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Sangat ji I am new to this forum and the only reason why I signed up is because I need help. I am amritdhari and I have watched porn and masturbated several times. I have never missed Nitnem or done anything with another women, do I go for Pesh or keep doing ardaas? The reason why I haven't gone Pesh is because I think I will commit the same mistakes again. Pls help me
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Kaam
by Guest hsj- 0 replies
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I am 15 years and had amrit at 13 years and by mistake had intercourse with my sister. Should I take amrit again?
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Kaam (Lust)
by Guest Jaso- 1 reply
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SANGAT JEE. NEED YOUR VIEWS URGENTLY. .. BHAI SAHIB DOESNT KNOW HOW TO SAY THAT HE HAS MASTURBATED TO THE PANJ PYAARE IN PUNJABI, CAN ANYONE PLEASE HELP US WHAT TO SAY IN AMRIT SANCHAR IN WORDS? is this okay to say, "METHO KAAM DI GALTI HOGI, MERE SOCHNI TE MERE KAM BAHOT GALT C" ????
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Kaam A Diff Perspective 1 2
by Guest deep789- 11 replies
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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ke Fateh! Hi its the first time im using this forum i usually try and get answers from elsewhere but no luck to my question. What I wanted to ask was about sex before marriage. I am a bit confused about the concept of kaam is it acceptable or not? obviously the answer seems like a no, but then why does Gurbani say 'dharma artha kama moksha ka data...' meaning God is the giver off all of the mentioned. Also the Guru's all had children.. some had more some had less... I don't understand and please no answers like its ok but after marriage only, because when a Sikh gets married its laavan the paat which is read, i dont know why this is bec…
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Kaam (lust) is one of the 5 vices. Our aim is to overcome these 5 vices to emerge with Waheguru (God) after death. However to get married and have kids we need Kaam, so i am confused on this part. Yes we can Jap Naam (meditate) as a family man as well, but without Kaam how can we have kids. Post you're views.
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Kaam caused issue at work place 1 2
by Guest Baksho- 15 replies
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Hi sangatji I am around 29 , I have been facing this issue for a long time. I really have been trying to cope up with Kaam, whenever I indulge in masturbation or any adultry it effects my work, like I could be scolded by my supervisor, or maybe something wrong happens at the office like failure . I work as a customer support, so when I do that,I do get cranky customers, escalated cases, scolding customers and everything goes bad . I try to do ardass whenever I get indulge and try to avoid it in first place, but sometimes even when I am not indulging, like for example, a scene comes in a movie that might be explicit, even I m not intended to do kaam like ma…
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Kaam destroyer
by Guest Daas- 2 replies
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Waheguru ji ka khalsa, Waheguru ji ki fateh. To anyone suffering from kaam, do jaap of this shabad and all kaam will be gone. Try at least half an hour each day. 'Gobinde, Mukande, Udare, Apare, Hariang, Kariang, Nirname, Akame' JAAP SAHIB ( pauri 94) (sorry don't know how to put in gurmukhi text).
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Kaam Even After Getting Amrit
by Guest G.SIngh- 9 replies
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WJKK WJKF I am a 20 year old Amritdhari Sikh guy.I did a great sin.I <mod cut> acted on kaam on my own even after getting Amrit.I have watched such movies,pix etc.I know I ll be punished.But I want to know do I need to re-take Amrit now though I did nothing with paraai/someother lady etc.I always do full Nitnem and never missed anyday after getting Amrit.Plz answere this question do I need to retake Amrit and also tell some Bani which may help me to ask for Bul Chuk Maaf. Regards G.Singh
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Kaam For An Amritdhari Sikh
by Guest Guest- 6 replies
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I have recently been blessed with amrit for a month, but in that month i have master baited twice. I do simran and nitnem everyday, and follow rehat. I do sports and keep my self busy with activities but then on days I am not doing anything and home alone, I get random urges to do it. I do ardaas everyday to stop my kaam, but its not working. I know this topic has been posted many times but what do u say about an amritdhari sikh doing it.?
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does everyone in there teenage days masturbate and does that mean that guru ji will help them get rid of kaam but will not forgive the sins of yu masturbaten does this mean that you still have to suffer through the million days of pain thing in your next life please help i try to quit did for a month and a couple days but everytime i get this feeling inside me like a craving that i hav to do it its so hard please answer both question can
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Wjkk Wjkf I am in my late 20s struggling with kaam a lot. I do a bit of paath as well and want to take amrit but waiting for things like career to be sorted first. Especially as i am writting this as today i missed my nitnem i feel weaker than before. I have struggling with it since i have been 15 and its getting to the point where i have spent money on webcams,chatlines (my fav girl has been offline for a while) and watching porn. I am now having strong urges to vist a escort as i am still a virgin. I spent and waste time looking online for one and pics. I am ashmed as i act a gursikh infront everyone but i have this hidden part of me. I know this is wrong but i jus…
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Kaam Help
by Guest misguidedSingh- 8 replies
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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh I am in my mid 20's and I do a lot of Paath and don't drink smoke no meat etc but i have been distrubed by kaam also at the same time. Iwant to take amrit and be a Gursikh but i am waiting for jobwise career to be better first. Well every time i am on my laptop i get cravings to look .........edited........... i feel really bad afterwoods and feel like a big paapi. I do ardas and go to Gurdwara and do metha tak and say i will never do it again but i end up failing and in the same trap again. Another thing that has been with me is that I have been a Virgin all my life never had a girlfriend or kiss. But I someti…
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Kaam help
by Guest Uh oh- 7 replies
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Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh I am not an amritdhari sikh and recently i made a promise to sachepashaji to quit masturbating. I broke after a few days abd now I am wondering if I have to pesh.
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Kaam help
by Guest Guest- 5 replies
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So I'm at 17 year old male amritdhar, so I've abstained from porn and masutrbation for about 4 months but lately my old habits of masutrbation and watching porn are coming back and i feel so devestated after watching porn and masutrbating, I know it's wrong but sometime I can't seem to controll, I do japji sahib path and ardass after each time I do masturbate and watch porn. How can I stop myself from feeling devestated and stop myself from this bad habit?
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Kaam is so easy to fall into.
by Guest Singh- 1 reply
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Keep falling into kaam. Maharaj kirpa that I have never missed any of my nitnem, try to do maximum sangat but kaam does not leave. Blessed are those gurusikhs who conquer this evil. Blessed are those gurusikhs who try to conquer kaam. I am not even 1% equal to them as I only need 5 seconds of convincing before I go down the kaam route. How do you deal with kaam on a practical level? Thanks
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Leaving aside Guru ji, the general question of taking afeem (opium) in limited quantities for war/medical wounds is simply unproblematic. When you go to the hospital, they give you morphine. What do you think morphine is? It's an opiate. Even codeine (cough syrup) is an opiate! Ever had a cough? Granted, it is against Gurmat to take opium or other drugs for the fun of it. -
Yeah, that's one possibility. Another I initially thought is that it's a Muslim trying to gather info. But then, you might ask, how does he know about Sikh textual sources. Well, you'd be surprised at their resourcefulness. A final possibility is he's a weak Sikh who was asked a question by a non-Sikh and now he's suddenly feverishly wondering where it's "written" that you can't marry a young child. To the latter, I would say, you're looking in the wrong spot. Gurbani isn't a 1428 page rulebook, like Leviticus or the Vedas: ਸਿਮ੍ਰਿਤਿ ਸਾਸਤ੍ਰ ਪੁੰਨ ਪਾਪ ਬੀਚਾਰਦੇ ਤਤੈ ਸਾਰ ਨ ਜਾਣੀ ॥ ਤਤੈ ਸਾਰ ਨ ਜਾਣੀ ਗੁਰੂ ਬਾਝਹੁ ਤਤੈ ਸਾਰ ਨ ਜਾਣੀ ॥ The Simritis and Shastras discriminate between charity and sin, but know not the essence of the Real Thing. Without the Guru, they know not the essence of the Reality, know not the essence of the Reality. Anand Sahib.
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back then was waaaay different. ppl didn’t attend higher education or have much to do after the age of like… 13, lol. you’d have 13 year olds boys and girls that know how to do kethi, cook entire meals, etc nowadays even 22 year olds are extremely immature and can be sheltered. the average person doesn’t know how to do anything except their 9-5 which they are probably half arsing as well.
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