To All Of The Brothers And Sisters

[Guest HaRdKaUrWaRrIoRz]

ok i've been reading so many topics related to muslims and how they're converting sikh girls, i've read so many topics about sikh girls getting harassed and not confronting the harasser. we all need to WAKE UP!!! why are so many of my bhanji's such weaklings??? is this the legacy Guru Gobind Singh Ji left???well i think that if our parents have failed, it is time for us to step up and not let this happen to our kids. Many of you here are fathers and many of you will become fathers. the reason i'm talking about dads is that they play such a crucial role in their daughters lives. luckily i have a very open and loving relationship with my dad...i'd say he knows more about me than any of my best friends and even my mom. TO ALL OF THE BRO'S, U HAVE NO IDEA HOW THIS HAS AFFECTED MY PERSONALITY TODAY. i dont feel the need to have a boyfriend to feel beautiful, i dont let anybody bring me down, i stand firm on my beliefs and love sikhi no matter what sum guy might try to do to seduce me.. thanks to my dad :console: . for those of you without a dad, remember ultimately Guru Gobind Singh Ji is our father, who listens to everything we hafta say, even after all of our mistakes our Guru ji loves us...and he gave us the strength of the sword.

personally, as a sikh girl i think that the reason my fellow sisters go out with mussalmans is b/c they make it so easy. they make themselves available and are really upfront..and so any sister who needs to be loved would go with such a guy. but what these girls havent been taught by their parents is the hidden agenda of these ppl. u could say i'm brainwashed by my parents but i'd rather be seen as being brainwashed than braindead. these guys act really sweet and make u feel special... i have friends that dont get these feelings of appreciation by their dads and so they go out with practically anybody in order to fill in this void. today u see our families where the dads think they're too good to wash dishes and they like to think that certain chores are only done by a woman, they set a double standard which is why these girls dont feel special. the dads are half drunk 24/7 and couldnt care less about what their daughter has to say, hence she doest feel important. they wouldnt be caught dead asking for their daughters opinion or give two hoots about what she has to say..and yet they ask why she goes to a musalman to get this satisfaction.

i noe this post is long and i HATE long posts but i just had to get this out, if we want a brighter future, it starts in our homes...please to all of the bhaji's read this article written by dr jane on father daughter relationships, and remember we have the father of all fathers, DHAN DHAN SRI GUR GOBIND SINGH JI:

ARTICLE WRITTEN BY DR JANE:

"The family is a training ground for all future relationships. My Mother always told me..."Learn how to get along with your father and brother, and you'll know how to get along with your husband". I never fully understood her message until years later when I got married and set up housekeeping with my husband. It was then that I learned about compromise, commitment and consideration.

Fathers play an essential role in their daughter's lives. Many things are learned and many things are taught. Some of the most meaningful moments in a daughter's life are spent with her father. Here are a few of the things that a daughter needs to learn from her father...

* "Dad respects me". A daughter's relationship with her father is usually her first male-female relationship. From Dad, little girls gain their first reflection of themselves as a female. They develop a sense of acceptance or non-acceptance; they feel valued or discounted. Self-respect is initially based upon respect received from others. Their self-concept as a female person is largely shaped by this early relationship. In short, children regard themselves as they think others regard them... and Dad is an important person in her life.

* "It is safe to be affectionate with Dad". Daughters need to be able to relax, be affectionate, and know that they are safe with certain males. They need to be regarded as people, not sexual objects. When little girls develop modesty and learn that they have a right to privacy, they develop a healthy sense of boundaries. They learn how to say "no", which will be an essential interpersonal skill as they become more social. Dads can respect their daughters' boundaries by "shoulder hugs" and not making comments about physical characteristics.

* "Men and women can negotiate fairly". Father-daughter relationships are an important place to learn how to negotiate fairly and compromise appropriately. When fathers exercise absolute authority, and rigidly set rules, daughters quickly learn to rebel. If a father is overly-critical and all-powerful, men become the enemy. If a father is fair and listens to his daughter's thoughts, she will gain self-confidence and pride in her own opinion.

* "Women can be assertive without being aggressive". When daughters learn to communicate with their fathers, and trust that their opinion will count, they can develop self-assuredness which will allow them to be assertive and stand up for themselves. This is very different from aggressive reactions which stem from a sense of powerlessness and combativeness. It is important for dads to listen to their daughters and appreciate their views, even if they don't agree. When we listen to our children, they are more apt to listen to us and trust us when we impose restrictions.

* "What to expect from a male-female relationship". Daughters learn about marriage from watching Mom and Dad. If parents treat each other well, this becomes the expectation. If Dad is a tyrant, then men are regarded as essentially bad. If Dad is alcoholic or abusive, men are considered to be people who are allowed to get out of control and be hurtful. The unconscious conclusion is... "If Dad treats me well, I am a worthwhile individual. If Dad rejects me or criticizes me, I am no good."

Usually, mothers serve as role models for their daughters. They provide examples of how to be an individual, a mother and a wife. Fathers, however, teach their daughters how to regard themselves, what kinds of relationships are healthy, what to look for in a partner, and what to expect of men in co-parenting relationships.

When dads are not part of their daughter's lives, father-substitutes can sometimes meet these needs, but like the motto of the medical profession says...."First, do no harm"."

[Guest peacemaker]

ok i've been reading so many topics related to muslims and how they're converting sikh girls, i've read so many topics about sikh girls getting harassed and not confronting the harasser. we all need to WAKE UP!!! why are so many of my bhanji's such weaklings??? is this the legacy Guru Gobind Singh Ji left???well i think that if our parents have failed, it is time for us to step up and not let this happen to our kids. Many of you here are fathers and many of you will become fathers. the reason i'm talking about dads is that they play such a crucial role in their daughters lives. luckily i have a very open and loving relationship with my dad...i'd say he knows more about me than any of my best friends and even my mom. TO ALL OF THE BRO'S, U HAVE NO IDEA HOW THIS HAS AFFECTED MY PERSONALITY TODAY. i dont feel the need to have a boyfriend to feel beautiful, i dont let anybody bring me down, i stand firm on my beliefs and love sikhi no matter what sum guy might try to do to seduce me.. thanks to my dad :console: . for those of you without a dad, remember ultimately Guru Gobind Singh Ji is our father, who listens to everything we hafta say, even after all of our mistakes our Guru ji loves us...and he gave us the strength of the sword.

personally, as a sikh girl i think that the reason my fellow sisters go out with mussalmans is b/c they make it so easy. they make themselves available and are really upfront..and so any sister who needs to be loved would go with such a guy. but what these girls havent been taught by their parents is the hidden agenda of these ppl. u could say i'm brainwashed by my parents but i'd rather be seen as being brainwashed than braindead. these guys act really sweet and make u feel special... i have friends that dont get these feelings of appreciation by their dads and so they go out with practically anybody in order to fill in this void. today u see our families where the dads think they're too good to wash dishes and they like to think that certain chores are only done by woman, they set a double standard which is why these girls dont feel special. the dads are half drunk 24/7 and couldnt care less about what their daughter has to say, hence she doest feel important. they wouldnt be caught dead asking for their daughters opinion or give two hoots about what she has to say..and yet they ask why she goes to a musalman to get this satisfaction.

i noe this post is long and i HATE long posts but i just had to get this out, if we want a brighter future, it starts in our homes...please to all of the bhaji's read this article written by dr jane on father daughter relationships, and remember we have the father of all fathers, DHAN DHAN SRI GUR GOBIND SINGH JI:

The family is a training ground for all future relationships. My Mother always told me..."Learn how to get along with your father and brother, and you'll know how to get along with your husband". I never fully understood her message until years later when I got married and set up housekeeping with my husband. It was then that I learned about compromise, commitment and consideration.

Fathers play an essential role in their daughter's lives. Many things are learned and many things are taught. Some of the most meaningful moments in a daughter's life are spent with her father. Here are a few of the things that a daughter needs to learn from her father...

* "Dad respects me". A daughter's relationship with her father is usually her first male-female relationship. From Dad, little girls gain their first reflection of themselves as a female. They develop a sense of acceptance or non-acceptance; they feel valued or discounted. Self-respect is initially based upon respect received from others. Their self-concept as a female person is largely shaped by this early relationship. In short, children regard themselves as they think others regard them... and Dad is an important person in her life.

* "It is safe to be affectionate with Dad". Daughters need to be able to relax, be affectionate, and know that they are safe with certain males. They need to be regarded as people, not sexual objects. When little girls develop modesty and learn that they have a right to privacy, they develop a healthy sense of boundaries. They learn how to say "no", which will be an essential interpersonal skill as they become more social. Dads can respect their daughters' boundaries by "shoulder hugs" and not making comments about physical characteristics.

* "Men and women can negotiate fairly". Father-daughter relationships are an important place to learn how to negotiate fairly and compromise appropriately. When fathers exercise absolute authority, and rigidly set rules, daughters quickly learn to rebel. If a father is overly-critical and all-powerful, men become the enemy. If a father is fair and listens to his daughter's thoughts, she will gain self-confidence and pride in her own opinion.

* "Women can be assertive without being aggressive". When daughters learn to communicate with their fathers, and trust that their opinion will count, they can develop self-assuredness which will allow them to be assertive and stand up for themselves. This is very different from aggressive reactions which stem from a sense of powerlessness and combativeness. It is important for dads to listen to their daughters and appreciate their views, even if they don't agree. When we listen to our children, they are more apt to listen to us and trust us when we impose restrictions.

* "What to expect from a male-female relationship". Daughters learn about marriage from watching Mom and Dad. If parents treat each other well, this becomes the expectation. If Dad is a tyrant, then men are regarded as essentially bad. If Dad is alcoholic or abusive, men are considered to be people who are allowed to get out of control and be hurtful. The unconscious conclusion is... "If Dad treats me well, I am a worthwhile individual. If Dad rejects me or criticizes me, I am no good."

Usually, mothers serve as role models for their daughters. They provide examples of how to be an individual, a mother and a wife. Fathers, however, teach their daughters how to regard themselves, what kinds of relationships are healthy, what to look for in a partner, and what to expect of men in co-parenting relationships.

When dads are not part of their daughter's lives, father-substitutes can sometimes meet these needs, but like the motto of the medical profession says...."First, do no harm".

You write so well!

[Khalsa4ever]

Waheguroo jee ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo jee kee Fateh!

Great post and I agree!

Waheguroo jee ka Khalsa!

Waheguroo jee kee Fateh!

[killah]

ok i've been reading so many topics related to muslims and how they're converting sikh girls, i've read so many topics about sikh girls getting harassed and not confronting the harasser. we all need to WAKE UP!!! why are so many of my bhanji's such weaklings??? is this the legacy Guru Gobind Singh Ji left???well i think that if our parents have failed, it is time for us to step up and not let this happen to our kids. Many of you here are fathers and many of you will become fathers. the reason i'm talking about dads is that they play such a crucial role in their daughters lives. luckily i have a very open and loving relationship with my dad...i'd say he knows more about me than any of my best friends and even my mom. TO ALL OF THE BRO'S, U HAVE NO IDEA HOW THIS HAS AFFECTED MY PERSONALITY TODAY. i dont feel the need to have a boyfriend to feel beautiful, i dont let anybody bring me down, i stand firm on my beliefs and love sikhi no matter what sum guy might try to do to seduce me.. thanks to my dad :console: . for those of you without a dad, remember ultimately Guru Gobind Singh Ji is our father, who listens to everything we hafta say, even after all of our mistakes our Guru ji loves us...and he gave us the strength of the sword.

personally, as a sikh girl i think that the reason my fellow sisters go out with mussalmans is b/c they make it so easy. they make themselves available and are really upfront..and so any sister who needs to be loved would go with such a guy. but what these girls havent been taught by their parents is the hidden agenda of these ppl. u could say i'm brainwashed by my parents but i'd rather be seen as being brainwashed than braindead. these guys act really sweet and make u feel special... i have friends that dont get these feelings of appreciation by their dads and so they go out with practically anybody in order to fill in this void. today u see our families where the dads think they're too good to wash dishes and they like to think that certain chores are only done by a woman, they set a double standard which is why these girls dont feel special. the dads are half drunk 24/7 and couldnt care less about what their daughter has to say, hence she doest feel important. they wouldnt be caught dead asking for their daughters opinion or give two hoots about what she has to say..and yet they ask why she goes to a musalman to get this satisfaction.

i noe this post is long and i HATE long posts but i just had to get this out, if we want a brighter future, it starts in our homes...please to all of the bhaji's read this article written by dr jane on father daughter relationships, and remember we have the father of all fathers, DHAN DHAN SRI GUR GOBIND SINGH JI:

ARTICLE WRITTEN BY DR JANE:

"The family is a training ground for all future relationships. My Mother always told me..."Learn how to get along with your father and brother, and you'll know how to get along with your husband". I never fully understood her message until years later when I got married and set up housekeeping with my husband. It was then that I learned about compromise, commitment and consideration.

Fathers play an essential role in their daughter's lives. Many things are learned and many things are taught. Some of the most meaningful moments in a daughter's life are spent with her father. Here are a few of the things that a daughter needs to learn from her father...

* "Dad respects me". A daughter's relationship with her father is usually her first male-female relationship. From Dad, little girls gain their first reflection of themselves as a female. They develop a sense of acceptance or non-acceptance; they feel valued or discounted. Self-respect is initially based upon respect received from others. Their self-concept as a female person is largely shaped by this early relationship. In short, children regard themselves as they think others regard them... and Dad is an important person in her life.

* "It is safe to be affectionate with Dad". Daughters need to be able to relax, be affectionate, and know that they are safe with certain males. They need to be regarded as people, not sexual objects. When little girls develop modesty and learn that they have a right to privacy, they develop a healthy sense of boundaries. They learn how to say "no", which will be an essential interpersonal skill as they become more social. Dads can respect their daughters' boundaries by "shoulder hugs" and not making comments about physical characteristics.

* "Men and women can negotiate fairly". Father-daughter relationships are an important place to learn how to negotiate fairly and compromise appropriately. When fathers exercise absolute authority, and rigidly set rules, daughters quickly learn to rebel. If a father is overly-critical and all-powerful, men become the enemy. If a father is fair and listens to his daughter's thoughts, she will gain self-confidence and pride in her own opinion.

* "Women can be assertive without being aggressive". When daughters learn to communicate with their fathers, and trust that their opinion will count, they can develop self-assuredness which will allow them to be assertive and stand up for themselves. This is very different from aggressive reactions which stem from a sense of powerlessness and combativeness. It is important for dads to listen to their daughters and appreciate their views, even if they don't agree. When we listen to our children, they are more apt to listen to us and trust us when we impose restrictions.

* "What to expect from a male-female relationship". Daughters learn about marriage from watching Mom and Dad. If parents treat each other well, this becomes the expectation. If Dad is a tyrant, then men are regarded as essentially bad. If Dad is alcoholic or abusive, men are considered to be people who are allowed to get out of control and be hurtful. The unconscious conclusion is... "If Dad treats me well, I am a worthwhile individual. If Dad rejects me or criticizes me, I am no good."

Usually, mothers serve as role models for their daughters. They provide examples of how to be an individual, a mother and a wife. Fathers, however, teach their daughters how to regard themselves, what kinds of relationships are healthy, what to look for in a partner, and what to expect of men in co-parenting relationships.

When dads are not part of their daughter's lives, father-substitutes can sometimes meet these needs, but like the motto of the medical profession says...."First, do no harm"."

Great post I found that it interesting reading that. However similarly in many cases you can find mother/female figure who can be just as bad as a tryant as the male figure/father. Such as the recent case where a young sikh woman's mother-in-law treated her like a virtual house slave and the young woman won a court case against her. And in todays society, in the west, you can also find the easy going laid back lazy mothers, who have loose character and values themselves, and who do not give a dam about what her children get up to. Expecting their hubby, society or even the government to bring them up.

One thing is for sure those parents who always critize their kids and never show love, support, affection and give them realtive freedom. Often make them rebel and turn against their wishes.

[BABBAR KHALISTANI]

I m proud that Hardkaurwarriorz is a sikh girl. This is exactly the spirit that every singhni shud have.

HARD KAURZ why not me, u and Killah form a gang of warriorz of like minded people and take care of dushts. We'll give the u.s branch to Pritam singh khalsa veer. isn't it a gr8 idea ??? .......lolz

[chandanjit kaur]

woah......i agree 110% wit HARDKAURWARRIORZ panji...... :TH: :D and true man evry singhnee should have this kid of faith and love fa sikhi like kardkaurwarriorz......theres a nice example of a true,brave singhnee right here!!! :TH:

[Guest HaRdKaUrWaRrIoRz]

you guys are too nice..iam a pappi and i'm still trying to improve ji...

and babbar khalistan bhaji, anytime man, anytime :D

[Duchess]

evry singhnee should have this kid of faith

Auntyji just have a look back at your post after posting

[Guest HaRdKaUrWaRrIoRz]

evry singhnee should have this kid of faith

Auntyji just have a look back at your post after posting

u are quite the funny one...........

[Ek_Munda_5abi]

WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is wonderful post.... I love it! Good Job HaRdKaUrWaRrIoRz... Sikh Kaum needs Singhnees like you to save our future generatinos and recreate our history that our ancestors have left for us to be proud of.

Every Sikh girl and Sikh father needs to read and understand this post. I have nothing else to say, all we should do now is to bring these values into our lives and live accordingly....