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daas has met a lot of youngsters in schools who have one parent of punjabi sikh origin & another from a different ethnic origin and often have Sikh names.

many times they'll approach you because they are interested in their Sikh background but often nobody has bothered to help them research this. they usually have past negative experiences from the kind of reaction they get from their own parents, family, & our community.

i dont understand why we put such a taboo on discussing this as even as early as 1800s there were people born of Sikh background in Western World, ironically leading the suffragette movement for womens rights.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sophia_Duleep_Singh

by ignoring this next generation of Sikhs and not being open to discussing our dharam with insiders let alone outsiders have we lost the core message of Sikhi and how do we adapt?

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I ran into this Filipino girl at work that had the last named Singh. I asked her a few times, but she kept saying she was more Filipino. the girl had no interest in punjab or sikhi. its watever people choose.

Was it Singh or Sing?

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I ran into this Filipino girl at work that had the last named Singh. I asked her a few times, but she kept saying she was more Filipino. the girl had no interest in punjab or sikhi. its watever people choose.

Many Filipino people have singh name. in 1980s mayor of Manila was Bhagat singh son of Sikh father and Filipino mother.

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This is an important issue. There are many half Sikh children, we need to make them part of the panth.

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This is an important issue. There are many half Sikh children, we need to make them part of the panth.

That's only if they choose to be, you can't force them to and no one should be forced either.

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This is an important issue. There are many half Sikh children, we need to make them part of the panth.

That's only if they choose to be, you can't force them to and no one should be forced either.

The only reason they wouldn't want to be Sikhs is if the Sikhs they meet act like 1diots.

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This is an important issue. There are many half Sikh children, we need to make them part of the panth.

That's only if they choose to be, you can't force them to and no one should be forced either.

The only reason they wouldn't want to be Sikhs is if the Sikhs they meet act like 1diots.

lol, we cant please everyone. there is no such thing as 'the only reason' in this: some people just dont like sikhi, and its pretty naive to think that anyone can be converted.

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force? lol

Guru Gobind Singh Ji wanted sikhs to stand out in sava lakh, these days i wouldnt be able to pick a sikh out of a crowd let alone a "half-caste" sikh.

i wouldnt be so "rude" as to approach someone myself, daas was approached on a number of occasions, i remember once in particular a lad who was about to do GCSE exams & approached me later that day saying one of his parents was a Sikh and he was interested in finding out a bit more about sikhi. all he saw was a beard & turban and that was enough for him to ask - out of the two of us he had less hangups/insecurity!

totally agree with dalsingh's point.

the problem is often the first experiences they have of other sikhs are entirely negative e.g. relatives still angry at their parents marriage, weird looks at the GuruGhar as if they are aliens just landed on the planet but these are cultural taboos at odds to the basic message of sikhi.

we shouldnt be so suprised to see sikhs of different ethnic origins and indeed non-sikhs at GuruGhar as isnt that what the GuruGhar is there for? to be open in all directions & all people? how easy do we make it for them to understand whats going on?

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