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Mr Jag SIngh

THINK AGAIN

you say sikhs are not gay.,,, well check this out!!

http://www.sarbat.net/

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This is what happens when Manmat takes over. Thank God for Akal Takht's Hukam.

Some one should message him and say instead of putting Singh after your name, but Kaur. The soul has no gender, so it don't matter laugh.giflaugh.gif

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh.

If the soul has no gender, then how is it wrong for two souls to marry and become one in front of the Sri Guru Granth Sahib, regardless of what the external gender is of both individuals? I would ask you to read the articles on that website and then post a reply. If you wish to have a discourse based on what is discussed there, please feel free to contact the website or discuss matters in an adult fashion on this message board.

The Akal Takht has issued many hukums, but they are not always adhered to. Just look at what has happened in respect of sitting at tables or on the floor for langar, and what is currently happening in India in relation to the Nanakshahi calendar. The Akal Takht can make the wrong decisions (such as when a siroppa and kirpan was given to General Dyer, the instigator of the Amritsar Massacre in 1919) , or decisions which are not respected by the wider Sikh community.

Guru Nanak Dev Ji and the following Gurus ensured that the language of the Sri Guru Granth Sahib was the colloquial language of the day, so that everyone could take from Bani without the need for intercessors. We were considered by the Gurus to be intelligent enough to read and understand the Sri Guru Granth Sahib, but unfortunately not so considered by the 'powers that be' in the present form of Sikhi. Hence the plethora of Hukums by the Akal Takht over the past two decades when the religion had successfully survived centuries of oppression without the need for such hukums.

One thing we should never forget is Guru Nanak Dev Ji's words - Hum nahin changay, bura nahi koi. "I am not good, and nobody is bad." The world is not inherrently bad, nor are the humans who inhabit it, and no Sikh can claim to be entirely good if he or she is a true Sikh (or "learner").

On the issue of marriage, would you want gay Sikhs to be marrying heterosexual Sikhs in order for there to be no 'visible' homosexuality in the community, and thus detrimentally affect the lives of both people in the marriage, or would you rather that gay Sikhs were accepted by the community in order for there to be no unhappy marriages or marriages of convenience? It is a very interesting issue which does not appear to have been given much thought by the wider Sikh community. It is not just homosexual Sikhs who suffer in such marriages, but also the heterosexual husband or wife to that marriage.

To the original poster, I would again repeat Guru Nanak Dev Ji's words and wish him or her all of the best in the search for somebody to marry.

Bul chuk di maaf.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh.

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