Verbal Abusive Father

[jkvlondon]

I didn't mean physically slap him lol I meant to make confront him on his issues and call him out on it and try to encourage him to quit it. I feel physically slapping him won't solve anything and can make things a lot worse. Reminding him of who he is and who he represents (Khalsa) can make him think twice before swearing again or maybe not...

Having been through similar myself I think confrontational is the wrong approach as he seems too set in his anger pattern to listen in a balanced way, what has worked is making the effort to make the rest of the family mittbolardey and the home full of gurbani kirtan thus the atmosphere is calming ...and purifying

[Guest Sat]

Hi I went through the same things when i was younger, my dad used to throw babji photos upside down and go mad whenever he was around me and another member of my family who did paath and naam simran.

My dad had a messed up mind and dark messed up thoughts. Thoughts are energy.

Your psychology determines the type of energies/frequencies u emit. The best type of energy/frequency is no thoughts. So when someone has a messed up psychology/emits lower, dark frequencies, the higher frequencies/jyot can annoy them.

Stay strong in who u discover youself to Truly be- Gurbani says God himself sends these demons after His bhagats. Have a No Bulls*it psychology/mentality and learn from your fathers mistakes-realise that hes never the type of person u would want to be- learn that bad souls try and drag us down to their level. Learn to silence your mind through applying gurbani.

I am now free of my entire family who used to constantly try and drag me down with them. So keep climbing and you can go so far in Truth.

Satnaam

[singhbj singh]

Waheguru Ji Ka Khaka Waheguru Je Ki Fateh

Please could i get advice on my dad. My dad swears alot and i mean a lot. Swearing is like breathing to him. He swears when we are doing bani and when Kirtan is on. Then he goes the gurdawara dressed in Bana and pretends to be into sikhi. I know that i sounds so ego and im just complaining but it really gets to me. Bhul Chak Mafka. Sorry Jee

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[kharkusingh1996]

Having been through similar myself I think confrontational is the wrong approach as he seems too set in his anger pattern to listen in a balanced way, what has worked is making the effort to make the rest of the family mittbolardey and the home full of gurbani kirtan thus the atmosphere is calming ...and purifying

That could work, it really depends on the situation and how hostile it is.

[Bhagat Singh]

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How many hours does your dad work per week? + How many hours of commute?
How much time does he spend with you? + How much free time does he have?
What does he enjoy doing the most? something that he would do even if he didn't get paid

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