Learning From Children

[autiegirl1980]

I posted just a couple of days ago about issues with my mother, and the possibility of becoming a Sikh. The more I read and learn, the more I am drawn to it.

Last night, I stayed up for hours on end, just reading posts on here-I got up to page 70, lol.

My children have been asking questions about the beliefs and all, and today when I was doing laundry, they found 2 very long scarves and wanted me to try to tie turbans for them. So I decided to take a shot at it to see how it went. Surprisingly well, actually. They absolutely love them. My son said he would be willing to wear one every single day, that it is the most comfortable thing he has ever put on his head. My daughter thinks she is absolutely beautiful in it The material is all wrong, lol, and technique needs a lot of work, but they love them.

They know about the views of most around here, which is what has been a hindrance to me, I am admitting... I'm frustrated with myself for that. They just don't care. They said "but we aren't those people everyone is mad at, and they are not either. There is no reason to think otherwise, and we must show them the difference." I am so proud of them right now! ....and learned so much from them in such a small statement, which I should have known already, of course, and did know. But, hearing it from the kiddos just really reaffirms what many lose sight of as they get older and there is more pressure to "fit in".

I don't know, though.... I want to know, is it wrong for us to wear them and all? I mean, I know it might be a silly question.... but if we are still in the learning process, and have so much more learning to do, is it okay? Or is it just... not right for them to be wearing them until we have adjusted and changed things around in our lives to allow for us to live the Sikh lifestyle to the fullest extent?

I don't want to be setting bad examples to anyone. I just feel that something like this should be taken very seriously, really, because it holds a lot of meaning. If we are going to do it, I want to do it the right way... how early in their journey does one do these things? Is it just whenever it feels right? Is there a requirement one should meet first? lol-I feel just so naive, but eager to learn. I hope I'm not bombarding you all with questions and driving you bonkers. If so, please feel free to tell me. I feel like a child again, like I have found something just so wonderful and I am so incredibly happy, yet overwhelmed at the same time with all of the new information.

[guptkuri]

I think it comes when your ready for it. You fear the reaction of the people around you, so I think you should start with wearing the turban first. Wear it, allow your children to wear it, if it is what they want. Just keep in mind the whole time continue to study Sikhism and be the best Sikh you can be.

See with the turban fear out of the way, you can concentrate on being a good sikh.

Good luck

[autiegirl1980]

I think it comes when your ready for it. You fear the reaction of the people around you, so I think you should start with wearing the turban first. Wear it, allow your children to wear it, if it is what they want. Just keep in mind the whole time continue to study Sikhism and be the best Sikh you can be.

See with the turban fear out of the way, you can concentrate on being a good sikh.

Good luck

Thank you so much I just wanted to make sure it was okay, because I do think it is very important to do things the right way. That helps tremendously :D

[guptkuri]

Always be happy, I hope you find peace of mind and happiness on this path.

[KhalistaniGunMan]

sister your love for sikhi gives me great joy...thank waheguru for bringing you on this path..

[sall]

WJKK WJKF

Great input here , excellent, simple fact and is a known fact as I've seen it happen. The more Gurbani one starts to recite , the more a certainty that bana will ultimately come to the individual.

[hspkaur]

Sat Siri Akal Ji

I completely relate to your questions having gone through them myself last year. I remember staying up all night immersing myself in Sikhi too! Trust your intuition, it comes from the Infinite and I believe children remember the Infinite a bit better than we remember as adults. It's true that tying on that turban will help you live the life, live the Dharma and give so many other gifts to you. You are just acknowledging who you already are and what you already know. Nobody else gives you permission to be you or to say you are a Sikh of the Guru. When you step forward yourself in courage and faith the Guru will take your hand and carry you.

I went through some rough times with my family and you will probably have some tests. It will be ok. Just keep being your beautiful self, connecting to the Guru and listening to those wonderful children!

Blessings to you and welcome sister!

I posted just a couple of days ago about issues with my mother, and the possibility of becoming a Sikh. The more I read and learn, the more I am drawn to it.

Last night, I stayed up for hours on end, just reading posts on here-I got up to page 70, lol.

My children have been asking questions about the beliefs and all, and today when I was doing laundry, they found 2 very long scarves and wanted me to try to tie turbans for them. So I decided to take a shot at it to see how it went. Surprisingly well, actually. They absolutely love them. My son said he would be willing to wear one every single day, that it is the most comfortable thing he has ever put on his head. My daughter thinks she is absolutely beautiful in it The material is all wrong, lol, and technique needs a lot of work, but they love them.

They know about the views of most around here, which is what has been a hindrance to me, I am admitting... I'm frustrated with myself for that. They just don't care. They said "but we aren't those people everyone is mad at, and they are not either. There is no reason to think otherwise, and we must show them the difference." I am so proud of them right now! ....and learned so much from them in such a small statement, which I should have known already, of course, and did know. But, hearing it from the kiddos just really reaffirms what many lose sight of as they get older and there is more pressure to "fit in".

I don't know, though.... I want to know, is it wrong for us to wear them and all? I mean, I know it might be a silly question.... but if we are still in the learning process, and have so much more learning to do, is it okay? Or is it just... not right for them to be wearing them until we have adjusted and changed things around in our lives to allow for us to live the Sikh lifestyle to the fullest extent?

I don't want to be setting bad examples to anyone. I just feel that something like this should be taken very seriously, really, because it holds a lot of meaning. If we are going to do it, I want to do it the right way... how early in their journey does one do these things? Is it just whenever it feels right? Is there a requirement one should meet first? lol-I feel just so naive, but eager to learn. I hope I'm not bombarding you all with questions and driving you bonkers. If so, please feel free to tell me. I feel like a child again, like I have found something just so wonderful and I am so incredibly happy, yet overwhelmed at the same time with all of the new information.

[guptkuri]

thanks for the great post hspkaur ji. welcome to the forum :D

[autiegirl1980]

Thank you so much to everyone :D