Awkard Questions

[Guest Lost]

2 questions have been bugging me for a while now and I'm hoping someone can assist. BTW they are not linked

Sometime back I was buying food from Quality Foods in Southall and noticed that many products that are non meat mention they are Halal. Firstly, are we meant to avoid these foods if they have Qalma read over them does Sikhi only consider that meat slaughtered in the muslim way is Halal?

My second question and the more controversial of the 2, is that, is there anything wrong with watching porn? At the end of the day no one is being harmed, I'm not having a physical relationship with anyone etc. I know many will say that I'm harming myself but its better than having a relationship with the opposite sex right????

Thanks in advance.

[tuhintuhin]

waheguru ji......

eating meat, halal, beaf, pork or whatever different words used for different animals to eat and differentiate between them......is meat and not acceptable.......

secondly.....whatever you see with your eyes... for sure you'll think of it again and again in your mind....mann......and this will pollute your thinking and this thinking when overpower you will become your actions....your karams........watching is a karam as well which gets wriiten down and you'll have to answer for that....................having relationship with opposite sex is not prohibited in sikhism....it;s allowed only after anand karaj / marriage............feeding your senses by watching will make one a lusty person and every person is judged by the way he/she thinks..........if the thinking is polluted...everything is polluted.......banda ohi banada...jo kuch oh sochda hai.........and alsoo this will never let you move forward to a gursikhi jeewan.....once you get addicted...it's hard to get away.......

if you will see Guru ji's saroop (mann ch vasauna) and think of HIM all day and night ...and have love for him...you'll become a gursikh........and Guru ji will love you as well....

[MokhamSingh]

2 questions have been bugging me for a while now and I'm hoping someone can assist. BTW they are not linked

Sometime back I was buying food from Quality Foods in Southall and noticed that many products that are non meat mention they are Halal. Firstly, are we meant to avoid these foods if they have Qalma read over them does Sikhi only consider that meat slaughtered in the muslim way is Halal?

My second question and the more controversial of the 2, is that, is there anything wrong with watching porn? At the end of the day no one is being harmed, I'm not having a physical relationship with anyone etc. I know many will say that I'm harming myself but its better than having a relationship with the opposite sex right????

Thanks in advance.

Khalsa Ji

Halal also means Hak Halal I.e. honest earnings , not deceitful earnings. Any vegetarian product that says Halal means "produced through honest business" it does not mean Halal as in Halal meat.

With regards to your second question ask your Aatma , what does your Aatma say when you ask yourself this question?

[J4TT]

@Lost, you truly are lost; your lack of sikhi knowledge is astounding. Go learn more about religion. You make me sikh.

[Guest RavindaSingh]

@Lost, you truly are lost; your lack of sikhi knowledge is astounding. Go learn more about religion. You make me sikh.

hey 'J4TT' eat your own words mate...

[Guest Lost]

@Lost, you truly are lost; your lack of sikhi knowledge is astounding. Go learn more about religion. You make me sikh.

Agree I am sick and came here for advice. I am hoping that Guru Ji through Aukhad naam will cure me forever one day.

So the consensus for question number 1 is that it's ok to eat halal products that are not meat. That's fine. I'm vegetarian anyhows but not bibeki.

TuhinTuhin Ji - It is hard to pull away for certain and deep down I suppose I knew the answer. For me though it's not constant but the mind is weak and falls to the clutches of this chor every few months not all the time. As hard as some of the posters may find it to believe I follow Sikhi but not as strictly as I would like. My amrit vela is all over the place due to my work hours, this does not help at all and I dont have regualr sangat of Gursikhs. Sometimes I feel that if I worked 9-5, I could find a routine and these horrendous thoughts would dissapear! Vaheguru works in strange ways and I have to accept it as bhana for now. The after effects of watching make me feel so disgusted and sometimes I wish my life would end!

Luckily it has not spiralled out of control completely and I still do paath daily, this certainly helps. The issue is that cracks creep up at anytime and before I know it, the misdeeds are committed again and the whole cycle is repeated.

Sorry if I have offended anyone.

[tuhintuhin]

waheguru ji........start listening to katha's in your car, at your work if possible, at home before sleeping....at least for 10 minutes......katha is the easiest way to control mind as human nature we like hearing to stories.........following link changed my life.....try listening to it.......

http://www.sikhsange...sheshtaian.html

waheguru ji bhala karan

[Guest unkown]

Paji,

trust me - watching porn is in no way right! This is a problem of our socialisation - of your surrondings - I started watching porn in young age - 10.11? I don´t knew anything about Sikhi - I just had Kesh - I lived in a state where hardly you will find any Gursikhs ( German) - The problem was mobbing etc - altough I am strong - It somehow hurt my feelings - so I tried to flee - I revealed "porn"(I am still sorry abou - because over the years it became "addiction") the dopamine eject was what I needed - To feel happier etc.. "friends" told me to realease some pressure with porn(They said it is the greatest thing ever). But then due Maharaj kirpa I revealed Sikhi (I don´t found good Sangat, but I revealed it for myself) Then I started asking myself - WHY the hell I am doing this? I excessively masturbated 5-7 x or more a day? I was depressive. I was tired all day - and I had really really bad mood - my errection were soft and weak - and it hurted. I had no selfconfidence - masturbation - weakens you mentaly. This go on for 6 years... Until I revealed Sikhi 1 year ago - and questioned myself - I am a product of the sexual industry - a victim. I started seeing women as "Sex objects" - and then the real <banned word filter activated> happend... This is a long story...

So do you see the point? Do you see what happens? You are leeched out - there is no grain of spirituality in you - you can get maladjusted, see women in totally wrong way - ruin your life - In the end it is very hard to forget this all - these dirty things - but if you try to forget - you will. Why do you want to ruin your life with porns? Fake sex .. etc? If you get addicted - or you feel the urge to watch more - it is over - this <banned word filter activated> will take control over you - if you are weak - yes I am weak /was weak. It is waste of time - and you only get problems due it - there is nothing good in it - and it is very hard to get rid of all this ... I was really sufferin - until Guru ji blessed me - with his Shabads about Kaam - Krodh - Lobh - Moh they are all involved with each other.. I really had physical and mentally problems - I just did it that excecively that I not even feel something of my genitals - It totally ruined my life - in all ways.

Be aware of it - I know you have pressure but do your best to get rid of these. Now it got that far that I decided to live alone my whole life - I dont want to marry - I don´t want to expect somebody

[VanHelsingh]

unkown - Great to read you emerged from those difficult times. Respect for being honest.

[Wingz23]

2 questions have been bugging me for a while now and I'm hoping someone can assist. BTW they are not linked

Sometime back I was buying food from Quality Foods in Southall and noticed that many products that are non meat mention they are Halal. Firstly, are we meant to avoid these foods if they have Qalma read over them does Sikhi only consider that meat slaughtered in the muslim way is Halal?

My second question and the more controversial of the 2, is that, is there anything wrong with watching porn? At the end of the day no one is being harmed, I'm not having a physical relationship with anyone etc. I know many will say that I'm harming myself but its better than having a relationship with the opposite sex right????

Thanks in advance.

the more u watch the dirty stuff the more it occupies ur mind... fateh n btw wudnt u feel dirty watching porn its a sensation that drives sexual agression... u wudnt want that wud ya