Wrong?

[Guest Guest]

Hi,

I am 22 year old Sikh girl. I was dumped nearly 10 weeks ago by my boyfriend and am finding it very hard to cope. I do mool manter everyday 108 times and pray to God. Is it wrong to pray for one more chance with my ex? I know it can work but need the chnace to prove it to him. I am so upset and have lost lots of weight, suffering from anxiety and depression. I have chnaged everything I did that was bad and really want this one chance. I can't sleep at night, concentrate on my studies, my life is falling apart. I feel like I'm mourning.

Plz help

[Akaali]

There are many who have gone through a similar situation you should read these threads:

http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?showtopic=26211

http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?showtopic=21770

http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?showtopic=21353

[Akaali]

VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA WAHEGURU JI KI FATEH

Did you know that an eagle knows when a storm is approaching long before it breaks? The eagle will fly to some high spot and wait for the winds to come. When the storm hits, it sets its wings so that the wind will pick it up and lift it above the storm. While the storm rages below, the eagle is soaring above it. The eagle does not escape the storm. It simply uses the storm to lift it higher. It rises on the winds that bring the storm. When the storms of life come upon us - and all of us will experience them - we can rise above them by setting our minds and our belief toward God. The storms do not have to overcome us. We can allow God's power to lift us above them. God enables us to ride the winds of the storm that bring sickness, tragedy, failure and disappointment in our lives. We can soar above the storm. Remember, it is not the burdens of life that weigh us down, it is how we handle them.

VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA WAHEGURU JI KI FATEH

[Akaali]

Vaheguru ji ka khalsa, Vaheguru ji ki fateh!

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand: "Today My Best Friend Slapped Me In The Face."

They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone: "Today My Best Friend Saved My Life."

The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?"

The other friend replied: "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it."

Vaheguru ji ka khalsa, Vaheguru ji ki fateh!

Also check out the Sikh Sakhia section.

Hopefully one day we will be able to centralize a database for all those who have similar questions. Bhul chuk muaaf.

[OhTwadi]

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[xkaurx]

why should you feel upset do u think hes bothered? if its meant to be then maybe ul get back together if not theres nothing you can do about apart from move on. theres more to life than some guy and as for u doin mool mantar 108 times...ermm r u jus doin it 4 the sake of it? cz i doubt that would count for anything

[GuruManeyoGranth]

Great posts by mod saab :s

Waheguroo

[OhTwadi]

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[Singhballer]

Merge with you true spuse...

Waheguru .

[Mehtab Singh]

Awesome posts talikhaak! :WW: :WW: :WW:

Hmmmmm...

Lets try this...

I am 22 year old Sikh girl.

At your age, it is quite natural to look for a life partner, and it is very natural to suffer a heart break. So wake up to the reality of life.

I was dumped nearly 10 weeks ago by my boyfriend and am finding it very hard to cope.

First of all, have some respect for yourself. You are a creation of God, you are a daughter of Sahib Sri Guru Gobind Singh Jee Maharaj. You are not a grocery item purchased from Walmart that someone can pick you up when he wants to and then dump you once he feels like. Stop degrading yourself. You are more than that.

I do mool manter everyday 108 times and pray to God.

Thats excellant! I urge you to carry on with it!

Is it wrong to pray for one more chance with my ex?

And what will that achieve? You want another chance with someone who "dumped" you? Someone who considers you as a grocery item? Someone who thinks he can use you? And what guarantee do you have that he won't dump you again? Are you so sure about him?

I know it can work but need the chnace to prove it to him.

You don't have to prove anything to anyone sister. You can't make this world happy. It will always demand more from you. Just be yourself. Live your life, not the life the world wants you to live. How long will you prove things to the world? It won't quit demanding. Life is too short to prove things to people. Instead of doing that, prove your love to Gurujee. Be the best Sikh there can be. Now thats worth it! Why run after this world? The world never accepts us no matter what we do, and Gurujee accepts us always no matter what! So why not follow Gurujee rather than people?

I am so upset and have lost lots of weight, suffering from anxiety and depression.

Get a hold of yourself. This kind of mental chaos isn't going to help you, or bring him back. In fact he will get a chance to laugh about it to his friends that he got a girl so crazy in love with him that she lost weight!

I have chnaged everything I did that was bad and really want this one chance.

You want a chance? Really? Are you sure? Fine! Here is your chance. Submit and surrender to Gurujee. Forget about this guy. From today Gurujee is ALL YOURS. He will NEVER EVER dump you. He will be with you, protect you, and love you 24/7, always, every second, micro-second, milli-second of your life, every breath you take. Even when you are asleep He will guard you. Just surrender yourself to Him. Now you want to grab this chance?

I can't sleep at night, concentrate on my studies, my life is falling apart.

Recite Kirtan Sohila (or as some call it Sohila Sahib) before sleeping, and do Ardas after reciting it. Recite Moolmantar before you start studying. Life will fall back in place. Nothing will fall apart.

I feel like I'm mourning.

Sikhs don't mourn sis! We celebrate! Look at our history! We never ever say we are mourning on a shaheedi diwas, we say we are celebrating! The mothers who got their babies ripped apart and had a garland of their limbs put around their neck used to pray and say "The day has passed in sukh, may the night pass in sukh as well", and you are mourning for some next dude who "dumped" you? Come on sis! You are better than that! Forget about this guy. Such things are part of life. You got to get up and move on. Don't waste your life and tears for someone who doesn't value them. Like they say, "Don't waste your tears for someone who doesn't realize their worth. And the one who does will never make you cry" (something like that, a pretty corny quote so I forgot lol).

Maybe this is Gurujee giving you a chance to come closer to Him. See you are already doing Moolmantar. Keep going, you are on track. Recite Sukhmani Sahib if you feel too depressed. And read the meanings too. It will blow your mind away, and your pain and anxieties as well.

Keep going sis. May Gurujee hold your hand!

And if I said anything offensive, then please forgive me. I don't know you, or the guy, or your situation. So I am advising you just generally.

And after you are done reading this post, watch this video: