face the real fact of being single your whole life. Love conquers all. Isn't that what all religions are about anyway, except for those that exclude unbelievers? The fact you have your mother's support should be your first consideration. Why not invite him over and then see where it goes without predetermining an outcome. And involve your mum in the process?

Yes but 90% of people will lose weight by eating less food. Those that don't may have health conditions they haven't resolved.

I think he's controlled by the CIA. He attended a freemason's meeting many years ago and I don't think you can do that if you're not a member.

Sat Sri Akaal ji, Welcome to UK! Here is another website that might be useful in deciding schools. https://www.locrating.com/school_catchment_areas.aspx?lat=51.7492956&lng=-0.3422526 St Albans might be suitable. I used to visit friends there many years ago and it was a very nice area. It seems to have many good schools.

This is organised gangstalking for money and profit. It involves all sorts of companies and individuals. I met someone who was subjected to this who ended up in a mental health hospital as she had suffered from a breakdown. She believed it was being done to her as she was creative and talented at a very young age, so designed to destroy her career, as it did due to the mental scarring. So someone paid an acting agency to gangstalk her as they couldn't sack her. I believe in this case the same thing must have happened as so many actors were involved. They have made a lot of money from Apple and Spotify with the story. Also the series may have been shared on the Darkweb where members pay for real life stories. This happens to Targeted Individuals whose daily tortures are shared to satisfy the sickos passing as members. Both the security services and police are involved in these crimes. Hence perhaps why there is a reluctance to investigate. Those involved may have been forced to take part as part of a rite of passage to ensure a successful career and family life. Otherwise how is it that Simran hadn't even been interviewed by the Police? It is disgusting and shocking beyond belief.

I think you have given us a good insight into your parents and family life. Having understood your situation I don't think your parents will pick up on subtle hints to improve their attitude and behaviour as you seem to expect. It may need more direct communication if you want to motivate them. And don't bank on knowing how they will react (with unconditional love) if they feel betrayed.

I'm sure that counts as sexual assault or rape.

Interesting. What happens to their karmas? Let's say there's a murderer and the family of the victim is pursuing justice. What happens?

Thanks for the upvote. Glad you could appreciate the intention. ?

You will meet them in your next life if you are attached to them.

It is govt mandated as you say. It's due to plans to use AI to control humanity and religions get in the way. My attempts to listen to mantras are regularly interrupted in various way. As having independent thoughts and actions are deemed counter productive to the agenda. So we must fight against this evil.

Yes, I feel the same happened to my father following his mistreatment by the NHS as he died alone and in distress due to the negligence of the district nurse as well as others. My attempts to bring these people to book were sabotaged in many ways. I had a dream of him being extremely distressed which came after I had written something positive about him. It seemed that those holding him released him after these thoughts. This was 2 years after his passing. Even the last dream I had about him was not great but better than before. So I have been honouring him on his death anniversary and his birthday in the hope it will help him find peace.

A couple of years ago I met someone who told me that he knew someone's grandmother who had died and occasionally came back and took over her daughters body when she wanted to relay some advice regarding the family. He was a witness to it as it was a family member though I can't recall exactly who it was. He said you could tell it was real as the daughter's voice changed as her body was taken over. So clearly it was the spirit of this grandmother that could do this. I also have experience of having my soul hijacked whilst I was asleep on two occasions. These were not dreams as I had the sensation of my soul coming back into my body as I stirred. I had been saying out loud that I will live to be 100 as I had been made very sick. So in the last 'dream' some people were trying to tell me that I was very sick and would die soon as i could hardly walk. After I got up I said out loud that whoever was doing this to stop right now as I do not consent and if they need to persuade me to die they have zero power over my thoughts or intentions.

Hmm. From my understanding where you go depends on one's beliefs. Though we believed we had performed all the rites according to her beliefs as an Arya Samaji, it maybe we didn't. She was essentially killed by the NHS for which there was an autopsy and it appeared to us that she was in considerable pain before death. So we also asked priests in India to undertake Shanti rituals which they did. Her real mother died in 1998 in India having lived with my parents during her last year. My mother had been given at birth to her widowed aunt on her father's side, who had lost her husband and 3 children by the age of 30. They were all forced out of their home during Partition too for which the whole family suffered psychologically as well as due to the forced poverty. They were never compensated for their loss of property as was promised. So it maybe she was severely affected by all these events and felt a need to be with her real mother. As she never talked about her beliefs we can only guess what her real wishes were. As my father believed in reincarnation he talked about being with my mother in his next life and clearly said he will even follow her to the ends of the earth. We gave him the same rituals as my mother as he had said he was an agnostic. We also did additional Shanti rituals for him as well. So the rituals may not be the whole story as the persons stated desires perhaps also play a part. But you have not mentioned reincarnation as an option rather than a ghost. From my understanding ghosts don't have a body until they reincarnate. Edit. Satguru says a distressful death can affect your soul's journey thereafter. But that may mean those that die at the hands of the NHS may go to Hell as they are usually full of drugs, and no-one bothers with calling a priest prior to death. So where are we heading? I met an ex NHS social worker who said he saw a ghost whilst on night shift in a hospital who turned out to be a patient that had died a year before.

Welcome. ?

I understand what you are saying. You can ask her in your mind or out loud and wait for a sign. After my mother died I kept wondering about her though I had many dreams. But during the last one I asked her where she was and she said she was 'in India with her mother'. This made perfect sense to me.

There seems to be alot of deceit involved in your plans. Have you thought about having a family meeting and telling them how you feel? Perhaps tell them if you continue feeling unhappy you would have to move out. Also ask them to consider undergoing family therapy that involves the whole family where everyone gets their say? This way the therapist/consultant would have the job of pointing you all in the right direction that would benefit the whole family. It might be expensive but then might save alot of heartache in the future for all concerned. Maybe use someone who understands the culture, or even someone from the gurudwara who is capable of acting as a mediator. But don't skimp on cost if you can afford it. Find the right person. My instinct says you have not tried to handle this in a mature way though you clearly understand how this will impact on your younger siblings, as well as your parents. It's not a simple case of buying you way out. What are the causes of stress? Do you take regular holidays, outings as a family. A regular meal out can do wonders to build family bonds. A weekend in the countryside can be very rejuvenating or even a day trip. As the eldest you have a responsibility to your younger siblings especially in the circumstances you are speaking of so before taking such drastic steps you should exhaust all possible alternatives. Who knows if you invest the time and money in your family now it may even save you money in the future. I'm not saying live with them forever but at least leave on a high after they are taught how to mentally adjust to new circumstances. Show them or learn a different way.

If you're able, I suggest you do some charity work, maybe helping the homeless for example. Seeing people worse off than yourself may help you stop thinking about your own problems.

Those having lived abroad for decades would not be able to relate to the Indian residents and would consider themselves as expats or Western. They would end up living in ghettos with other foreign Sikhs. It's already happened with other UK Indians settled in Mumbai. However with their Western mindset they may being new ideas of entrepreneurship as the African Indians did in the UK.

They must have found out who did it, but to protect themselves they had to punish the patsy. Otherwise they would have risked an escalation by, probably, their own govt. So this was the safest and easiest bet. Otherwise, its not clear why they did not release the entire video or statements made by the victim. No doubt the investigation will reveal more in the coming days/months. https://www.opindia.com/2021/10/family-of-lakhbir-singh-distraught-nihangs-unapologetic-but-blame-govt/

Except that they don't. Many schools of thought are rejected and adherents persecuted. There is also racism in Israel so they would be worse off. Many Indians are suffering due to it.

They're mostly from the West Pakistan region as they were escaping the clutches of the Muslims on the night of 14th August 1947. Hence why most speak Punjabi and not Kashmiri.

If you are focused on 'good salary' then you will not necessarily attract the most pious, upstanding citizens who are committed to a lifetime of seva. It is better that you choose someone based on their character and personality. It is not a career but a spiritual calling. To that end then only their needs should be considered ie. Rent or mortgage subsidy and a stipend to cover living costs. So in theory living quarters could be built within the gurudwara itself if funds are scarce until such time a flat or house is purchased for the use of the granthi. Otherwise you are only feeding their ego and greed as is happening in Christian churches. A way forward may be to sponsor a few students to go to India to learn the various religious texts, as GGSji did by sending some of his followers to learn Sanskrit and the vedic texts, to have an understanding of spiritual practices. By immersing themselves in this way, they can decide whether it is really for them as they would need to be committed for a number of years to complete the training. ISKCON do this on an international basis by sponsoring young children and youths to live the life of a sanyassi who are then employed in temples across the world. They learn skills they could not in the conventional way. Here is a short video.