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personally wht i feel is that sex before marriage is a NO in sikhi (infact any other religion too)....guru ji said KAAM is one of the five evils.....

but they have to be used only at right time ..like krodh for defending religion or punishing the tyrants......similarly kaam after marriage...

these days speacially and that too around 20s ...kaam is a big nuisance....always a hindrance...i beleive if i can control kaam....rest will be smoothened out....

contraception (umm...i m still young tongue.gif never thought much abt it)..well if sex is after marriage ....then whts the need..1 or 2 kids and thats it....back to the primal duty of naam.....there's a very nice kathaa by sant maskeen singh ji on kaam in proudtobesikh.com....i hope everyone will find an answer thre...

anywys nice topic...aaargh i try so much to avoid v1.gif kaaam ..its everywhre

but whtever it is ...i feel if a person does simran and nitnem daily with heart ..guru ji aape sab theek kar dende haan!!!

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is contraception really wrong??i know a lot of couples who use contraception

can sex be wrong between a husband and wife when it is an act of love rather than just pure kaam? grin.gif

this is what someone told me one time - please forgive this anjaan bachi if it is wrong! -

ok so there was a Singh ji with Sant Jarnail Singh ji Bhindravaleh (note for Harpal - look at the spelling!),ok so he was in their seva and stuff and one day his wife came to Sant ji and said i'm not happy in my marriage, my husband is not fulfilling his role as a husband i.e. sexually etc etc and Sant ji is said to have said to this Singh ji something like "if you want to serve the panth, first serve your family"

- again only something a friend told me in a conversation so please forgive me if it is false.

also the same friend told me that one time back in the day of Guru Gobind Singh ji there was a brahmin who spent all his day praying etc and his wife therefore slept around, and Guru ji is said to have said that she is right to do so when her husband is not doing what he is meant to as a husband - i.e. have sex with her

again the above are things that have been relayed to me, not my personal opinions/views/made up stories or whatever (lol) so if they are false in any manner please forgive me!

bhul chuk maaph

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personally i think its a question of your own mindset. Sex is a very human natural thing. If you are married and love someone then i see no reason why it contraceptives cant be used. I tthink its better than havin a 100 kids eh?heh

But seriously, It is a very complicated issue. IT all boils down to what you think abt havin sex for any other purpose other than conceiving.

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Contraceptives are better than unprotected sex...sexual energy is a natural hormone spike that occurs in all animals...

I say if you cant control your energy, use contraceptives. If you are a person who is in tune with the teachings of the gurus and strive for spiritual happines then you would not need to worry abt such things as you would be able to control your own mind and body.

correct me if im wrong if i say that every individual has the freedom to live their lives as they please.

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