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Are arranged marriages a prerequisite in Sikhism? I still don't see why Sikh men can't meet non-Sikh women and marry them and introduce them to Sikhi. Where is the problem in that?

Veerji, usually in such relationships one partner always tends to have a "heavier" personality if I may say. Its easy to say everything is equal but reality is different. Lets presume a Sikh man ends up marrying say a Catholic bibi. You and I will very much expect him to bring her to Sikhi. Now what if the reverse happens? What if her personality is "heavier" than his, and she has an impact on him causing him to quit being a Sikh? Unless and until he is a committed GurSikh (in which case he would have married a committed GurSikh Bibi), you have a 50-50 chance of her coming into Sikhi or him becoming a Christian. Thus the practice of a Sikh marrying only a Sikh, via arranged/love marriage. The worst part comes for the kids who don't know what to follow. Its easy to say "I will let my kids choose their path", but when the time comes, lol, trust me, most of us would think again :)

Just my 2 cents, and please correct me wherever I might be wrong.

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Guys,

what is the problem with talking to apni bibian abot sikhi and getting them online with Guru ji so there is an enrichment of the whole kaum instead of playing what if games ? Most bibis are thirsty for Sikhi but have been put off by their relatives and friends ...if she feels supported in her Sikhi you will be amazed just how wonderful life will be for both of you

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Guys,

what is the problem with talking to apni bibian abot sikhi and getting them online with Guru ji so there is an enrichment of the whole kaum instead of playing what if games ? Most bibis are thirsty for Sikhi but have been put off by their relatives and friends ...if she feels supported in her Sikhi you will be amazed just how wonderful life will be for both of you

https://www.facebook.com/singhandsinghni84/photos/pb.136186023209230.-2207520000.1408732660./246640855497079/?type=3&theater

totally agree pen ji!

You'll always see Sikh parents not allowing their daughters to take amrit because their worried if they'll be able to find a life partner! Eventually the bibi will just give up and go back to manmath!

If Sikh boys prove to people that they want amritdhari life partner I think it would make life a lot easier for may bibyan who are interested in sikhi,,,,,

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totally agree pen ji!

You'll always see Sikh parents not allowing their daughters to take amrit because their worried if they'll be able to find a life partner! Eventually the bibi will just give up and go back to manmath!

If Sikh boys prove to people that they want amritdhari life partner I think it would make life a lot easier for may bibyan who are interested in sikhi,,,,,

your post creates many questions in my mind....

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