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I received Amrit, not because I understood the Sikh way, but because I wanted to understand the Sikh way. I realised that true understanding of Sikhi can come only if I submit to the way of Satguru Nanak. After having spent significant time reading and listening what worldly gurus—scholars and academics of Sikhism—had to say about Sikhi, I realised the only way to truly sikh (learn), and change myself was to become a Sikh. This meant that I had to make a commitment to the Guru and receive Amrit. Amrit, for me, was the first step and a product only of my desire to change. I was reluctant for a long time because I knew that this commitment would require me to change how I live, and I really did not want to give up my lifestyle.

Frankly, there have been days since I made this commitment when I have second guessed the choice I made. What I have also realised that following the Reht, which on many a day has been a chore and quite ritualistic, has helped me to submit some part of my will. I don’t know why Guru Sahib asked me to follow the discipline of the Panth. I don’t know why I must wear articles that at times seem antiquated and meaningless. I don’t know why Satguru asked me to arise before dawn and repeat prayers that more often than not mean nothing to me—even though I know much of the literal meaning. I only know that I would like to grow, that I would like to love, and that I would like to live like Satguru Nanak. And if I have to follow a discipline that does not agree with my limited intelligence, I must will myself to follow it, especially if I am serious about emulating Guru Nanak.

In this struggle to follow the Guru’s Reht I fail everyday. But I continue the struggle. Some days are more disheartening than others. Some days I can say that following the discipline has helped me change a little by helping me get a little more control over my anger, be a little more cognisant of my arrogance, and be a little more aware when I am being crude. Some days I feel that I have bridged a small part of the vast gap between me and Bhai Lehna, the ideal Sikh who grew to become the image of Satguru Nanak.

There are moments when I find my Kesh not as meaningless symbol, but as the Guru’s Kesh. On occasion I find my Kirpan not as a symbol, but as the Guru’s gift of Kirpa (grace). On rare blissful days I see my Kanga as a mark of my Guru’s love. In every ten times I rattle through my Nitnem, may be once I connect with a line. My eyes well up with joy and my ego boundaries dissolve, and I get a glimpse of the unspeakable. So I tell myself when I doubt the commitment I made the day I received Amrit not to focus on the do's and don'ts of the discipline, but on the love I seek to develop for the Guru. If my focus is love for the Guru, then the problems I have wearing my Kesh or my Kirpan, the agony I go through to get up to do my Nitnem are all well worth it.

That I don’t follow the Reht completely is a measure of my wishy-washy love for the Guru. At 10:30 pm when I have a choice to go to sleep and wake up at Amrit Vela to do simran, or watch Star Trek, and I choose to watch TV, I am effectively choosing Captain Kirk over Guru Nanak. Clearly even though I may claim to love Guru Nanak, my actions and my lack of willingness to change, show that I love Captain Kirk more (yuck! but true). The commitment that Amrit asks of me is much more that just wearing 5 K's and doing Nitnem. It asks me to will myself to change; to lose my anger, my greed, my attachment to Maya, my arrogance; and that is far more difficult. If I cannot even follow the easy part of the discipline, which is largely related to my physical self, how can I even dream of conquering my spiritual self. If I cannot even submit when it comes to wearing my Kacchera and Kirpan, how can I possibly submit to wearing humility and compassion.

The question that Guru Nanak asks me: "Are you ready to love?" My answer is Yes, but do my actions say that too? Following the Reht is just one small measure of demonstrating a willingness to give up my way of thinking.

The do's and don'ts of the discipline are not important. The question is love. Some GurSikhs are unwilling to part with there 5 K's even for a moment. Others make some exceptions. The Guru’s Reht, as articulated by the Guru Panth, says nothing about this. So every Sikh has to look within and answer to their conscience through with the Guru speaks to a Sikh. For one Sikh taking off the Kirpan even for a moment is troubling, for another it is okay if under certain circumstances it is removed. As long as the Kirpan and the other K's are worn and respected, each Sikh must choose for her/himself as to what is acceptable.

While I am not an avid sports person, when I swim or play sports I do remove my Kirpan, but I put it back on as soon as I am done). I am comfortable with this. I have been chastised by some Sikhs that I am too fanatical for wearing a Kirpan and by others for being to lax in following the Guru’s discipline. I listen to both; and try not to react to either. My conscience is clear. I respect the choice some GurSikhs make to never remove their 5 Ks, but don’t feel that the Guru demands this of me. I am not comfortable with wearing mock versions of the 5 Ks around my neck. My Guru speaks to me through my conscience. My conscience is moulded by my values. My values change as I reflect on Gurbani, Sikh History, the Reht, the view of my sangat and spirituality.

Hoping to be a constant "changer"...hoping to be a Sikh.

Kulmeet Singh

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11

The problem with this situation is you have been taken by Kaljug, it is up to a Gursikh to fight against all this and become one with Waheguru..........

You talk about losing some connection with Guru Ji and have more preference for more materialistic things....Bani states that these things will not have any relevance when leave this world and its kaljug that is trying to make you feel as though you are losing this connection with Guru Ji. You was born a Sikh and will die a Sikh....in the eyes of Guru Ji you are his Sikh.

The day you took amrit you gave your head to Guru Ji... and if you read the Sukhmani Sahib paat, Guru Arjun Dev Ji says.... Man beche satgur ke pass,Tis sevak ke karaj raas' The day you give your mind to Waheguru all things will be solved and accomplished!!! So its just a matter of time when Waheguru takes you out this darkness and into the true light.

Don't worry man...Waheguru Jani Jaan....he will sort summit out!!! Keep reading baani and you will definately find the answers!!!! :TH:

May Maharaj Ji bless you with a Gursikhi jivan and help you fight this battle against Kaljug!!!

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Does this not raise the Q that before taking amrit one should be fully prepared and ready with both mind and body. The amrit seals all the saint/warrior qualities and thereafter such doubts or minor desires no longer interfere with the mind.

We must remember taking amrit is the first step on the way to sach khand and if one is properly prepared one is likely to progress towards other steps otherwise you may fall off the first step and physically remain there. However, in situations where preparation has not been very solid I am sure WAHEGURU will never let his sikh fall and will continue to guide and encourage him/her forward.

Gurbani says NEVER LOOK BACK KEEP MOVING FORWARD AND YOU WILL REACH YOUR REAL HOME.

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Always remember that the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, and we all stumble. Submitting to Guruji is remembering that you must be humble enough to let Him take you by the hand and get you back on your feet.

Blessed be,

BahaPolska

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