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But how would you know they are the one?

You don't, only Guru Saheb really knows.

if the person finds out your interested in em they might get all happy then when it doesnt work out how you thought it would be they would be heart broken

It's hard, but they should try to accept Guru Saheb's Hukam. He knows best, leave it in the safest possible hands. If it doesn't work out, it's for the best.

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I'm jsut saying, In a Gursikh's dictionary words like "heart broken" don't come up. Instead words like "hukam" and "chardi kala" come up.

I'm not bashing your wording.. you can jst easily change it. I'm actually bashing your way of thinking (in a nice way lol) :D

Try thinking along the lines of Gursikhs. What would a Gursikh say?

- The Gursikh would be naive to the state of "heart broken"-ness.. they would see it as a trap by Kaam/Moh.

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when gettin in a situation of marriage or potential marriage partner i's key that you n the other person get to kno eachother first.... even if both people are amritdharee doesn't mean that it'll be a 'happily ever after' kinda ting... there are several ways to approach the situation...

for example... say if this person is/was a classmate in uni/college and you got to kno them very well.. and u really beleive they are the one... then u can ask ur parents talk to their parents...

if i's a friend of a friend.. u can ask a friend bout them... n possibly get to kno them like that...

if i's jus a random person that you met... i dun tink there's netin wrong wit gettin to kno them on your own.. possibly go 'out' for coffee/lunch or whatever... talk to the person.. get to kno dem, how they are, wha their thoughts/beliefs are... n if u both feel that u wanna go through wit it, then let the parents know...

marriage isn't a small ting.. n even in today's age not all amritdharee's are compatible.. there could be a lot of diff of opinions to wha they believe as rehat, how they wanna raise kids, where they wanna live, etc.. etc... all potential tingz dat mite come in the way of a happy marriage..

at the end of the day though... pick sum1 who will help you in ur sikhi... tha's all that counts.. even if a person is a great person, you get along wit dem very well, share a lot of the same opinions, if they're nah helpin u progress spiritually, then u shud think twice bout it..

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