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ask him if he will marry you

what r u scared offff ????

if he says no then it means hes not interested and you can get on with your life and rule out that particular person

and if he says yes then you both happy

eitherway you dont want to hang on to a bf/gf situation and it is not good being sikhs and maintaining bf/gf

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WJKK WJKF

what r u scared offff ????

Marriage is a very serious and sensitive issue.

You can't just go up to someone and say them "HEY!! LET’S TRADE RINGS!!” Well, for most people anyways.

One of the biggest fears is rejection. Knowing that the partner does not share the same feelings as you is such a jab-in-the-heart. A lot of people are afraid of negative outcomes, especially if a deep feeling is developing inside.

eitherway you dont want to hang on to a bf/gf situation and it is not good being sikhs and maintaining bf/gf

I totally agree with you.

My advice is take your time, stay calm, and just be smooth with the guy.

All the best. :)

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If you're going to ask him to marry you or ask if he's seriously interested in you, what's the difference between you and a regular non-Sikh? Gursikhs have marriages arranged through parents or elders in the community. If we're encouraging the youth to go out and set things up themselves like this, what more manmat will we endorse tomorrow? This is not the Gursikh way and no good can come from following manmat. Ask your parents or other Gursikhs to speak with him, don't take matters into your own hands.

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i asked he's not interestd. his folks says to him to marry a friendz daughter.  he said dat we were nutin more than friendz. i said we are not talking anymore.

Bhenji as Untitled Singh mentioned, you are probably feeling really upset at the moment but there is someone else out there who Waheguru Jee wants you to spend the rest of your life with..

Baba Nand Singh Jee used to say:

Jo Keeta So Vah Vah - What you have done for me in the past is great

Jo Kar Kara Rahe Ho So Vah Vah - What you are doing for me at present is great

Jo Karoge So Vah Vah - What you will do for me in the future will be great

When you get down, think of the above.

At least you know now what he thinks and will be able to get on with your life.

Stay in Chardi Kala Bhenji :TH:

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