We need to trust Panj piyarays. If there is no trust then that person is not ready.
In the olden days, out of a Sangat of say 100 who wanted Amrit....possibly 30 were accepted....the majority were turned back and asked to prepare more thoroughly and return next time. Infact, many were refused several times.
Shaheed Bhai Fauja Singh Jee was turned back the first time and when he came back the second time, the Panj Pyare refused again...but this time Bhai Fauja Singh Jee refused to leave without the Great Gift of Naam/Amrit....so the Panj Pyare told him to go and lay down on a railway track until told otherwise. Bhai Fauja Singh rushed off to obey Guru Sahib's command and one Singh was sent secretly to observe him and told to pull him away before the train comes. Bhai Fauja Singh Jee lay on the track and even upon the obvious arrival of the train did not shift at all. The Singh who was sent behind Bhai Fauja Singh Jee ran out and tried to pull away Bhai Fauja Singh Jee before the train killed him, but Bhai Fauja Singh Jee refused to leave...not wanting to disobey his Guru....eventually he was pulled away in time and they returned to the Panj Pyare who ONLY then were satisfied with him.