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I know there are many threads regarding dating, love and marriage and some people feel gupt section should be scraped. Scrape it after this post tongue.gif . anyways back to my problem

I am 25 turning 26 in aug. My problem is people around me want me to get married and i have told them i want a bibi who wears a keski. I am not amritdhari yet but will be soon with guru kirpa. They posted my profile on shaadi.com and there were responses to my profile. I didnt like any of the girls who responded.

My parents and relatives say you should meet a girl and then over a period of time she can change but i dont like that idea.

helpppppppppppp me sangattttttttttttttttt pray.gif

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In my opinion, most girls who wear a keski are amritdhari and would look for an amritdhari partner. It'll be hard for them to consider you until you're amritdhari, because just as you don't like the idea of expecting or anticipating the change in the girl, she won't want to wait for the change to happen in you either. If you plan to become amritdhari, do it before marriage. Then you can find a proper partner accordingly...someone on the same path as yourself.

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wasn't there a someone with same problem as u sumwhere else......... like 3 posts down or sumthing................... grin.gifgrin.gif .. what to dooo... what to dooo.........

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In my opinion, most girls who wear a keski are amritdhari and would look for an amritdhari partner. It'll be hard for them to consider you until you're amritdhari, because just as you don't like the idea of expecting or anticipating the change in the girl, she won't want to wait for the change to happen in you either. If you plan to become amritdhari, do it before marriage. Then you can find a proper partner accordingly...someone on the same path as yourself.

agree with the above!

nd the original poster already told me that he knows it too and thats why its making it hard for him to find a singhni

mr. ajeey tayi labhii ni koi bibi? why dont u take amrit! what are u afraid of? knowing u...i know u ant the kind who is afraid of anything so y havt u ? i dont get it? kaurs do want a singh who has made a commitment (amritdhari) and is living the lifestyle of a singh!(or at least tryin to live it until she comes into ur life and sort ya out rolleyes.gif hehehehe)

panj piyare even tell u when u take amrit, in other words Guru pitta maharaj orders all of us to not even think about a person who is not amritshak! thn how can u expect a singhni to think about u or consider ya:(

i have asked this aunty ji as well init, but she said is teh singh amritshak! im all no. and she goes "well the families wont consider him." :sady:

(this sounds so cold but knowing u im sure u wont take it to ur heart and wil know what i really mean by what i hve said)

talk to u soon!

bhul chuk muaff karni

waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh!

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^^^ Who do you think i am :) .

I totally understand what the above posters have said and i very well know how the anand karaj thgy works amongst amritdharis. Even in rehit maryada it says that an amritdhari should marry an amritdhari and that is what i plan to do. I have a question regarding this aswell but its not that important.

But the problem here is that they want me to meet someone and then talk to her about how i feel and what my plans are. I dont really like that idea. :)

now the rehit question:

People say husband and wife should have the same rehit. considering all the jathabandis with different rehits doesn't that make the search for a life partner a little challenging. tongue.gif

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btw....I am by myself looking for a Singh for a dastar wearing Bibi here....but this phen jee... is 35....any gursikh would like to help me out....please do...her family is presuring her to marry a non amritdharee(to take off her keske).....PM me!...if you can help me out...Satnam

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nahee jee I am not in UK :cool: ...Plus many SO CALLED amrit dhares here look for NON-Dastar bibian wacko.gif .....there are NO elders gursikhs here thumbs_down.gif ...so whom should I aproach? cry_smile.gif ....If I do aproach the elders here(if that is what ur saying) :umm: @ ..they will say, " whats wrong with NOT wearing dastar bag.gif ..its not a MUST anyway :..: ....you can still be a GOOD amritdharee :umm: ."..u got my case now grin.gif ..LOL..I am somewhere in asia rolleyes.gif ......PM me :) !....

and to the veer jee above....what matters is, in what our Guru Sahib's khushi pray.gif is in :) , no matter what others think.... if u please humans..u will get praises hearye.gif (the most I think)....if you please guru sahib pray.gif ....there is just Keerpa and Keerpa d_oh.gifd_oh.gifd_oh.gif (no words to describe HIS Kalaa :WW: :WW: :WW: ... respect.gif ).Just do ardass pray.gif , Guru Sahib will help you out.( and don't forget to include me in ur ardass!) :nihungsmile:

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Before even considering finding a partner, one should reflect upon their own jeevan first. The whole point of marriage is for both partners to help each other reach mahraj. First you must give your head and receive amrit. Mahraj will find a suitable partner for you, if you have full faith in him. Then both you and your amritdhari wife can progress on the path of sikhi.

Dont try to go out and find your own potential partner, find some older gursikhs in your area, and ask them for help.

Vahigurujikakhalsa vahigurujikifateh

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Guest i swear

all these people judge this guy for looking for soemone, but thats what everyone else does anyway the only difference is that they might like soemone, tell their parents and then get it sorted out, but its still the kids that instigate it.

you all say oh yeh wait and do it through older gursikhs but you guys all do it yourselves, just under the "farce" of being through olders.really its all to do with the kids, they do it, elders make it efficial

those who do this will not get guruji's bakshish

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