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so, i'm in year 12, uk. my parents are like sort-of connected with sikhism, but not much. they still eat meat and modify the hair, and while i try not too. my parents forces me to like remove the hairs and eat the meat and i try not to but i most of the time don't win and i feel guilty. i wanted to take amrit, but my parents don't let me and say im too young.  i've learnt gurmukhi and the rehat myraada from online and gurughar. every time i take a step towards being a sikh, they pull me back.  i feel like i'm losing my faith

 

what should i do? should i give up or should I wait till i'm more control of my life?

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On 4/28/2023 at 10:24 PM, Guest AMANDEEP said:

so, i'm in year 12, uk. my parents are like sort-of connected with sikhism, but not much. they still eat meat and modify the hair, and while i try not too. my parents forces me to like remove the hairs and eat the meat and i try not to but i most of the time don't win and i feel guilty. i wanted to take amrit, but my parents don't let me and say im too young.  i've learnt gurmukhi and the rehat myraada from online and gurughar. every time i take a step towards being a sikh, they pull me back.  i feel like i'm losing my faith

 

what should i do? should i give up or should I wait till i'm more control of my life?

I know this forum does not allow meat discussion. but does rehat maryada say you should not eat meat?

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On 4/28/2023 at 5:24 PM, Guest AMANDEEP said:

so, i'm in year 12, uk. my parents are like sort-of connected with sikhism, but not much. they still eat meat and modify the hair, and while i try not too. my parents forces me to like remove the hairs and eat the meat and i try not to but i most of the time don't win and i feel guilty. i wanted to take amrit, but my parents don't let me and say im too young.  i've learnt gurmukhi and the rehat myraada from online and gurughar. every time i take a step towards being a sikh, they pull me back.  i feel like i'm losing my faith

 

what should i do? should i give up or should I wait till i'm more control of my life?

I'd say start with doing Nitnem and Amrit Vela for a while before taking Amrit. If you are living the Rehat it becomes more easier to eventually take Amrit, if you never do paaht, it would be hard to keep the maryada.

27 minutes ago, ipledgeblue said:

I know this forum does not allow meat discussion. but does rehat maryada say you should not eat meat?

Just make another topic brava.

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On 4/28/2023 at 2:24 PM, Guest AMANDEEP said:

i wanted to take amrit, but my parents don't let me and say im too young.

As long as you are dependent on them, you'll have to do what they say.

They might want to prevent you from taking Amrit, but there's no possible objection they could make to you simply reading Gurbani.

Wake up early and read Gurbani. Memorize Nitnem. And Rehras and Kirtan Sohila. Read all of Guru Granth Sahib ji.

Read Sikh history. Read Bhai Gurdas ji's Vaars. Read Panth Prakash and then Suraj Prakash or listen to katha of them.

Listen to katha, especially by old-time preachers like Sant Gurbachan Singh Bhindran. And Maskeen ji.

There is plenty you can do before taking Amrit.

Also, get strong by exercising.

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On 6/9/2023 at 6:35 AM, ipledgeblue said:

I know this forum does not allow meat discussion. but does rehat maryada say you should not eat meat?

The rehit maryada published by the SGPC prohibits kutha.

If he's a generic Sikh who has parents who don't care about Rehit, they likely buy halal meat from time to time because often that's what's available in the store.

This is prohibited by all Sikh sects.

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10 hours ago, BhForce said:

The rehit maryada published by the SGPC prohibits kutha.

If he's a generic Sikh who has parents who don't care about Rehit, they likely buy halal meat from time to time because often that's what's available in the store.

This is prohibited by all Sikh sects.

actually he sound like the prachar from the generic non-bana wearing amrit dharis from last century post-partition, with the mantra "don't eat meat, it's against sikhi" etc...

Can't be having that in the 2020s, not where Nihang Singhs are much more visible again in the panth!

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4 hours ago, ipledgeblue said:

actually he sound like the prachar from the generic non-bana wearing amrit dharis from last century post-partition, with the mantra "don't eat meat, it's against sikhi" etc...

Can't be having that in the 2020s, not where Nihang Singhs are much more visible again in the panth!

I mean no offense, but arguing about meat one way or the other is pretty useless if someone doesn't know bani or rehat. For most people eating KFC is the same as jhatkaing an animal yourself.

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