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Hi there,

 

I'm 20 years old non amritari and me and bf (I know which is not allowed in Sikh faith) have had a very difficult relationship we have broken up various times in a short period of time and I have cheated within that timeframe however we are still together. I was wondering whether it is wrong for me to stay with him but then again we had so many breakups and then back together it almost seems as it doesn't count as cheating, due to not being together at the time. Also does cheating count before marriage as you are not technically together till you are married in front of Waheguru. I was to marry this Sikh boy but I'm unsure if it is the right thing to do due to the circumstances that have occurred. Surely God can forgive me for what I have done but I know he wouldn't.

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you cant remain faithful outside of marriage what makes you think you'll be faithful after marriage?  after marriage its not just your husband but waheguru that you have to be faithful with 

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Hi, there

I think your young and people make mistakes and like you said you wasnt really together. I think from now on you should stay faithful and learn from the past and move on, and don't do this again even after marriage after all God does forgive all.

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go tell your boyfriend the truth.  and tell you 'sikh boy marriage partner' the truth too.

you need to learn about your mind also, so you do not keep making the same mistakes again and again.

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But does it even count if it was on and off they broke up and got back together numerous times therefore they were not solid enough for it to count 

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On 10/18/2019 at 10:53 PM, Guest Guest 22 said:

But does it even count if it was on and off they broke up and got back together numerous times therefore they were not solid enough for it to count 

she will find out by telling them the truth about it.  then they can decide whether it counts to them.

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On 9/30/2019 at 3:40 AM, Guest SUKH1 said:

Hi there,

 

I'm 20 years old non amritari and me and bf (I know which is not allowed in Sikh faith) have had a very difficult relationship we have broken up various times in a short period of time and I have cheated within that timeframe however we are still together. I was wondering whether it is wrong for me to stay with him but then again we had so many breakups and then back together it almost seems as it doesn't count as cheating, due to not being together at the time. Also does cheating count before marriage as you are not technically together till you are married in front of Waheguru. I was to marry this Sikh boy but I'm unsure if it is the right thing to do due to the circumstances that have occurred. Surely God can forgive me for what I have done but I know he wouldn't.

Tell him the truth, relationships should be based on honesty and he should have the choice as to whether or not he wants to be with you given all the information.

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Youngsters really need to read a good psychology book on relationships to understand what is involved in a successful relationship. 

Getting ideas from films which portray loose characters who jump from partner to partner in a split second are showing emotional immaturity. You have to work on your owm communication problems in order to tell your partner what your needs are and be a little more enduring. 

It takes a lot of effort and deeper understanding to keep a relationship going. Financial stability personality and morality are the pillars that lead to a successful marriage. It's hard work which I suppose youngsters just take for granted thus engaging in a physical relationship to make up for their shortcomings in other areas. 

 

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