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A beautiful short story* ?⚬? : Imperfection is beautiful too !

A man found a beautiful pearl. It was very beautiful but a small flaw in it.The man thought, if he can remove the flaw, it would be the biggest and most beautiful pearl ever in his possession.

He peeled off a layer to correct the flaw. The flaw was still there.

He peeled off another layer, the flaw was still there. He kept on peeling off the layers until all the layers were gone. Now there was no flaw, but there was no pearl too.

In this life, no one is PERFECT. Each person you meet would have some FLAW or the other.

You will end up losing the person completely while trying to correct his/her flaws.

So try to learn by accepting people with their flaws and you will be surrounded by beautiful people all around you...

 

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Moving as per times

 

Don't encourage your son and his wife to stay under same roof with you. Best to suggest them to move out, even to the extent of renting a house.  It's their problem to find a separate home.

More the distance between you and your children's families, the better is the relationship.

Treat your son's wife as his wife, not as your own daughter, maybe just treat her as a friend. Your son would always be your Junior,  but, if you think that his wife is of the same rank and if you ever scolded her, she would  remember it for life.

In real life, only her own mother and not you will be viewed as a person qualified to scold or correct.

Whatever habits or characters your son's wife has, is not your problem at all, it is your son problem. 

Your son's problem isn't  your problem as he is an adult already

Even living together, made each other businesses clear, don't do their laundry, don't cook for them and don't baby sit their children.

Unless, of course, special request by your son's wife and you felt that you're capable.

Most importantly, you shouldn't worry about your son's family problems. Let them settle themselves

Pretend to b blind and deaf when your son and his wife are quarrelling.  It's normal that the young couple do not like their parents to be involved in the dispute between husband and wife.

When your son gets angry, say something good about his wife. On the other hand, when she gets angry, scold your son.

Your grandchildren totally belong to your son and his wife. However they want to raise their children,  it is up to them.  The credit or blame would be on themselves.

Your son's wife need not necessarily  respect and serve you. It is the son's duty.  You should have taught your son to be a better person so that you and your son's wife relationship could be better. Always  tell others how well your son's wife treated you but, never ever tell others how well you treated her.

Do more planning for your own retirement, don't rely on your children to take care of  your retirement. You had already walked through most of your journey in life, there are still a lot of new things to learn through out the journey
It is your own interest that you enjoy your retirement years.  Better if you could utilise & enjoy everything that you had saved before you die.  Don't let your wealth become worthless to you.

Grandchildren don't belong to your family, they're their parents precious gift.

The above message is not only for you, please share it with your friends,  parents, in-law, uncles, auntie, husband or wife to find peace & progress in life.

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