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this is from SIKHNET btw -

Problem - Sat Sri Akal, even though this is not a question but i would like to hear your comment on this.

i am amritdhari sikh guy from india, i am 30 years old, recently i came to know that sikh girls dont like to get married with sikh guys because of their hairs on face, as it makes the experience of kissing less enjoyable, (this info has come from a friend's wife)i am really shocked with the kind of importance being given to kissing over religion, till now all of my cousin sisters have opted to marry clean shaved sikh guys from sikh families, ours is the only amritdhari family amoung our relatives, some times i really feel sad about negative sentiments towards sikh guys who follow the path shown by our gurus.even sikh girls proudly say on matrimonial sites that they want to marry clean shaved guys only.i wish these girls should have asked their mothers if she had any problems with thier father.may i request some of my married sisters to come forward and tell all these girls that its not really that difficult.

Thanks to all the moderators for running such a good job.

regards

D.singh

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Advice - I am a Sikh woman married to a bearded Sikh man. I love his beard and I prefer it to shaven men. I don't like the stubble, which hurts my skin. My husband and I have no problem at all with kissing. If it is really a problem, the guy can slightly trim his mustache. It takes courage to be yourslf and different from the norm. Blessings and be proud, JJK

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During my high school years.. i used to visit that forum and its just garbage regarding sikh issues.. They don't give any sikhi based advice instead they give their personal opinions. I think Gurmustuk veer should overhaul this area of sikhnet as its benn going on for serveral years.

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Don't delete this topic.

It's important to know what kind of information Sikhnet is giving out to young Sikhs. Whether we like it or not, it is the most visited Sikh site on the internet and a lot of Sikhs look to it for guidance.

I think anyone who reads that advice section will be able to tell you that the advice they give is not guided by Gurmat in many many circumstances. It seems the people doing the advising have no idea about Gurmat and require some advice of their own.

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