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vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

I think the point of marriage is more common sense than anything else... if you have a strong background in Sikhi, and you follow to the death the wisdom of your Guru, how can you marry someone who doesn't follow the same Rehat's of your Guru? How can you have children with someone who would want to raise the children without Sikhi?

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

my first child was very religious but over religious went the other way and this is what happened and she married non sikh so whatever parents do to instal sikhi sometimes it doesnt happen the way you want. :D @

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

I agree... sometimes it doesn't happen the way you want... but that doesn't make it right! :wub:

vwihgurU jI kw Kwlsw!

vwihgurU jI kI &iqh!!

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maybe you could help me how to stop daughter 2 from marrying non sikh even though daughter 1 has  i am at my wits end very unhappy she wants to marry this guy she is living with and in a hall HELP

Have you asked her Why she wants to marry this individual, rather than force your or rather the Soceities ideals upon her?

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Param Singh ji,

The only help you can get will be from Guru Sahib.

Sometimes people don't realise their love for Sikhi, until they make mistakes. I'm one of those people. I never knew how much Guru meant to me until I was at the very pit of despair - Guru Sahib helped me.

You can never over educate a person on Sikhi, what you can do is an ardaas for Maharaj to have kirpa on you and your family.

Veer Ji, the life of a Sikh is much like the life of a driver who turns into a dead end - he see's the sign at the beginning of the road which clearly states "dead end" but still, man tells him "just drive down, you may see a side road" the driver continue's with his journey til he reaches the end and realises that he has to turn back.

Seldom people will look at the sign and park their car, most of us will continue to drive until we see for ourselves that we have to turn back.

Our Guru Sahib is so amazing, that those who turn back, he forgives, he takes them into his lap and loves them just the same.

My parents have always taught me the Sikhi way of life, but me, I thought the grass was greener on the other side, I continued to drive my car til the dead end but my parents never once said "what can we do" - they had bani on 24/7 they continued to keep their faith in Waheguru, and low and behold, here I am today, living proof that a person who has ultimate faith in Guru remain with him til the end.

The thing is, the minute you say "that's life, what can I do" you're admitting defeat - Guru's sikh does not ever do that.

You want help, turn to bani, turn to Maharaj and ask him for help - he will guide you, and y

our daughters - to say "what can I do" is just a cheap way out. Guru Sahib has given us a brain for a reason - it's up to us to utalise it.

A lot of Sikh-non Sikh marriages have worked, a lot haven't. Sanjog are written from Dur - a man cannot change them - but the journey a man can - taking naam and instilling it into your heart will show any Sikh the way...

Pul Chuk maaf

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