When is fat shaming okay?

[dallysingh101]

2 hours ago, Premi5 said:

That just cracked me up!!! lol!!!!!!!!!!!

[ssinghuk]

@dallysingh101 my two cents.

It depends on your relationship with him. 

One way would be maybe giving him a few hints; comparing what he was before and what he has become. Pointing out the benefits of being in shape on all the different aspects of life - healthy mind and body etc generally leads to a higher chance of success in different fields. You have already pointed the other person you heard of who passed away due to ill health.

Alternative just blurt it out "mate, what's gone wrong?". But you can only do that if you are confident that it wont cause unrepairable damage to your relationship. 

[GurjantGnostic]

4 minutes ago, Rajasthani said:

If someone is under 15 then We should not fat shame him/her if he /she is above 15 then ok.

 

Just wait till you're fifteen fatty. Whew. You gonna hear it then butterball. Lol 

People just be looking at fat thirteen year olds. Waiting for them to hit target age. 

 

[GurjantGnostic]

35 minutes ago, ssinghuk said:

@dallysingh101 my two cents.

It depends on your relationship with him. 

One way would be maybe giving him a few hints; comparing what he was before and what he has become. Pointing out the benefits of being in shape on all the different aspects of life - healthy mind and body etc generally leads to a higher chance of success in different fields. You have already pointed the other person you heard of who passed away due to ill health.

Alternative just blurt it out "mate, what's gone wrong?". But you can only do that if you are confident that it wont cause unrepairable damage to your relationship. 

His friend shed that premarital 20, his Mehla is tied to the ol ball and chain now and it's just getting heavier...and heavier.

She must have a lot of Sharda for Sikhi or tell him she loves him a lot. Dude is no longer concerned. 

[dallysingh101]

6 minutes ago, GurjantGnostic said:

His friend shed that premarital 20, his Mehla is tied to the ol ball and chain now and it's just getting heavier...and heavier.

She must have a lot of Sharda for Sikhi or tell him she loves him a lot. Dude is no longer concerned. 

Yeah! There's that dimension too. If I was a broad and someone sprung that up on me, I'd be fuming. Maybe he feels now that he's married and got kids, she can't run off and has to tolerate it? 

The ironic thing is, he lived with me prior to getting married, and we talked about this when he got slimmed down........  it's like really selfish of him too in my opinion? I know females might keep quiet, but I'm pretty sure they'll be embarrassed about it to some degree. 

 

[GurjantGnostic]

Everyone is so occupied with work, and stress etc. Only way to have time and opportunity for all the right stuff is spend most free time as a family at the Gurudwara, and the Gurudwara must offer a great deal more services, edcuation, and opportunities. Reading bits and pieces about Purtan Gurudwara, you realize how much more...holistic...activated...comprehensive and inclusive those Gurudwaras were. 

Gym. Gurudwara. 

University. Gurudwara. 

Communal kitchen. Gurudwara. 

Union. Gurudwara. 

Hospital. Gurudwara. 

Chamber of commerce. Gurudwara. 

Motor pool. Gurudwara. 

Child care and education. Gurudwara. 

Counseling. Gurudwara. 

[GurjantGnostic]

14 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

Yeah! There's that dimension too. If I was a broad and someone sprung that up on me, I'd be fuming. Maybe he feels now that he's married and got kids, she can't run off and has to tolerate it? 

The ironic thing is, he lived with me prior to getting married, and we talked about this when he got slimmed down........  it's like really selfish of him too in my opinion? I know females might keep quiet, but I'm pretty sure they'll be embarrassed about it to some degree. 

 

Yeah. My mom always told me when you get married you have a responsibiliy to stay fit. Your other is monogamous with you and committed. Your children rely on you. Your ability to work relies on it.

Even on the shallow level...I mean dudes already...aren't the fairer sex. Least we can do is be fit and clean. 

But hey. Maybe she cut him off, is happy and has a huge life insurance policy on him. She's just like, spend time with the kids while you can before the heart attack takes you. Remember to Jaap Naam. 

Wait. I should have called it fat life insurance policy. 

Jokes aside, you're doing the right thing encouraging him to be fit. 

[dallysingh101]

4 minutes ago, GurjantGnostic said:

Yeah. My mom always told me when you get married you have a responsibiliy to stay fit. Your other is monogamous with you and committed. Your children rely on you. Your ability to work relies on it.

Even on the shallow level...I mean dudes already...aren't the fairer sex. Least we can do is be fit and clean. 

But hey. Maybe she cut him off, is happy and has a huge life insurance policy on him. She's just like, spend time with the kids while you can before the heart attack takes you. Remember to Jaap Naam. 

Bros got access to a reasonably resourced small private gym. We bought a lot of the stuff together. It's such a shame man. 

[GurjantGnostic]

1 minute ago, dallysingh101 said:

Bros got access to a reasonably resourced small private gym. We bought a lot of the stuff together. It's such a shame man. 

What does he like to do?

If it's eat and tv, what does he watch? 

Is his job high paying and desk oriented or could he just as easily work physically and make the same or similar money?

[dallysingh101]

7 minutes ago, GurjantGnostic said:

What does he like to do?

If it's eat and tv, what does he watch? 

Is his job high paying and desk oriented or could he just as easily work physically and make the same or similar money?

Let's drop the subject. I'm going to start thinking about the past too much then! lol

He's just really physically lazy from young I guess. I realise now, having him here living with me meant he couldn't get away with it for a bit, plus he was probably really motivated because his wedding was coming up. 

He's had umpteen opportunities to do physically work (that would have paid off too) but preferred sedentary type work. 

He is a creature of comfort I guess (well f**king undeniably). 

You can take a horse to water...etc. etc.