The Disease!

[Mehtab Singh]

Also i dont agee with this whole trend penji and bhaaji business between youths, call each other penji or paaji only if you mean it , dont do uparo uparo(outside), say it if you mean it have enuf juice in your gut to stand by being bhaaji or peenji , act like one... i know loads of cases where singhs and singhanis call each other by penji and bhaaji, ending up marrying each other in later time

You are right

i jus had a small question boutty hat whiole marryin ur sioster thing. I thought we were suppposed to think of all gurls as sisters? So in the end... wont we wend up marryin 1 any ways

You are also right

So whats the solution? Well, don't think bad about him/her. Instead of merely calling him/her as veerjee/penji, feel about him/her that way from inside. How? Don't have evil thoughts about him/her at all, so that tomorrow if you end up being veerjee/bhenji, it won't disappoint you (although its very nasty if you get disappointed by a bibi calling you veerjee) as you never had evil thoughts about her. And don't have evil thoughts about him/her, so that tomorrow if you end up being husband-wife, you will still be ok with it as you both never had the "veer/bhen" thing going on anyways. Feeling nothing is more important than calling anything.

The key is to treat and look upon other Singhs/Singhnees as veer/bhen. Merely calling them so isn't the real deal. Both Namastang and Ramneet Singh are right in their own context. Sometimes you call someone as something but it turns into something else. And sometimes you don't call them anything else, yet it turns into something else. Who knows what Gurujee's bhana is! Best is to leave our matrimonial affairs to Him!

[Guest baba amarjeet singh]

yeah

boys talking to girls vice versa is rong

but this has been said a million times.

the topic starter is wasting his time.

wats the point of saying the same thing over and over?

[gupt_pappi]

yeah

boys talking to girls vice versa is rong

but this has been said a million times.

the topic starter is wasting his time.

wats the point of saying the same thing over and over?

Ok, it has been said over and over again BUT has it had any major effect? You still see people POW about!!!

Its like telling a child not to do something, u need to tell them over and over again before they understand and i think its the same in this scenario......we tell people not to flirt but do they listen/stop?

Bhul Chuk Maaf

[Guest baba amarjeet singh]

yeah

boys talking to girls vice versa is rong

but this has been said a million times.

the topic starter is wasting his time.

wats the point of saying the same thing over and over?

Ok, it has been said over and over again BUT has it had any major effect? You still see people POW about!!!

Its like telling a child not to do something, u need to tell them over and over again before they understand and i think its the same in this scenario......we tell people not to flirt but do they listen/stop?

Bhul Chuk Maaf

the point is, these people have been told already, they know its wrong, theyre not babies, if they want to carry on doing such actions they will, regardless of posts or emails.

preaching wont solve it, who are we to preach

[davindervirk]

Why interfere with other people business? Hey that life what are you doing to do about it? I agree with baba amerjeet

[KKV]

Gurufateh!

you know what ive only jus got round to reading this topic!!! and i agree u know, innocent chattin can lead to something sooo bad. one of the best topics been put up thanks to Pwalla Veerji :TH:

of course, i'll bug people with this info.

I suppose it is stereotypical - to automatically think that JUST BECUASE a Amritdhari bibi / bhenji - has taken Amrit - that it means she has good intentions..learnt a lot from this!!!

thanks again!!

Gurufateh!

[gupt_pappi]

Why interfere with other people business? Hey that life what are you doing to do about it? I agree with baba amerjeet

I aint going to do anything, it's all in the hands of Vaheguru! Pwalla has posted what he feels is right. Everyone have different views but as Gursikhs we need to accept what other believe and concentrate on ourself.

[GuruManeyoGranth]

Great posts by Namstang!

Waheguroo

[Raaj.Karega.Khalsa]

waheguruji ka khalsa waheugurji ki fateh jio

well i think the main thing is to NOT to have the kaam feelings in ourselves....b'coz calling sum1 or not calling sum1 as penji or veerji doesn't make a difference as much as your effort in stopping these feelings does......due to the human hormones these feelings are quite natural...........the thing is to make effort by reciting the naam...........

i m a moorakh ................i dunno anything jio

but pleez just don't be angry if you don't like the views i just gave ............i mean like you people tend to just attack the other if you do not agree ..........erm well, sorry if anything oversaid ji

[KKV]

BUMP

*lol talk about in ur face ^^*