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8 minutes ago, Big_Tera said:

Plus I dont see rhe point in going ahead with something just please elders. Just dont think I will be happy with a short girl who is alot younger then mem

Don't agree to it, then. Beyond the age and height issues, what's she like as a person? What's her family dynamic like? Is the father the one who wears the trousers in the household, or does the mother? Siblings and their habits? What's your intuition telling you? These are all essential factors that are just as important as age and height.

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1 hour ago, Big_Tera said:

Plus I dont see rhe point in going ahead with something just please elders. Just dont think I will be happy with a short girl who is alot younger then mem

You will never find perfection.

If you are 6' 5", then finding a girl 5'8"+ is going to be difficult.

Most Sikh women on average between 5'2" and 5'4".

How tall are you?

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11 minutes ago, HarkiranKaur said:

I'd say most Sikh guys are between 5'6" and 5'11" taller than that is not the norm from what I have seen. And for women about 5'2"-5'5" average. You can find Sikh girls in the 5'8" or taller range but rare. Of course I'm not in Punjab but Kashmir. 

Yeah, but as a condition for marriage if everything else was excellent; that's an overperfection. Though he's got to be happy, instead of starting a marriage on a bad foot.

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19 minutes ago, HarkiranKaur said:

If someone is so hung up on height in my mind that's no difference than being hung up on looks or hair etc. Is that really how we are supposed to select a life partner? A long list of do they have a round face, nice teeth, not too fat, no unibrow, over x height etc?

Appearance matters; I'm sorry for not being politically, (or religiously), correct but when you are trying to find someone and know absolutely nothing about them other than what they tell you and what they look like, then it matters a lot. (Only extreme feminists would say appearance doesn't matter.) What I was saying was if he's obsessive about one thing, it won't be really productive.

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Usually when we have doubts in our mind there is an underlying issue that we are not aware of yet. Think through it properly, dont rush yourself or force yourself in marriage. Once, you are married you are done, there is no turning around.

So take your time with it and think with your brain.

 

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