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To Sardar boys who complain about women (specifically California Sardar):

Why do you guys have to restrict yourself to Punjabi women? Why don't you think of dating White/Latina/Asian women or women from other parts of the world? I am not saying all Punjabi women are bad but there are plenty of single and attractive women in other parts of the world. I am sure many of the more educated ones will be interested and many will actually think you are cool for wearing a turban and standing out. A lot will be up for learning about your religion. I am not making this up as this has been my experience and FYI I am a sardar and my wife is from Eastern Europe.

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To Sardar boys who complain about women (specifically California Sardar):

Why do you guys have to restrict yourself to Punjabi women? Why don't you think of dating White/Latina/Asian women or women from other parts of the world? I am not saying all Punjabi women are bad but there are plenty of single and attractive women in other parts of the world. I am sure many of the more educated ones will be interested and many will actually think you are cool for wearing a turban and standing out. A lot will be up for learning about your religion. I am not making this up as this has been my experience and FYI I am a sardar and my wife is from Eastern Europe.

I suppose because I want to end up with a Sikh girl. Or, at least a "Sikh" girl.

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I suppose because I want to end up with a Sikh girl. Or, at least a "Sikh" girl.

@ California Sardar: I think a lot of girls from non-Sikh backgrounds can respect or even become Sikhs. You don't have to restrict your search to "Sikh" girls. I didn't. In fact, I found girls from other parts of the world to be very cosmopolitan and open minded (provided they are educated.) I don't see why its necessary to limit yourself to Sikh or Punjabi girls. Plus while some Punjabi girls might have all kinds of preconcieved stereotypes about a Sardar, you will find that many girls from non-Sikh backgrounds (especially non-Indians) will be curious and will actually like you for having a turban. They (not all but some) will see you as someone committed to his faith and will think that you can be a committed and faithful partner. Anyways, this is just a suggestion. I dated outside the Punjabi community and it opens up a lot more options. You can also try international dating and have all kinds of options. Of course, there will be girls who will not be used to you because they have never seen a Sardar in their lives. But there will also be many girls who will be interested. Give it some thought.

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That is absolutely true!

BTW when you talk to non-Indian women to explain your turban, make sure you mention that Sikh philosophy treats women as equals. Pretty much all the girls from non-Sikh backgrounds are floored by this. Guys, you have to use your turban to show that you stand for values such as

*equal treatment of women

*charity (tell them about how the hungry are fed in a gurdwara)

*symbolism of the pagh and honor.

Trust me, intelligent women will respect you and your faith.

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Im not from california and i think sardars there would not be wholly different from anywhere else in the world!

A Sikh (male or female) should not be dating, other than for the specific and sole purpose of finding a life partner.

A Sikh, should marry a Sikh. Since most Sikhs are punjabis it would be difficult to find a non punjabi heritage Sikh partner.

Sikhs do not actively convert. People should come to Sikhi via their own path. Joining simply due to the love for another is simply blackmail or coercion.

Im sure California Sardars find women from non punjabi backgrounds attractive but may not view them as suitable spouses.

Also why cant the non punjabi women make more efforts with sardars? I have a few views on this!

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Im not from california and i think sardars there would not be wholly different from anywhere else in the world!

A Sikh (male or female) should not be dating, other than for the specific and sole purpose of finding a life partner.

A Sikh, should marry a Sikh. Since most Sikhs are punjabis it would be difficult to find a non punjabi heritage Sikh partner.

Sikhs do not actively convert. People should come to Sikhi via their own path. Joining simply due to the love for another is simply blackmail or coercion.

Im sure California Sardars find women from non punjabi backgrounds attractive but may not view them as suitable spouses.

Also why cant the non punjabi women make more efforts with sardars? I have a few views on this!

"A sikh guy is the best creation of the God"....Once I got this compliment from Non sikh girl :p

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Im not from california and i think sardars there would not be wholly different from anywhere else in the world!

Sikhs do not actively convert. People should come to Sikhi via their own path. Joining simply due to the love for another is simply blackmail or coercion.

No one is suggesting blackmail. But I don't see why Sikh men can't go and marry non-Sikh women and introduce them to Sikhism.

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