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aaho..^^ wht u said.. but how many of us are like that?? and why rn't we like that ??

bibi rajni har koi ni bann sakda :lol:

people arent like that well some maybe BUT they get side tracked by thier parents who want the perfect son or daughter in law u got to remember marriage is a big family affair too.

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why surrender to your parents wishes whn you know thy r wrong??

I dont know man some people give in because of guilt/family honour or something then u get those classic uphappy marrages and sometimes parents support you, thats life.

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one thing thats great about arranged marriages is if it goes bad u can blame your parents because they arranged it LOL.gif ANYWAY i dont think society plays much of a role its the family who puts on the pressure.

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^^ wake up. why do you think family puts pressure on you? rolleyes.gif its cause of what's considered as "norm" in society. the fear is, "hai rabba, if we dont do it, what would peeople say" :lol:

i stand corrected.......yea ur right also goes for the alcohol and meat at weddings thing.......man it pisses me off even religious families cave into THAT one........

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i personally think that nowadays people lack knowledge in sikhi. That is why we look for a more westernised reason to marry an indivdual rather than the true reason of uniting your soul with another towards guru ji pray.gif (i blame media to beacuse it is a huge influence on a persons mind grin.gif

prabh sio laag rehiou maeraa cheeth ||My consciousness remains attached to God.

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date... depends on wha ur def'n of date is... i tink i's okay for 2 people who are tinkin bout marriage to get together and go out... talk... get to know eachother... i tink i's okay ONLY when they are serious bout marriage and are talking with a potential marriage partner and are looking to pursue towards marriage...

otherwise, the other type of 'dating' where u jus go around n whatever... i don't think tha's rite..

gettin to know the other person, in my opinion, is not only rite, but i's required... obviously not on a physical level, but a mental and spiritual connection shud be made before..

nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

thats not good!

go out? talk? that is dating!!!

sikhs should not be dating

leave it to your parents

they will find a suitable match for you.

Hey well although parents are usually right, this matching up business doesn't always work.

My parents matched me up with a boy last year and all the people who we talked to about it beforehand said, he's not very good looking but he's a very good boy, good family, your daughter will be happy there. Now i'm more of a personality person that looks so I didn't mind him being not so good looking and after a 20min conversation with him, i decided after a talk with my parents to go ahead with it.

then a few weeks before we were due to get officially engaged, i was walking home from uni one day and crossing at the traffic lights, his car was stopped at the lights and he was sitting there with some friends, but when he saw me he started to try to hide his face.

Then i started havign serious doubts about this, i thought i don't really know this guy at all, why was he trying to hide from me i don't understand. So i spoke to my brother about this, and being overprotective as they are they got a few of their friends to basically stalk this guy for two days.

Turns out hes got a girlfriend, but becuase shes black he couldn't tell his parents and was going ahead with it only to keep them happy, and wouldve kept his girlfriend on the side. Oh and he also drank alcohol like it's water and according to my brother's friends who followed him to this pub, said he got very aggressive after a few drinks and almost started a fight!

Im so glad i found this out before i ruined my life! I think you need to know the person your marrying becuase it is a LIFE LONG commitment. Not dating, but talking to your proposed life partner is very important!

Oh and another thing we learnt is that when you ask people what so-and-so's son is like they may be lying, like this other guy my parents tried to set me up with. Actually i'm really naive and i spoke to this guy for 2 hours and i thought this guy totally understands me im very happy with this, and then my brothers did a bit of digging (after what happened last time) and found out that this guy smokes pot! he was just very good at pulling the wool over my eyes!

So parents CAN get it wrong!

As for the question of the topic, personally im happy with a 70/30 split on personality and looks! there has to be some physical attraction, but what i find is that, someone who you would say is not very good looking, suddenly seems alot more good looking if they have a really great personality.

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